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to all of you "couples" with the invisible wives 9/1/2006
i just want to say no thank you. i've had enough of the
fake couples. the ones where the wife had surgery and no
longer plays or she says it's ok for me to play along
because she has her friends too even though their profile
states in bold letters WE DO NOT PLAY ALONE.
i'm just grown tired of deceptive people. either you
are a couple or you aren't. now don't get me wrong
i'm not ...
5 Comments, 124 Views,
17 Votes
,6.52 Score
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When I say no I fee guilty!! 9/1/2006
Has this happened to any of you.. you write clearly on your
profile the age limit, the likes and dislikes and always
polite about your request and you still get people who do
not read the profiles!!! I am not the type to get angry but
it upsets me becz I am poilite and like to respond to anyone
who takes the time out of their busy day to wirte.. but come
on people as a standard memeber I ...
2 Comments, 122 Views,
14 Votes
,4.42 Score
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no matter how you try to be respectable....... 8/30/2006
it just doesn't work. i've found when you tell
a majority of the people thanks but we don't seem to
be interested in the same things but good luck on your search, "
they seem to get angry. i've tried the nice approach
and the not respond approach but it doesn't seem to
work. i've tried every thing i could think of but only
rudeness seems to work. one guy got upset because i politely ...
2 Comments, 56 Views,
8 Votes
,5.56 Score
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What is the nicest way to say no to someone 8/28/2006
I have in my profile cleary stating I am not into other race
but Latino or black but yet so many other people e-mail me
or IM me and I tell them I anit into it and they say am harsh
how cant I say it in a nicer way please let me know
Trina
0 Comments, 59 Views,
3 Votes
,1.96 Score
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how do you say 8/25/2006
how do you tell someone you've met on here that you are
just that into them is there an easy way to let someone down
4 Comments, 117 Views,
7 Votes
,3.55 Score
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PLEASE BE CLEAN!!!!! 8/17/2006
The other night we invited this girl we met on here (Her handle
will remain omitted) but lives within 50 miles of us. We
contacted her the usual way...first email, then phone
tag, then we webcammed a little. She is very attractive
and fit. Nice breasts, hard tummy...great butt...the
works. Well we made a date to meet last weekend (Saturday
Night) and she said "ok". We (Dan and  were
soo ...
8 Comments, 323 Views,
20 Votes
,7.34 Score
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Leading someone on 8/17/2006
I feel I have lead this girl on I know, which was something
I never set out to do.She txt's all the time and its starting
to turn into stalker territority.How do I tell her to leave
me alone without having to be really harsh?
1 Comments, 71 Views,
1 Votes
,2.40 Score
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READING FIRST B4 U WRITE TO SOMEONE 8/16/2006
Can anyone tell me WHY ON EARTH folks half ass read your profiles????
If you've taken the time to add things you think folks
should know about you and what you want why in the DEVIL is
it that you STILL GET MAIL from people trying to CHANGE YOUR
MIND or giving you some IDIOTIC RESPONSE because you say
THANX but NO THANX!!!!
What GIVES??????!!!!!!
2 Comments, 31 Views,
2 Votes
,5.20 Score
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Getting out of a bad situation 8/7/2006
What would be the best way of getting around the question
of sex with someone you like, but not that well? I like sex
as much as the next person, but sometimes it's just
not there. there's got to be some kind of chemical reaction
going on. i want to feep this person as a friend. but this
sex thing always gets in the way.
2 Comments, 83 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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NO THANKS 8/7/2006
Ive been on here for a while now and I can relate to alot of
what I have read about having to say no thanks. I set my filter
to weed out the ones that I wouldnt be interested in so that
there are no hurt feelings. BUT, sometimes they DO slip
through the cracks and you get responses from someone thats
just NOT anything close to what your looking for. NOW, My
pet peeve here is that ALOT of ...
4 Comments, 108 Views,
10 Votes
,4.98 Score
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saying no 8/3/2006
its really hard too say no thanks to people when your a nice
person its really really hard
2 Comments, 65 Views,
4 Votes
,2.86 Score
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Not taking No for and answer! 7/29/2006
Have you ever met a couple on here that just want take know
for an answer. We Did. One night anfter a long day we was taking
to a couple on our IM that we had gotten email from a couple
of time off of SEXFinder.com. After a few mins, the male of the couple
ask us to call him on the phone, So we did. While taking he
invited us over. We told him that we had been working all
and need a show and really ...
3 Comments, 195 Views,
8 Votes
,4.87 Score
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no thanks 7/26/2006
how come when we put no single guys on our profile they still
email us a bunch and some of them are the same from when we
emailed back and said no thanks. does no thanks mean please
email us again i think not so please people if you get a no
thanks it means no thanks.
2 Comments, 53 Views,
7 Votes
,4.57 Score
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"Thanks But No Thanks" 7/13/2006
I think the best way to say "thanks, but no thanks"
is letting them know, up front, no games... no bull... just
go.
7 Comments, 173 Views,
10 Votes
,5.77 Score
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Jump in and get wet 7/10/2006
So my wife and I were cruising through the profiles and she
asked me a question that surprised me. We have been swinging
for a few years so her question seemd out of the blue to me.
Her question was "Do people really just meet and fuck?"
Now, if you have been swinging at all, you know that sometimes
you do and sometimes you don't. When we meet or interview
a new couple, we usually meet at a ...
2 Comments, 355 Views,
16 Votes
,4.60 Score
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What's up with the one line e-mails? 7/6/2006
I'm really getting very bored with the SEXFinder.com e-mails.
I hate not responding, but when a guy writes, "Hi,
your hot.. call me.. can't wait to meet" Why should
I even bother. Does he really believe a woman is going to
call him? I know nothing about him. He has no picture on his
profile then writes back stating "I knew you were
a fake and not real" If he is not going to take the time
to write ...
5 Comments, 279 Views,
22 Votes
,7.09 Score
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I just cant say no. 7/5/2006
I met a young lady 18 yrs old in Dec. we were in bed the 2nd day.
I really loved this young girl. About 3 weeks ago her best
friend called me and I just couldnt say no. I fuck her twice,
her friend found out and I regret it I should have just said
NO.
0 Comments, 181 Views,
8 Votes
,1.16 Score
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NO THANKS..........!!!!!!!! 7/4/2006
ya in the club you try dance with the finest women ther..an
she looks at you strange..its no thanks...
if a girl tells you meet her somewhere an you are standing
there 4 hours..its no thanks
if ya over a girls house tryna start sex convo, an she is
constantly changing the subject..its no thanks
if you tell a women you have a big dick b4 you meet her..then
wen she ...
2 Comments, 134 Views,
14 Votes
,0.90 Score
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Ladies, please respond to Emails 7/3/2006
When a guy emails you, you've certainly gotten his
attention. If you aren't interested, give him the
courtesy of a response indicating that. If a guy asked you
to dance in a club, would you just turn around and ignore
him, or would you at least give him an answer. That's
all we are asking for, is just a response. Yes is better of
course, but anything will do, even 'let me think about ...
6 Comments, 152 Views,
16 Votes
,3.27 Score
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Pic VsProfile 6/30/2006
Being new here, I have been quite overwhelmed by the large
number of responses I have gotten. However out of 45 messages
only 3 have bothered to read what im actually after and responded
to that. While flattered, why would people not check the
profile?? If they are not after the same thing, they are
not just going to jump up to meet the person who messages
them so why bother? Do they really ...
6 Comments, 244 Views,
15 Votes
,5.27 Score
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Hmmm 6/22/2006
Having this problem in my life. I have a stable relationship
for the last 1 and a half year. Thing is a couple of girls started
revolving around me and I didn't tell them I had a girlfriend,
for no reason I can think of but I didn't do it. What can
I do cuz telling them would hurt them...I guess.
1 Comments, 59 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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People who get mad 6/19/2006
Heres the story.I put some one on the hotlist.They email
me.I emailed them back.Then they sent another email saying"I
don't think you want us look at our profile again.We
are looking for a female so we can do each other while my husband
watches".I said"I did see your profile and
it says in the beggining we are looking for women, men, couples, group
ect...Not just women.Maybe you guys need ...
1 Comments, 240 Views,
11 Votes
,3.92 Score
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The best way to say no 6/15/2006
The road to Hell is paved with good intentions they say.
When knocking someone back, the best way is to just say No!
Dont add excuses ever, like not my type, or incredibly ignorant
things like race, age, earnings. All these things do is
compound the hurt and in some create complexes.
Just saying a stern no is best, and if pressed for why the
best recourse is because I ...
1 Comments, 63 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Best way 6/14/2006
Whats the best way to say no on this site. It seems I get lots
of emails even when I've told them I'm not interested.
1 Comments, 76 Views,
3 Votes
,2.94 Score
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is it ok for a guy to say no 6/7/2006
sometimes when i come home from work and im tired or agitated
or just dont feel like having sex my girfrien gets pissed
is that ok for her to get pissed or am i being insensative
0 Comments, 30 Views,
2 Votes
,3.81 Score
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courtesey 6/4/2006
Do you think more members should at least reply to an iniatial
contact from somebody
3 Comments, 91 Views,
5 Votes
,3.47 Score
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how difficult is it for you?? 5/29/2006
tell me guys and gals...how do you say, "thanks, but
no thanks" to someone?? is it just that easy?
4 Comments, 201 Views,
7 Votes
,2.79 Score
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A Kind Refusal 5/13/2006
Sometimes it can be difficult for people to let someone
down nicely. For example I found myself being hit on by a
gay man at a bar. I've never had a lot of exposure to gay
men, and I was at a loss as how to let him down easily. How is
a person supposed to know what the right thing to do is when
this sort of thing has never come up before?
1 Comments, 72 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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How can you grt it through to there head? 5/12/2006
I want to know why some guys just don't know when you
stop? I mean come on when a woman says no thanks or i am not
interested what does this tell the guy? Sometimes it like
it tells him to ask more and it really gets on my nerves after
a while and i am not a mean person but i go my limits...t
1 Comments, 36 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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Some Hints About Saying 'No Thanks' 5/5/2006
These are just some ideas from my perspective, they represent
how I would want to be treated, especially if I met someone
in person, and they weren't interested. Take them
or leave them, it's up to you.
Be prompt.Don't leave the person wondering,
tell them right away you are not interested. Yes, the person
is likely to get the hint eventually if you ignore them (some ...
1 Comments, 98 Views,
6 Votes
,5.64 Score
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Why is this so hard? 5/2/2006
You finaly meet this person and then you realize that you
are not interested at all. So now what? You should just tell
him right? Well how do you do that with out sounding like
a b*tch. Now some people don't care if they sound like
a b*tch but i am one of those silly little people who care
about other peoples feelings. Unless I have a real fear
of catching something then i will usually go ...
3 Comments, 187 Views,
17 Votes
,2.70 Score
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mixed messages 4/19/2006
A few days after joining the site I got several messages
in capital letters - 'PLEASE READ THIS XXX' from
a 'clit-lover5'. We had a lot in common so I replied,
he seemed nice, we exchanged and had some
really good conversations and also exchanged some saucy
texts.
I was rather overwhelmed by the intensity of his response
to me - 'I feel we have really connected and I'm
looking ...
4 Comments, 310 Views,
14 Votes
,5.06 Score
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HELP 4/19/2006
is there a polite
way to say that you are not intrested?
0 Comments, 162 Views,
3 Votes
,1.96 Score
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Nah.... 4/9/2006
Should you even really have to say no thanks? Are some people
that clueless?
11 Comments, 450 Views,
32 Votes
,1.18 Score
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Don't go away mad! 4/7/2006
just go away.
I got an e-mail from someone saying just tell me to go away
if you are not interested.Ok I read what the person had to
say and found that I was not interested. i very nicely told
him, I am sorry but at this time you are not what I am looking
for. I wished him well and bid ado. Then i get another e-mail
asking me why I was not interested. Ok I`ll explain. As I
did ...
2 Comments, 266 Views,
19 Votes
,5.76 Score
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When saying no is hard... 3/30/2006
Its hard to hurt someone's feelings and when there
is a mutual agreement to meet there is also usually a mutual
thought in having some desired fun. When you arrive and
you find that the pics you saw are outdated and that things
have started to drop, you get disappointed. Its easy to
hide behind your computer and say "no thanks"
but in the real world it can be very hard on you. We ...
1 Comments, 157 Views,
9 Votes
,4.07 Score
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Glory Hole 3/26/2006
I went to a "peep" adult theatre that had glory
holes. A guy put his dick through the hole and I slapped it
silly with my dick. When he took it back, I put mine through.
He sucked it dry. He then proceeded to put his back through.
I left the booth. Was this the right way to handle saying
no?
1 Comments, 452 Views,
9 Votes
,1.72 Score
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Best way to say thanks, no thanks. 3/26/2006
Ladies, what's the best way to tell someone you are
not interested after you meet them? Email? Phone call?
Another meeting to say it?
3 Comments, 238 Views,
5 Votes
,3.47 Score
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be real 3/25/2006
since being on this sight We have come across a whole lot
of game players. What is so hard with saying not interested
instead of leading people on, when you are the ones making
the first contact. The sight says ADULT friendfinders
not MY SPACE.
2 Comments, 157 Views,
11 Votes
,3.17 Score
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What a asshole 3/23/2006
I was on SEXFinder.com one day and found a guy(dc5r2002) that i had alot
in common with so i email him and within 10 mins i got one back.
we started talking. we talked for
about 2 weeks almost ever day. he live about 1 hour from which
is not that far. He asked if i wanted to hang out to at least
meet. so i argees. we decided to meet at the mall where he
lives. so i went when i got the i wanted for ...
19 Comments, 1919 Views,
99 Votes
,6.29 Score
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What if? 3/23/2006
What if you've already chatted with the person a few
times and even flirted, you're getting along well
and they send a pic of themselves, then you realise you're
not physically attracted to them? You don't want to
let them know it's their appearance that put you off.
3 Comments, 263 Views,
5 Votes
,3.47 Score
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What part of No don't you understand. 3/22/2006
Lately, I've found it very frustrating. I mean, I have
a profile that says no married men, an instant message that
basically says 'hi, thanks for writing but if you are
married or there is no photo, you probably won't get
a response'
Then when someone writes that I am not interested in, I either
send them one of the quick 'no thanks' or a personal
one (depending on the quality ...
5 Comments, 296 Views,
20 Votes
,5.04 Score
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whats up with fisting? 3/19/2006
I'm very curious about people, who are into fisting,
My God, its some times hard to take in a penis, never mind
some ones freaking hand and arm, !! Do women really enjoy
it?, or do they have low self esteem and thats their way to
get and keep a man? And whats wrong with the men that can do
that? Is some thing wrong with their penis? It seems like
that is the ONLY thing, they can get UP is ...
12 Comments, 860 Views,
30 Votes
,4.81 Score
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viagra 3/17/2006
i took one once ......great all night long
1 Comments, 188 Views,
3 Votes
,0.49 Score
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Why is it some women have a hard time simply saying "No Thanks"? 3/12/2006
I find it hard to understand why some women string a guy along
rather than simply stating "No Thanks". In
my opinion, no means no and a polite "No Thanks"
is all that's needed...are women harassed on here
to the point they don't even bother?
1 Comments, 54 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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Why 3/11/2006
Why is it so hard for someone to just tell someone that they
are not interested. Someone emailed me and wanted to meet
so I emailed them back and told them that I would like to.
I have not heard anything else from them. You send out emails
and winks and get nothing and then see them online and it
just leaves you wondering. I don't understand. I would
be nice enough and say no thanks. ...
0 Comments, 50 Views,
8 Votes
,4.17 Score
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How to say No Thankyou 3/7/2006
Some people have ben asking me how do I brack up with someone
with out hurting them in any way shape or form and i tell them
that is imposible if you brack-up with someone they will
be hurt in some way wether you ment to or notyou can only be
true to yourself if you tell them the truth and don't
lie they will under stand.
0 Comments, 21 Views,
0 Votes
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How Is Sex Like Riding A Bicycle? 3/6/2006
1. You have to keep pumping if you want to get anywhere.
2. It's best to wear protective head-gear when going
into unfamiliar territory.
3. You can do it with no hands, but it's best not to try
it until you have a lot of experience.
4. It's easier to learn with the help of someone who
has a lot of experience.
5. You can do it by yourself, but it's usually not ...
1 Comments, 112 Views,
14 Votes
,6.02 Score
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A Breakdown in the "rules" of Social Interaction? 3/6/2006
Humor me if you will; a woman is walking down the street and
she sees an attractive man and greets him with a hello and
a smile. Naturally, society would expect for him to smile
and return the greeting, whether or not he was interested
in getting to know her personally.
In fact, if he failed to acknowledge her greeting, society
would deem his behavior to be impolite at best and ...
9 Comments, 366 Views,
21 Votes
,5.97 Score
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why are people not straight forward? 3/4/2006
why is it people beet around the bush and do not respond when
they send you winks or add you to hotlist? wouldn't
it be better to say no thanks instead of keeping the person
guessing? Or is that what they are after?
1 Comments, 80 Views,
6 Votes
,5.07 Score
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postcode rule 3/3/2006
i am going on holiday soon, with the lads, do i have a bit fun
with the girls out there or should i stay strong and not cheat,
we have not been together long, but dont know how long we
could last?
<br>
What would you do?
0 Comments, 287 Views,
5 Votes
,2.16 Score
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when no thanks means no thanks 2/28/2006
just wanted to say that when you say no thanks its not a personal
attack and therefore do not treat it as such.
1 Comments, 402 Views,
23 Votes
,4.53 Score
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just do it! 2/27/2006
if somebody is not interested, just so no!! sometimes a
person may feel like they are being strung along, and that's
worse than being told no. we send out winks and e-mails on
this site and i would hope that if a person is not interested,
they would say no via message. i think that is common courtesy.
it's worse to be strung along than being told no, we
feel. feelings can get hurt, but ...
4 Comments, 186 Views,
10 Votes
,3.98 Score
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Is it wrong? 2/27/2006
I was just wondering if its too much to say on isn't interested...or
how best to say No thanks to proposals....meet, drink or
even sex....
<br>
how ould u do it?
1 Comments, 154 Views,
3 Votes
,1.96 Score
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Why be rude? 2/24/2006
Has anyone noticed how rude some girls are when they are
looking for another girl in the chat room. If you dont say
women only you are fair game.
1 Comments, 83 Views,
3 Votes
,2.45 Score
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When you come off the wrong way. 2/24/2006
When you get to know one of your girl friends, friends and
she thinks that you really want to get with her. What should
i do?
0 Comments, 143 Views,
3 Votes
,0.49 Score
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Being rejected is better than being ignored. 2/8/2006
Very few things irritate me more than being ignored, which
is why I sometime wonder why I keep coming back to this site.
<br>
I know how to write letters and generally try to respond
to the tone and content of a profile. I'm not rude or
crude, at least I don't think I am. I'm older than
most and not particularly handsome but those are no excuse
for rudeness. Yet only 5 to 10% of ...
4 Comments, 114 Views,
5 Votes
,4.77 Score
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How to say no thanks and still keep a friendship? 2/5/2006
Now in my 30's I think I enjoy the company of women and
appreciate that a lot more than when I was in my 20's.
Nowadays I like to meet women for friendship and go out on
platonic dates, if the spark isn't seriously there
between us. I find that the women I am meeting generally
have a different agenda, to find a bf or partner only.
<br>
Any thoughts? Guys? Rather than girls please ...
0 Comments, 156 Views,
0 Votes
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What do you do when someone you meet oversells themselves? 1/31/2006
Meeting new people on SEXFinder.com is like biting into a piece of chocolate
and not knowing what the filling is inside. You don't
really know what your getting into until you bite into it.
SEXFinder.com is similar as you don't really know what type of
people you'll meet until you actually meet them.
<br>
We had an experience that made us double-think what we were
doing on SEXFinder.com. Our first experience as ...
3 Comments, 193 Views,
7 Votes
,5.33 Score
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Saying "No Thanks" to a wasted girl 1/30/2006
I'm a guy who believes in sex ethics and I reject sex
as a selfish act. I'm a strong drinker, so I don't
get drunk that much, but I have seen quite a couple of wasted
girls whom could have been hooked up for a one night stand.
And yet, I feel it is unfair and I build an empathy instantly.
It is hard to reject a girl after a couple of rounds, but my
conscience just halts me there. I mean, is ...
4 Comments, 146 Views,
2 Votes
,3.81 Score
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WHy do guys make themselves sound soooo desperate? 1/27/2006
WHy do guys make themselves sound soooo desperate? If i
say TY for your time but i dont think me and you will work out
good luck on your search please take it like a man.
Please guys read the profile long and good. RE-read it.
If it goes furter with me giving my e-mail then you might
have a chance but, after we chat if I say "No Thanks"
then take it like a man and say TY for your time and ...
7 Comments, 440 Views,
20 Votes
,5.17 Score
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So is it true 1/27/2006
Now a days sexual harassment is reported alot more than
it used to be. And that is great especially if you truly are
offended and have tried speaking with the person about
it, unless it is extremely overt. My question is simply
is it equally fair for a man to claim sexual harassment.
Or would that be frowned upon.
I have heard of a few cases where the man was actaully harassed
and then ...
1 Comments, 78 Views,
1 Votes
,1.10 Score
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Guys please read 1/27/2006
I don't want to be rude but when I respond to your ad and
say that you are not what I am looking for sending me a picture
of your cock isn't going to make me forget everything
and rush to jump that bad boy.
7 Comments, 419 Views,
9 Votes
,5.35 Score
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All depends on if they can read or not 1/22/2006
If they match the cupid settings that I took the time to fill
out then I respectfully decline, simple no thanks covers
it well. But to be blunt if they are grossly not matching
anything I asked for I don't even respond.
<br>
I know that's rude but at the same time I don't bother
woman who go out of their way to say they want a certain ethinicity
or are honest enough to say I need ...
0 Comments, 117 Views,
7 Votes
,4.82 Score
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I fucking said NO! 1/21/2006
It sucks when u go out with somebody and then they totally
turn on u...I'm talking about in the bedroom...they
turn on u and decide they want to fuck u in the ass...well
anal might b okay for some people...but for me i view my asshole
as an exit only...so if i even feel like my ass might b compromised
i act a fool...tending to scream "wrong hole wrong
hole"...well some men just need to ...
1 Comments, 327 Views,
6 Votes
,3.93 Score
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because it hurts feelings 1/21/2006
We had said no thanks and the next questions is WHY? so now
you have to tell why. why what that you did not want to have
sex with them. same as any place the words are RESPECT OF
OTHERS. why do guys say women don't understand no hell
guys don't understand no either. so who is right and
whos wrong. the ones whom show respect for the other person
and don't keep coming back for more of the ...
1 Comments, 213 Views,
2 Votes
,4.50 Score
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why 1/17/2006
why cant people have the courtsey to at least ansewr someones
e mail and just say no
1 Comments, 102 Views,
8 Votes
,3.48 Score
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Misrepresentation? 1/14/2006
Someone I met on here (platonically) complained about
the number of "players" on this site. Those
that talk the talk but don't walk the walk. I soon learned
what she was referring to. I've lost count of the number
of women who list in their profile that they'd like
to meet: men, 2 men, a man and a woman, 2 women"...hell
a veritable orgy.
<br>
So common sense tells me that if ...
1 Comments, 350 Views,
15 Votes
,5.73 Score
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Trying to get others to understand 1/10/2006
With so many responses and not as much time it is hard to give
drawn out details on why I may say no thank you. With so many
people on this site, one person may say no and the next may
say yes. So once you have received a no thank you response
don't keep emailing new offers or requesting drawn
out details on why it was a no. Everyone here is looking for
specific traits or characteristics in ...
6 Comments, 162 Views,
15 Votes
,2.67 Score
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it really pisses me off 1/8/2006
It pisses me off when not only guys, but guys old enoough
to be my father, email me saying they can turn me on to men.
As if they just glanced at my profile and pics and didn't
read it. Then I tell them, I have my cock, and they say, "Oh,
yeah, a rubber one?" NO ASS! Ignorance and stupidity
are just things I can't seem to get a grasp on tolerance
for.
0 Comments, 564 Views,
14 Votes
,4.58 Score
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No means no 1/4/2006
Fellas out thier. If your at a party or somthing and a ladie
tells you no once stop right thier. If you continue they
could get you with . Times have changed be careful.
1 Comments, 133 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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how afraid are we? 1/3/2006
I was just wondering how saying NO THANKS is a bad thing?
At least you get a answer and not strung along.
3 Comments, 273 Views,
4 Votes
,5.57 Score
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If you got it , and you flaunt it. Accept it . 12/25/2005
Ok, i see it this way, If someone out there is showing the
jewels to the whole world, and say someone of the oppsite
sex gives their 2 cents on that object. Chuck it up and swallow
it hard, since GUYS are HORNY more than woman, and Im sure
guys Beat out the women 2 to one so, If you got a nice cock,
Ill be the first to let you know how nice it is
2 Comments, 64 Views,
2 Votes
,0.34 Score
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Please... 12/23/2005
I wish women on this site would reply to e-mails with a "no
thanks" if they are truly not interested. Instead,
many of them tend to simply dismiss the e-mails and leave
the guys to sit around wondering.
4 Comments, 181 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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When on the rag? 12/22/2005
How do you feel about having sex while the female is on her
period (on the rag)? Post away...
5 Comments, 351 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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saying no 12/21/2005
when you meet someone you are not sexually attracted to
the best response to them is we would love to have another
dinner date.
1 Comments, 219 Views,
12 Votes
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Real Profiles/Game Players & Fake People 12/19/2005
It's pretty ironic that women on here and or in general
pretty much demand courtesy and respect from us men. No
woman wants to hear in their initial email "Hey nice
ass or Tits, when can we fuck?" or "I have a large
cock, when can we meet?" To most those lines will get
you nowhere here or elsewhere, but for the occasional males
out there like myself that are courteous and respectful
seems ...
6 Comments, 271 Views,
16 Votes
,6.80 Score
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Is it that hard 12/15/2005
To many times I have sent E-mails to women and then never
heard from them. Is it that hard to write back and say that
you're not interested. I mean lets have a little bit
of repect for each other. No one here wants to waste time
with someone who is not interested in them. So just save
everyone some time and just say it, "No Thanks".
0 Comments, 131 Views,
3 Votes
,3.92 Score
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Why can I say no without getting hasseled 12/8/2005
My profile sum everything up. I am a very picky person and
if I say no to someone they get all bent out of shape, why is
that? I have standards just the same as everyone else. I
love sex and I love the feeling of making love to someone
special, I don't want just casual sex with anyone.
It would be nice to say no and the other person without the
hassel. I have had sex with a few people on ...
4 Comments, 493 Views,
20 Votes
,3.89 Score
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What is a good way to say NO? 12/3/2005
I have had some guys come on to me that worked for my husband
I said no but they still would not stop the flirting so my
husband handled it for me he was in the Military at the time...
How would you have delt with it?
1 Comments, 121 Views,
6 Votes
,1.66 Score
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how to say no thanks? 12/1/2005
when I don't want to be with a woman is there a polite
way to let her know without pissing her off or making her
feel bad, not unwanted, just no sex?
2 Comments, 212 Views,
4 Votes
,2.08 Score
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How do you tell someone you like to chat with not phsycial? 12/1/2005
Just curious for thoughts and ideas...
2 Comments, 102 Views,
2 Votes
,1.04 Score
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Just Say No 11/29/2005
When will guys learn...no means no? They're giving
us a bad rep out there!
2 Comments, 95 Views,
7 Votes
,4.06 Score
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Wouldn't It BE Nice 11/24/2005
Women on these dating sites write all kind of things. they
write they want sex and love, friendship. so i write them.
now this i think is an adult site. the words i read on here
are not ment for neither are the pic.i may say in
a letter hello i would enjoy having sex with you as you said
in your profile. here is the answer i get from them. get lost
you sob you will die alone. one wrote me ...
5 Comments, 293 Views,
14 Votes
,2.82 Score
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What is the best way to let someone down on SEXFinder.com? 11/21/2005
I would say be upfront. You should write, "Sorry,
don't mean to be to tough, but you are not my type."
1 Comments, 233 Views,
10 Votes
,2.19 Score
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at least say something 11/11/2005
If someone takes the time to acknowledge you, the courteous
thing to do would be to at least respond that you are not interested.
Or if a standard member winks at you and you are silver or
gold member, why just wink back? If you are interested send
them an email- obviously they just winked because they
can't email you first and are interested in you. So
if you don't send them an email they ...
0 Comments, 248 Views,
16 Votes
,6.07 Score
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Why Wink?? 11/9/2005
When people wink we like to respond with an email thanking
them for the wink, telling them a little about us and inquiring
if they want to get to know each other. On more than one occasion
that email has gone unanswered.
Is it something we are doing wrong by responding with an
email or a better question is why wink if you not going to
follow up even if it's with a no thank you?
3 Comments, 319 Views,
10 Votes
,4.58 Score
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Courtesy vs. Being an ass when you are turned down by someone. 11/6/2005
OK - Let's pause for a moment to thank God that some people
have the grace to bow out and not take offense when someone
rejects them.
<br>
That being said... What is with these people that freak
out on you, spouting "I'm better than blah blah
blah" "Gimme a chance" "Looks aren't
everything" etc etc etc
<br>
Give me a break! If I turned you down and stated, you aren't
my ...
4 Comments, 287 Views,
15 Votes
,5.27 Score
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Do I just come out and say 11/3/2005
We have been talking to a couple and they seem very nice but
they are not what we are looking for. My husband has never
been a big fan for BIG tits and she has like DD I would like
to go out for a drink to get to know them but I don't think
he will be going for the sex. I myself like sex so much I am
willing to grab some tits that are bigger than just a B. (thats
all I am) How can I talk ...
0 Comments, 199 Views,
6 Votes
,4.22 Score
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Your Not My Type? 11/2/2005
OK so as we all well know the male to female ratio is way off
on this site!!! It's like a Sausage Fest on here! That
being said me being a fairly attractive young female you
can imagine I get quite a few responses and most of them completing
disregard my preferrences completely I don't ant
to be mean but when I view a guys profile and I see they don't
like something about me I move on ...
6 Comments, 473 Views,
13 Votes
,4.99 Score
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why do women and men not read 10/31/2005
one has to wonder about this. profile says no anal. why ask?
says we play together why ask for him or her toplay alone?
why is the respect in that where is the trustin all of this.
lets see if some can answer this one. you e-mail some one
and they pull up your profile to find perfer not to say on
every thing come on you want to play give some information
to go on.
1 Comments, 71 Views,
3 Votes
,2.94 Score
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This is good 10/31/2005
The only thing a man is going to say no thanks to is fat women
6 Comments, 313 Views,
20 Votes
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Would you join a group... 10/31/2005
Dear SEXFinder.com members;
<br>
How many of you would be willing to join a discussion group,
where the membership requirements are. That you must be
willing to go with a current group member or the group’s
moderator, for free and anonymous HIV testing (say within
thirty 30 days from joining the group) and share your test
results with each other to prove that you are both HIV ...
0 Comments, 227 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Is it so hard to say your not interested? 10/29/2005
For the past few weeks i've been sending out emails
to a select group of women, that match my cupid settimgs.
A few send a response back and we have chatted, but the rest
of them do not send anything back, but keep viewing my profile
daily. In my emails I ask them to send a response either way,
most don't. I thought we are all adults on this site,
but I'm beginning to think there are more ...
4 Comments, 318 Views,
9 Votes
,3.85 Score
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A response to 'Alikh69' 10/25/2005
<initial message>
Me and my girl might be interested. We need to see good face
pics of both of you and his basic body pic. You can see us at
'hotpintsize' here on SEXFinder.com... Hope to hear from
you...
<br>
D & S ('rockhardbull')
<br>
<response>
Hi D&S,
Thanks for the invitation. As you can see from our profile,
we are extremely selective in our social and ...
2 Comments, 92 Views,
0 Votes
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Is there anybody out there besides me that actually bothers to say no thanks? 10/24/2005
I seriously wonder if I am the only person who takes the time
to send a no thanks to someone who doesn't match what
I'm searching for. If you spend the time trying to write
a well thought out and appropriate hello to someone, and
they are not interested, how hard is it to just write no thanks?
It is really upsetting to get ignored. Hey, SEXFinder.com even makes
it easy for you, there is a huge list ...
2 Comments, 164 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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why say no 10/19/2005
why say no when you can say yes and have fun its just haveing
sex its not like your going to marry them
2 Comments, 225 Views,
8 Votes
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Want them to reply? Be different.. 9/27/2005
It's a woman's world here..plain n simple..it
is what it is and you can't change it, so you have to figure
out how to make it work for you. Unfortunantly, there are
women who use that as an excuse to be bitchy and men who use
it as an excuse to be bitter. Both of THEM lose in my opinion..but
so do the rest of us cuz they pollute the pool! Both sides
need to knock it off but here's some ...
4 Comments, 457 Views,
46 Votes
,8.18 Score
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A LITTLE KNOW SECRET ABOUT AVOIDING MEMBERS OF NON - INTEREST 9/24/2005
Ok, I'm a guy on this site. When I see a email in my inbox
I become a bit giddy. Unfortunately, some of these emails
are from members I wouldn't want in bed.
Then one I was fooling around with my 'account settings'
and found a way to Block emails from unwanted members.
<br>
>Click *My Account* located on the top of the page.
<br>
>Find *Preferences*, ...
1 Comments, 888 Views,
25 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Guys - what do you think? 9/15/2005
Okay, you've waded through and found a good one. But,
when you get in person, they don't look like the pic
they gave you. I don't mean the old, "Here's
my cheerleading picture in HS." I mean, someone who
has let themselves go a bit from just a few months...What
are your best getaways?
2 Comments, 622 Views,
14 Votes
,3.94 Score
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I have a headache........ 9/14/2005
We've experienced several meetings where the couple
had not been honest on their profile, pictures and/or emails
(need I say more?). My hubby, being as rude as usual, says
we should just leave, while I on the other hand think we should
dance around our disappointment so as to not hurt their
feelings. Both reasons have merrit, but so far hubby has
won out and we have just left. Any ...
3 Comments, 328 Views,
9 Votes
,4.07 Score
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Turned down and loving it 9/9/2005
Sometimes its best to get turned down on sites like these.
With all the possibilities out there its nice that people
narrow down you options for you.
1 Comments, 115 Views,
7 Votes
,3.04 Score
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how to accept when otheres sy "no thanks" 9/9/2005
i am always in a worry when others say no thanks. it reduces
sme confidence in myself. other problem is when someone
doesnt respond atall. so how to deal with this problem.
can anyone give some advice. maybe its because i am new to
this all. anyway advices welcome.
3 Comments, 259 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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IF THE DICK IS LITTLE LET HIM KNOW!!!!!!!!!! 8/30/2005
I REALLY DO BELIVE THAT WOMEN NEED TO STOP TELLING THESE
MEN THE TRUTH.WHAT I MEAN IS IF THEY GOT A LITTLE DICK, IF
THEY CAN'T EAT PUSSY, IF THEY CAN'T FUCK TELL THEM.
THERE IS NO REASON FOR A MAN TO THINK THAT HE IS DOING SOMETHING
GOOD WHEN HE IS DOING NOTHING AT ALL. THATS NOT FAIR TO THE
MAN OR THE NEXT WOMAN THAT HAS HIM AFTER U. JUST THINK ABOUT
IT AS A GOOD DEED FOR THE PUBLIC, ...
7 Comments, 684 Views,
27 Votes
,3.24 Score
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When no matter how you say it, it wasn't good enough 8/30/2005
Thought I would relate a quick story to you regarding having
to say no thnks, and having it get ugly. Real ugly.
So, I attend a meeting of some people looking "for
a good time" and am immediatley attracted to a brunette
with a great rack. she had beautiful eyes and smile and I
was quite taken. As the evening goes on, we begin to flirt
and I can tell that she is taken with me as well. ...
5 Comments, 516 Views,
13 Votes
,3.48 Score
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wish women were more upfront 8/27/2005
Just took a class on human sexuality, and found that the
girls couldnt believe that guys dont get the "subtle
hints" they drop on us if they arent interested. I
wish they'd just say so! Wouldnt hurt my feelings (pride,
maybe!). I say out with the games and gimmics - let us know,
it'll make life easier for the both!! Aloha
2 Comments, 200 Views,
10 Votes
,4.58 Score
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No has never meant YES 8/26/2005
Whilst chatting in the rooms, I have noticed that a few ppl
are impolite when told NO. They don't like to be told
NO and they hope that if they persist, they will get you to
change your mind.
<br>
Well it won't. NO means NO, not maybe, or I'll think
about it, or keep trying and i'll then say yes. NO basically
means NO in whichever language you want.
If you persist, you may get ...
1 Comments, 80 Views,
2 Votes
,3.12 Score
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Why is it that most men can't take no for a answer? 8/22/2005
We have been a member on here for a while. In our profile it
states that we are a couple looking for a couple or a bi female.
So why is it that most single men can't take no for a answer
and still manage to send messeges to you thinking that you
are a single female? We are happily married and aren't
looking for a single male yet we receive so many messeges
from single men all the time. Do ...
3 Comments, 186 Views,
9 Votes
,4.28 Score
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Why can't older men realize age limits. 8/18/2005
I have only been a member for a short period of time, and within
that time, i have had alot of older men try to hook up with
me and my bf. Pay attention to age limits people. It sucks
to tell someone that they are too old, and that you aren't
interested. And it sucks even more when they think just
because they are older means they can please me. You know
a way you can please me, respect ...
12 Comments, 766 Views,
31 Votes
,4.77 Score
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no 8/17/2005
no means no and every one should understand that and follow
it
0 Comments, 85 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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Help 8/17/2005
I met a girl in person after a few weeks of chatting on-line.
We got along very well, but when we met in person, she didn't
look anything like the picture she sent. I was very turned
off when I saw her. I wanted to leave, but I didn't want
to be rude. Any advice for getting out of this type of situation?
8 Comments, 503 Views,
11 Votes
,4.85 Score
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420 abuse on SEXFinder.com! 8/16/2005
recent;y i was directed by the adult freindfinder staff
to cease and desist any or all references to drug use in my
profile ! i complied(underderess)to the (demand)request!i
was under the impression that this was an "ADULT"
dating site and that a offended party could and would pass
me up for sumthing more suited to their taste ... but as we ...
5 Comments, 594 Views,
41 Votes
,3.78 Score
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Is it possible? 8/14/2005
Have you ever been in that situation? You know, where you
just really don't want to go into anything and your
partner does?
<br>
What is the easiest way for you to break the news?
0 Comments, 169 Views,
6 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Have you ever turned down sex with someone really attractive 8/13/2005
Do you ever find yourself looking back on life's choices
and saying what was I thinking? I find myself in that situation
almost daily. I can remember back to my teens when a really
hot girl wanted to have sex with me so bad she at some points
begged. The only reason I couldn't do it is because
she was engaged. At the time I could only think what if I was
that guy. I would be furious ...
1 Comments, 264 Views,
13 Votes
,3.65 Score
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the sea is full of fish! 8/8/2005
it is o.k. to say no thanks to a propisition.
If someone says no or isn't ready for a relationship, respect
their right to say no.
it isn't just men who can't take no for an answer.
so all you ladies respect the right of men, because we have
feelings too.
1 Comments, 340 Views,
10 Votes
,4.58 Score
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New to SEXFinder.com! 8/6/2005
Well, hello friends would like to start by saying this is
our first week on SEXFinder.com & the response we've gotten
is absolutely "GREAT"!! The people are very
friendly, polite, & sexy! Looking forward to that
first meeting with the guy of our choice & then hopefully
moving on to my first experiance with female or couple, whichever
cumms first!This cumming week should be very interesting
as we do ...
1 Comments, 207 Views,
11 Votes
,3.35 Score
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I'm cool about it... 8/3/2005
I usually reply and I'm always nice about it if they're
not right for me. I just say 'Hi & thanks for the
interest.' It makes me happy that someone took a look
at my profile and liked what they saw.
0 Comments, 58 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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Ladies, are you tired of the 8/2/2005
Maybe it is just me, but every time I write to a fellow it seems
he is quick to go to the "if you are for real" card.
For example, "if you are for real, e-mail me at xxxxxxx,
or IM me tonight".
Personally, I find this insulting, fellas. Maybe some
people are not "for real" on this site and you
are just reacting habitually in that fashion. You should
think first, though, before saying ...
8 Comments, 414 Views,
23 Votes
,4.41 Score
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Just Say It 7/27/2005
Unfortunately not everyone clicks ... sometimes the chemistry
is not there for one or the other. Just be honest and say it.
You can do it in a nice way .. something like .. "I think
your terrific but the chemistry isn't there"
.. some will take it good and some will get nasty. I am considered
a MILF because of my age and the way I look, so I get hit on alot
by younger guys. Now, I have no ...
8 Comments, 379 Views,
14 Votes
,5.70 Score
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Is there a proper way 7/24/2005
After chatting, meet and greet or whichever way you meet
and you don't feel a "connection" but they
do....how do you tell him, her or them that it just isn't
there?
1 Comments, 173 Views,
5 Votes
,1.51 Score
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In All Sincerity! 7/22/2005
Please read the person's profile, if possible. You
may not fit what they're seeking. Why place a person
in the postion of saying no thank you, if you are not what
they seek.
<br>
<br>
I am real and have my wants and limitations posted, so if
you disregard what I'm seeking, than why should I be
obligated to send you a response.
<br>
<br>
But anyway, ...
1 Comments, 291 Views,
19 Votes
,6.29 Score
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men are eager, women are not 7/21/2005
I did a little survey on SEXFinder.com. I wrote that I was gay and got
bombarded by responses from men. Willing to do anything
and meet anywhere. Women on the other hand, want to correspond
with you. Get to know you. What's up with that?
<br>
Yes, all men are whores but women act refine and yet want
the same things. For men, they get right to the punch line
without asking for much in ...
2 Comments, 135 Views,
7 Votes
,1.77 Score
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To be mean or not to be mean?? 7/18/2005
Why don't men understand that when we don't reply...it's
because we don't want to be mean!! If we reply and say
"Thanks, but no thanks" or "Sorry, not
interested", it makes us feel like we are being mean.
When we delete your profile and forget it was there, it's
just our little way of not even coming close to getting your
hopes up at all. I am sorry guys, but i am sick of the reply
that ...
5 Comments, 288 Views,
11 Votes
,2.98 Score
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Top Ten women's replys to Men that cannot comprehend that women are what you seek: 7/17/2005
The Top Ten women's replys to Men that cannot comprehend
that women are what you seek are:
<br>
10. Thanks for the invite ... however, I am looking for chicks
without dicks.
<br>
9. I would not let my sniff your ass.
<br>
8. What part of NO MEN did you not understand
<br>
7. While your tits may be a D cup, you do not have the right
equipment below
...
2 Comments, 361 Views,
35 Votes
,2.45 Score
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When to say no. 7/17/2005
I have found that is is best to tell the other person things
are not going to work out when serious doubts and problems
arise. I feel this is the best time, it avoids wasting both
of our time.
1 Comments, 120 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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which one am I......... 7/15/2005
honestly, I beleive that I am a nice person. So, I am trying
to figure out which one I am... a bitch or a .Reason
for asking this when I say no to someone on SEXFinder.com they seem to
think I am being nasty to just them. When actually my mate
has a say in whom I choose for us.I beleive in his instincts, there
for if I do not choose someone it is because Iam being careful
not either of the above , ...
0 Comments, 191 Views,
12 Votes
,3.86 Score
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Is it me or,, 7/10/2005
The people who have profile pics getting fucked are genreally
the ones that say "must be D&D free" or "D&D
free a must" but they're not using protection!?!
What's the deal with that? To that I say, No thanks...
2 Comments, 129 Views,
6 Votes
,3.08 Score
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pubic hair 7/10/2005
Is there anyone else that is getting tired of completly
shaved females? I miss landing strips!! I find it some much
sexier to have a small patch of hair to nuzzle my nose against,
I'm not opposed to hard wood floors nice for a change
for for the every day give me an arrow, heart, love patch
whatever you wanna name it! DO find untamed wollies to bit
a bit of a turn off. I'm I the only one ...
4 Comments, 169 Views,
5 Votes
,5.10 Score
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please be polite 7/9/2005
I relieze that I am the major majority here single male looking
for almost anything, but it irkes me when I send someone
an email with pic and a little blurb about me and get no response,
if your not interested I can handle just say thanx for showing
interest but your not what we want, promblem solved.
1 Comments, 66 Views,
2 Votes
,3.81 Score
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How much is too much? 7/7/2005
Okay ladies, this one is for you. We hear it all the time.
We "never" reply to guys emails. But out of all
the hundreds we get. How can we afford the time to reply?
Not all of us can. But yet some of us auto reply. In an attempt
to be even minutly polite. Still some guys just can NOT take
a hint. So what do you do in these situations? Do you just
put them on ignore, or do you continue to ...
6 Comments, 422 Views,
16 Votes
,4.30 Score
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oz chicks are harder 7/6/2005
In my experience in this world it is quite clear to me that
it would be harder to get a root from an Australian chick
rather from an American chick. With respect to all you lovely
American ladies but i think you are more liberated than
ours.
0 Comments, 149 Views,
3 Votes
,2.45 Score
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Say what you mean!! 7/1/2005
Are there still people out there who know how to say what
they mean and be tactful? I have to ask because it seems like
most people I have had any contact with in this site say they
want to meet but never get back to set anything up. Most of
these contacted me first, but as soon as I agree to meet,
they disappear. If you change your mind why not just have
the courtesy and courage to let the ...
2 Comments, 95 Views,
10 Votes
,5.18 Score
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After you have met with someone for sex... 7/1/2005
Saying 'No Thanks' after you have already met
and had sex is difficult (I think). You don't want to
hurt their feelings, but you also don't really ever
want to see them again.
<br>
Maybe they just want to be friends. I just want to meet, fuck,
and if it was good do it again and again. But, if it was not
good, then I don't want to bother or be bothered by that
person again.
...
2 Comments, 183 Views,
10 Votes
,1.59 Score
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Best way 6/28/2005
How do you tell someone you don't find them sexually
attractive without loosing the friend parts? Should I
be straightforeward, or what?
1 Comments, 95 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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Turn Downs 6/28/2005
I have received a few offers from members who i am not attracted
to, what is the best way to tell them no thanks?
1 Comments, 81 Views,
1 Votes
,2.40 Score
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If your not interested then your not interested 6/27/2005
I get a lot of emails and invites almost every day, being
the new person I try to be as kind and gentle and honest as
I can . keeping in mind others feelings. Ive had to post this
reply to quite a few people and I dont feel that I was rude
in any way..
<br>
" Thank you for taking the time to write me & your
interest in me and your nice comments and compliments but
I feel I must ...
2 Comments, 547 Views,
45 Votes
,7.76 Score
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Be truthfull 6/23/2005
I found out the hard way that it is really important to be
truthful when swinging. My wife and I experienced our first
swinging experience recently. She was uncomfortable
with what she saw me doing with the other woman, but she never
said anything until we got home. I proceeded to argues with
her that she should have said something while we were doing
it, but because she didn't I continued ...
3 Comments, 306 Views,
8 Votes
,1.86 Score
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Saying no can be so hard 6/23/2005
We once met a woman that we had been talking to for 4 or 5 months.
She showed up at the bar with a dozen yellow roses for me which
blew my mind because discreetness was something we had
discussed and I had never been with a woman before. It turned
out she was not the right one, and I know her feelings were
hurt and she did not want to take no for an answer. For months
she would change her ...
0 Comments, 210 Views,
7 Votes
,2.53 Score
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Saying no nicely 6/22/2005
We are very picky in who we even consider meeting, much less
playing with. Does anyone else have a hard time making someone
understand that you're not interested in meeting,
no means no????????
3 Comments, 159 Views,
5 Votes
,0.86 Score
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What do people want really? 6/22/2005
After talking to this couple for a bit they finally sent
pics, and unfortunately the wife was hot and the husband
not so much...I don't know about anyone else but I have
to say that if there isn't any physical attraction
then it isn't gonna work...we believe in friendship
first but there still has to be some attraction for things
to progress further. Anyways, we tried letting the couple ...
1 Comments, 272 Views,
10 Votes
,4.18 Score
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no thanks? 6/21/2005
when your not interested just say no thanks or not interested.
why irgnore people? thats not really an asnwer, just a cowards
way out.
just say no, i dont know why its so difficult.
0 Comments, 59 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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Correctness and Cooth 6/16/2005
Come on folks, lets get real bout this -- if you dont get a
reply then end it -- if she/he says aaaaa no dont think it
will happen, then move on -- gesh this is a no brainer here
!!! -- i can take a hint at lest and i agree -- no means no period
!!! drop it and move on --- oooo and my profile is very real
here !!
1 Comments, 127 Views,
9 Votes
,2.57 Score
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breaking it gently 6/15/2005
So you meet someone on this site, hit it off in e-mails, their
picture looks good, but when you meet there is just no attraction
at all. If you really don't want to go through with it,
how do you say you changed your mind with the least amount
of hurt feelings of rejection?
5 Comments, 262 Views,
13 Votes
,2.81 Score
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How to say no thanks to a sexy lady 6/10/2005
I met a really nice lady on here a couple weeks ago, and she
is very attractive, but I'm not ready to just jump into
sex. How do ya say...no thanks, or better...how bout not
yet?
<br>
Thanks
2 Comments, 242 Views,
6 Votes
,3.08 Score
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What are you thinking? 6/8/2005
When a person has plainly stated in her profile that they
are not here to meet someone.. Not here to phone someone
.. Yet they get email after email from men claiming to love
what was said in the profile. Wanna meet? Here is my number,
call me.
So, do I have to say No Thank You. Or just click delete?
22 Comments, 546 Views,
37 Votes
,6.03 Score
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for the ladies 6/7/2005
if you get a lot of mil you should have an auto reply turned
on!!!!!
1 Comments, 71 Views,
4 Votes
,2.47 Score
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Keep It Simple 6/5/2005
My rule is simple. Never have a first meeting with the intention
or promise of having sex. I like to meet for coffee, a drink,
walk in the park, or whatever. Even though I am looking for
casual sex with no committment, I still like that first
"date" to decide if this feels right. Some people
may sound perfect for you but when you meet - there is no attraction.
And before that first ...
1 Comments, 84 Views,
9 Votes
,3.64 Score
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When no means no 6/1/2005
How polite can someone be when you keep gettind e-mails
from someone that you replied back "no thank you"
I tried using the block e-mail but sometimes that does not
always work. What I am looking for if there is anybody else
having same issues and how have you handled them. Thank
you
2 Comments, 76 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Women, ever been told 5/30/2005
I would never refuse a blowjob, but any of you women ever
offered one and been refused?
2 Comments, 234 Views,
11 Votes
,0.92 Score
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No Power at Power Exchange SF 5/30/2005
OKay sexual world, sexplorers, Play-coniseures... I
am just arriving from Rhe Power Exchange, yes! the little
dungeon on Otis in San Fran.
Well, tonight I just experienced the very real DISCRIMINATION.
<br>
As an openly sexual person, I and some of my friends, both
male and female have visited the uniquely weird and exciting
place of the power exchange. I actually like to ...
1 Comments, 144 Views,
10 Votes
,0.20 Score
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Liars 5/27/2005
I came across many people in SEXFinder.com that have
pics of fine lookin' woman in their profiles, and end
up to be man... what is up with that... I believe that if you're
trying to be honest... be honest to yourself first and see
who wants to meet you for who you are not for who you pretend
to be.
1 Comments, 112 Views,
9 Votes
,3.64 Score
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How do it nicely 5/26/2005
I was just wondering, how do you say no thankyou nicely.
<br>
Well i have come to the conclusion you cannot say no to anyone
on this site.
So there has to be a way for someone to help me figure it out.
If you would be so willing to help me please let me know.
1 Comments, 130 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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Is there a proper way to respond? 5/21/2005
We wanted to get other opinions on the proper etiquette
for responding to unsolicited emails. In our profile we
state we are looking for a woman, or couple. However, we
receive many
emails from single men. Therefore, we consider those emails,
voluntary, and we delete them. We believe that no reply
is necessary because the email came from someone not fitting
our search criteria. ...
1 Comments, 132 Views,
9 Votes
,4.28 Score
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Taking ownership.....when NO is clearly stated. 5/21/2005
One could speculate that a social dullard or a person with
a super-inflated ego may quickly suppress the pain or frustration
of a perceived rejection and either go into denial and keep
trying to make contact or lash out in various ways.
Let's acknowledge that rejection on any level never
feels good. Unfortunately, not every person is emotionally
mature enough to take ownership of their ...
0 Comments, 93 Views,
6 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Clubs? 5/20/2005
How do you let a couple at a club know that you like them and
are cool being friends, but you are not gonna hook up with
them sexually?
0 Comments, 156 Views,
10 Votes
,2.59 Score
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how? 5/20/2005
my first time i met someone online in real life i cant say
i was as attracted to her. her photos were kind of....deceiving.
but she had traveled a long way, and we had already committed
to it, so of course we had sex. damn good sex, i might add.
i guess my question is how would one not be put in that situation
a second time? short of abstaining from online contacts?
3 Comments, 320 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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The silent treatment 5/20/2005
This site must have been invented by a woman. Containing,
as it does, members in a ratio of approximately ten men to
every woman, it seems to have been specifically designed
to give women an inflated sense of their own self-worth.
One might even think of prescribing it for depressives
with image problems, so abundant would the attention and
compliments be for anyone vaguely feminine with a ...
1 Comments, 210 Views,
18 Votes
,3.40 Score
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Difficult situations 5/16/2005
Does anyone have any advise or stoies around meeting and
beng dissapointed with thier meet, what did you do to get
out of this or was it uncomfortable so you went along with
the ride anyway.
<br>
On a serious note is it more uncomfortable saying NO thanks
once youve met or worse once youve stripped off? Good to
hear anyones advise to this: Is it better to arrange coffee
and set no ...
1 Comments, 103 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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Reply 5/15/2005
It would be nice if the advertisers you wrote to would at
least send you a reply of no thanks or something similar.In
my experience you don't even get that, its only polite.
0 Comments, 85 Views,
2 Votes
,3.12 Score
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How can I make my profile more appealing and still keep dignity? 5/13/2005
I am a small buisness owner located in OK. Descretion is
a must for me. The wife and I would like to meet a man, woman
or perhaps a couple to share some good times with. We arent
looking for 100 people just 2 for some good times. I dont
post the wife on the profile so that we can be a little descreet
but I barely get any hits at all.
<br>
What can I do to make my profile more ...
1 Comments, 249 Views,
9 Votes
,1.93 Score
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Help 5/12/2005
Why is it that people (not all but many)go through the trouble
of contacting you, making arrangements to meet and when
you meet they arent who they pretend to be. People give a
lot of B.S.and then get upset when you say sorry not interested
or no thanks you arent the same people you said you were,
then
they get pissed at you but they are the ones who lied from
the start. This happens ...
1 Comments, 190 Views,
4 Votes
,2.86 Score
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shifting... 5/6/2005
Gliding the shifter from one gear to the next, I intently
listen to the fascinating chant on the radio. Flying by
the I17 parking lot as if I was in a plane. Catching every
emerging obeject darting towards me and letting the subcompact
know with a blaring gloat. Then something awakes me...
a whistle a chaotic duo yelling at me. I turn and face the
ignorance then lips puckering starts... ...
2 Comments, 94 Views,
11 Votes
,0.18 Score
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I know what no replies mean 5/5/2005
I have read many people here talk down to and critize people
who are non paying members, as if we were some kind of lower
class citizens. My reply to those holyer-than-thou members
who think of us as scum, just know that in the past some of
us have paid to be a member on sites like this one. We have
paid to send winks, messages and added people to our hotlist
only to have 99% of them not ...
3 Comments, 184 Views,
25 Votes
,6.23 Score
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whats up with that 5/3/2005
I know that this site is for swingers.. Swinging doesnt
mean "who gives a f**k".
I was interested in this group. Then I saw pictures of the
party, I became appauled(but not to quickly to judge).
I decided to talk to the groups moderator. I asked about
condoms...he said they were optional..Why in all the pics
I saw the girls only eating each other out, and guys getting
it all? He says the ...
2 Comments, 264 Views,
15 Votes
,6.19 Score
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No hard feelings 4/27/2005
I recently started to see an old girlfriend again , and since
we haven't dated in a while I've made some new friends
and have been enjoying my extra free , fun time, ,, and
don't think I'm ready to give it up for her right
now.
Can I handle this gently, without stringing her along.
0 Comments, 121 Views,
9 Votes
,2.57 Score
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F$@k off u TROLL!!!! 4/26/2005
Reader's can you please help me to understand ....
Every friday night for the past year, I have had to work at
a hometown gay club, (Babies rent was due P). Ladies
and gent's that is not the strangest part.... See evry
fri. I am there, this like 60yo troll man has approached
me in a very rude and vulgar manner. Propositioning me for
sexual favors, and very nasty in his speech and body ...
0 Comments, 388 Views,
22 Votes
,3.37 Score
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Why do people make things so difficult? 4/25/2005
I had a friend that is lesbian, and knows that I am bisexual,
which is not something that I hide nor really broadcast!
But here is the issue, she had been making comments about
getting me into bed, atfirst I made no comment to her about
how uncomfortable she made when she made her remarks (perhaps
that was my mistake, but then the comments kept comming
and began to be more graphic and ...
1 Comments, 241 Views,
9 Votes
,4.49 Score
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Be specific, dont sugar coat it! 4/22/2005
When saying "No", be very specific and direct.
That doesn't mean you can't be polite or considerate.
<br>
Just don't try to be too considerate and end up sending
mixed signals. Mixed signals lead to hope. Hope that maybe
he or she will change their mind. Hope that maybe if I change
he or she will now say yes.
<br>
So be specific and direct and your "No" should
be ...
1 Comments, 104 Views,
8 Votes
,5.10 Score
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question for the ladies 4/18/2005
As a guy I always find it very awkward when a female wants
to meet with me but I don't want to meet with her. I guess
this is because guys are viewed as always wanting it, so
rejection from a guy is much harder to take. Would you prefer
a guy be blunt and honest that you aren't his type or
would you prefer some other excuse or white lie?
3 Comments, 263 Views,
5 Votes
,1.84 Score
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Why lots dont say no thanks 4/12/2005
I think a good part of the reason lots of people dont say no
thanks is because they dont feel like taking the time to
respond to every email. If they are getting a bunch of emails
you probably feel that you deserve a response and in some
ways maybe you do and the polite thing to do would be to respond.
Though in some ways you have to look at it as a. were you what
they were looking for in ...
2 Comments, 202 Views,
24 Votes
,3.58 Score
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The other side of the coin - Being TOLD "No Thanks" 4/11/2005
It's happened to me ALL TOO OFTEN!
<br>
"Däv, you're a really nice guy, BUT..."
<br>
And then comes the random excuse... (I'm not looking
to be with a guy at the moment, I see you as just a friend not
anything more, I have to wash my hair this week so I can't
go out with you, whatever other reason comes out)
<br>
I'm not trying to whinge too much, but I've ...
2 Comments, 180 Views,
4 Votes
,2.86 Score
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To respond or not to respond? 4/4/2005
I wanted to get other opinions on the proper etiquette for
responding to unsolicited emails. In my profile I state
I am looking for a woman, or couple. However, I receive many
emails from single men. Therefore, I consider those emails,
voluntary, and I delete them. I believe that no reply is
necessary because the email came from someone not fitting
my search criteria. Therefore, as their ...
1 Comments, 247 Views,
18 Votes
,5.99 Score
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Courteouy Response 4/3/2005
What ever happened to a courtesy reply? I wonder if everyone
is so busy with life that they can't take the time to
reply and say that they are not interested. I am not bashful
about sending an e-mail to someone that I find attractive
or like the content of their profile. I would say that at
least 50% of these e-mails go unanswered. They are not lewd,
crude, or unimaginative. Just your ...
0 Comments, 121 Views,
9 Votes
,4.71 Score
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Does Lying Deserve a Pleasant Reply? 4/3/2005
Everyone here on this site, are here for many different
reasons. I am not here to find a lover, a friend with benefits,
a penis or anything that deals with cheating on my husband.
I am here to post in the groups, chat with the friends I have
made, laugh and just have some clean fun. And I have a very
honest profile. Yes, there are people in my Network that
might be sexy or seductive, but ...
1 Comments, 314 Views,
17 Votes
,3.97 Score
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Kill them with Kindness 3/31/2005
Although my profile clearly states that I am looking for
women, many men still send me messages. Sometimes I reply
just to thank them for their compliments but politely tell
them I'm not interested.
2 Comments, 105 Views,
8 Votes
,3.71 Score
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Help on letting her down easy 3/30/2005
Hi all, I have a woman after me that I am not all that attracted
to. The problem is that she and I had sex fairly rescently.
I thought is was just a quick one timer, but now she is following
me around and becoming a neusance. How do I get her to chill
out without making her go psycho?
3 Comments, 199 Views,
4 Votes
,2.47 Score
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wrong person 3/27/2005
Hello there, recevd a mesage the day , thout great , a girl
sending me a e mail, bugger that found out was some guy,
asking for pics .How pissed off was i a guy dont mind that
if its what hes in to, but im not in to that, my smile went
to a froun awww what a shame at first thout my luck was in there
, a well, after reading the mail he sent went to profile
to see what the hell i had put on ...
1 Comments, 120 Views,
3 Votes
,1.47 Score
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No everything that glitters is Gold 3/27/2005
learn to say no u stupid people we all should learn to say
no sometimes
0 Comments, 50 Views,
2 Votes
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When I tell you I'm straight, I mean it. 3/26/2005
I was a member for less than 24 hours when I checked my email
and saw that I had a new messege from SEXFinder.com.
Yippee. I clicked on it and it turns out it was a 33 year old
dude asking if I was interested in letting him suck my dick.
<br>
I responded as politely as I could saying "Nah man,
I'm straight."
<br>
10 minutes later, he emails me again pleading, ...
1 Comments, 188 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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Direct and to the point. 3/26/2005
Just be honest with them, guys usually think with their
lower head on a web site like this. A firm, but polite no will
go a long way and anyone can understand that. Don't
jerk around other people around on this website wasting
both of your time and lead them on when you have no intentions
whatsoever to play with them.
1 Comments, 127 Views,
12 Votes
,4.39 Score
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Sometimes "No Thanks" can cost you. 3/25/2005
A few years back, I had a job at this company that had one really
hot sexy woman working there. I was instantly attacted
to her. Long legs, tall light brown long hair and a really
nice set of breast.
<br>
After working there a week, I found out that she was married
and was having an on going affair with the boss (who was an
old rather unattractive married man). This girl did ...
3 Comments, 478 Views,
18 Votes
,3.67 Score
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confused and wishing I could go back in time 3/20/2005
There is a man who works for the same company that I have known
for several years. We have always flirted with each other,
inappropriatly at times, but we are both married and I always
thought of it as 'safe'. We tend to go through 'phases'
where we talk a lot, and then can go for weeks with out speaking.
About 4 months ago I was up near his area (big company and
we don't work in the same ...
3 Comments, 245 Views,
5 Votes
,3.47 Score
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Saying "No Thanks" 3/20/2005
We feel meeting people is no problem . However we understand
that sometime people don't click sexually . That's
why we never expect anything on the first meet . The only
thing we expect to do is make friends . Our motto , "
the more friends you have , the better your are off in life
. " To us sex isn't everything . Don't get
us wrong we enjoy it very much but it is a whole lot better
when ...
2 Comments, 239 Views,
15 Votes
,5.73 Score
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Is there a "nice" way 3/15/2005
Is there a "nice" way to tell someone on the first
meeting that the chemistry is just not there, bearing in
mind that the excitement and anticipation have built up,
only to be dashed. it sounds trite to say that iI would like
you as a friend only.
1 Comments, 150 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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SEXFinder.com 101 3/9/2005
We have been on this site for some time now and have seen and
read a lot. Here is some advice to avoid having bad experiences
on this site.
<br>
1) Dont complain about others not reading your profile
until you proof read it first. (example) Cant tell you how
many profiles we see that states "looking for men"
added in the top of their profile and the message in the profile ...
0 Comments, 471 Views,
34 Votes
,7.55 Score
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READ THE PROFILES 3/6/2005
The amount of let downs would reduce drastically if everyone
would read the profiles before they send an email. It's
unbelievable how many emails we get from 20 yo guys. First
of all we're looking for a women. Secondly, we're
looking for someone between the ages of 35-50. And, last
but not least, learn how to read and write before you try
to contact someone. It's impossible to figure out ...
2 Comments, 186 Views,
18 Votes
,6.26 Score
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ladies be honest 3/5/2005
I dont know about the rest of you but I am getting tired of
someone saying im this and that ansd not even close when
you meet
1 Comments, 159 Views,
7 Votes
,2.53 Score
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Common Courtesy 2/27/2005
I would just like to say that if someone goes out of there
way to show interest in you, the least you can do is have the
courtesy to at least respond if you are not interestd.
1 Comments, 219 Views,
15 Votes
,5.89 Score
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SINGLE MEN AGAIN. 2/26/2005
I was wondering if anyone else agrees with us about single
guys.
We think they should have a chatroom and SEXFinder.com section all
on there own as we are fed up of them bugging us with sick and
abusive messages.
They put things like , can i fuck your wife, do you want
a ten incher up ya ass, can i fuck the brains out of ya wife, can
i ram my cock up every hole you have.
sorry guys but these ...
2 Comments, 149 Views,
10 Votes
,4.18 Score
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Guys 2/19/2005
To all you men out there that keep writing us. The fact that
we have said time and time again that we only want to be with
another woman, please stop writing us. Simply put, NO THANKS
1 Comments, 197 Views,
10 Votes
,3.19 Score
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Why We Don't 2/19/2005
You guys wonder why some women don't take the time to
say "thanks, but no thanks"?
<br>
I took the time to set up my auto-reply, explaining that
I would be, as a standard member, limited in the amount of
emails to which I could reply and would, therefore, be able
to only respond to those with whom I felt I'd be a good
match. I put in my profile that I was looking for someone ...
7 Comments, 484 Views,
28 Votes
,6.83 Score
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How to do it... 2/15/2005
I am sick of people that I am not interested in emailing me
constantly. How do you turn people down, without offending
them? Some suggestions would help... thanks.
3 Comments, 191 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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A matter of Courtesy 2/15/2005
How often do we approach someone on this site? Sometimes
it's frequent. Other times, I may go for weeks and not
see a single person worth trying to contact. In any case,
I'm a firm believer in taking the time to really look
at the woman/couple's ad and crafting a thoughtful
approach to introduce myself. Rarely do I get a response
if they are not interested. Am I out of line is this a ...
3 Comments, 160 Views,
7 Votes
,5.33 Score
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How Do You Say "NO" After Meeting? 2/12/2005
My wife and I have met several couples and single females
from this site in the past. Fortunately, we have only had
one really bad experience. We always meet these people
first on neutral grounds for dinner or drinks. As you all
know, pictures of the people you are viewing are sometimes
old or fixed to make them look better than they are. When
we view these people in person, sometimes ...
6 Comments, 432 Views,
14 Votes
,5.70 Score
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manners....... 2/9/2005
is saying "thanks but no thanks" too much to
ask?......is ignoring a person who shows interest the
right thing to do?
2 Comments, 89 Views,
2 Votes
,3.81 Score
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meeting for the first time 2/7/2005
If there are any people lying about who they are or what they
look like then you should all f-off. there are real people
on here having a good time and you people ruin it for us and
others. Why don't you turds get off your computer and
find out who you are instead of being ashamed of yourselves
1 Comments, 130 Views,
17 Votes
,5.53 Score
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Declining an invitation with class 2/5/2005
When you write a profile, it helps to provide as much specific
(and honest) information as you can. Giving a person accurate
personal information allows them to make a "pre-screening"
decision. If you have preferences like "No Married
Men" or "No Men" it helps to state this...
politely. When a person does not read your profile or ignores
a specific request, the best thing to do is simply ...
0 Comments, 167 Views,
18 Votes
,6.54 Score
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shallow? 2/4/2005
i feel terrible if someone's interested in me and i
can't/don't return the feelings. hurting people
is the last thing i want to do, especially if they've
taken an interest in me - it seems selfish and shallow. here's
a question for anyone reading this: what's your view
on a "mercy fuck?" what do you think about sex
with someone you feel sorry for but aren't attracted
to...?
5 Comments, 368 Views,
4 Votes
,1.30 Score
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Do the right thing. 2/4/2005
Most people who frequent sites like SEXFinder.com realize that there
is a high chance of rejection.
Most people will deal with rejection well but what really
offends people is no reply at all.
<br>
If someone approaches you online who is not to your liking
you should have the courtesy to politely tell them you are
looking for something else.
<br>
If they continue to contact ...
0 Comments, 105 Views,
12 Votes
,2.62 Score
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It's that Easy 2/2/2005
I've been on here a few days now, and I believe it sucks.
I just want what this site offers, Ways to meet people for
whatever desire. I don't know if it's my luck or
what. Do you think my pics are fake. What's the deal?
2 Comments, 183 Views,
10 Votes
,1.79 Score
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Don't beat around the bush 2/1/2005
It's always a good idea to come out and be truthful with
someone. As they say "Honesty is the best policy".
If a person approaches you, it is never a good idea to lead
them on if you aren't interested. In the long run, that
could lead to problems with self-esteem, confidence levels,
and many other things. But, in the same since, don't
be rude about it(unless they just can't take a ...
2 Comments, 90 Views,
15 Votes
,4.66 Score
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geez louize 1/31/2005
theres alot of people that have messaged me on here before
and just i dont know if its only me but im not interested in
a guy that sends me a picture of his dick, its like whats wrong
with the world today, everything is out in the open and nothing
left to the imagination... did art of the body loose its
touch and the digital camera take its place?
2 Comments, 387 Views,
37 Votes
,4.93 Score
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how do you say no when you cant tell them why? 1/29/2005
how do you tell a man that you cant have sex with him for reasons
such as your not sure if you're pregnant to the last
guy you were with, my bf (now my ex) and i recently broke up
about a month later i did not get my period, my new boyfriend
that i am with now wants to have sex, i cant bring my self to
tell him why because i may not be and dont want to put stress
on our relationship this ...
3 Comments, 378 Views,
22 Votes
,1.69 Score
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just because we talk about doin it doesnt mean we have to be rude 1/28/2005
some people seem to be shy or emabarrased at having to say
no thanks, but really, could there be a better form of annonymity?
just because we are mostly all here to talk about shaggin'
or just plain get some (not so much the talk), doesn't
mean we can't use manners.
i guess some people are here for different things but for
me, if there aint no respect, there sure aint no pussy! seems ...
2 Comments, 194 Views,
22 Votes
,6.01 Score
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the sweet smell of cordite.... 1/18/2005
So she's asked you over and over again: "leave
me the fuck alone, you slime sucking pig." You laughed
at the way her eyes crinkled up when she screamed at you from
the moving car. So fucking cute. But then comes the small
caliber weapons and her attitude ratchets up a bit. But
still you think that she's just having her period,
for the seventh week in a row, and she'll get over it.
Then ...
1 Comments, 151 Views,
10 Votes
,2.99 Score
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How hard is it to say "no"? 1/18/2005
After posting a rant in the appropriate section, I want
to ask a cool-headed question here. Why is it that people
(men and women) seem to have a problem with just saying "I'm
not interested"? My beef is with people who seem to
be interested, then just drop you like a hot potato.
<br>
I know this happens to a lot of people, and I'm sure I'll
be told to accept it and to move on, ...
2 Comments, 259 Views,
12 Votes
,3.86 Score
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standing up for yourself 1/18/2005
Woman especially should learn to say no when they don't
want to do something sexually. At least in a long term relationship
I like a woman that can stand up for herself rather than do
something she regret.
2 Comments, 111 Views,
13 Votes
,3.48 Score
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never do this.... 1/17/2005
I learned, in a most painful and humiliating way, never
to tell a woman "no thanks, but you are way too ugly
to fuck." Even though you mean well and you're
trying to save both of you some pain and suffering, most
women do not respond well to that. And it's amazing
how upset they can become and just how hard and far they can
throw a jar of vaseline.
2 Comments, 287 Views,
10 Votes
,2.19 Score
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Don't Assume 1/17/2005
Nothing will scare me off faster then when some one floods
my email or sends their phone number with just the words
"call me". These emails I don't respond
to because it only encourages them. Honestly guys, don't
assume we even got your message, SEXFinder.com has been known to lose
a few so try one more time. but, if they don't respond
don't take it personally just move on to the next lovely
on your ...
4 Comments, 380 Views,
32 Votes
,7.08 Score
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how do you know... 1/17/2005
How do you know when no means no or when it really means yes
but I'm playing hard to get?
3 Comments, 178 Views,
7 Votes
,0.75 Score
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why cant people be adults and so no "no thanks" 1/16/2005
I was wondering why people cant people just say no thanks?
we are all adults here there is no reason why, we cant handle
a simple thanks but no.
Brian
3 Comments, 135 Views,
5 Votes
,4.12 Score
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Ladies, what's really going on? 1/16/2005
To all of you hotties, posting sexy pictures, what does
your inbox look like?
How many replies do you average per day?
How many of those do you read?
How many of those do you respond to?
Of those, how many do you actually take it to the next level
with?
What's the fastest way to make you hit the delete button?
What catches your eye, so much so that you respond?
<br>
Come ...
6 Comments, 524 Views,
13 Votes
,4.99 Score
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Reality 1/15/2005
If you are too afraid to say "no thanks" just
say that I'll call you...which is what women say to
me when they want to get rid of me. Hey, it works...it's
sex and dating. Since when do we have to be "nice"
about it?
0 Comments, 81 Views,
8 Votes
,2.55 Score
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Smell and how much is to much 1/15/2005
I'm going to tell you a little story about a date I had.
Everything went well through dinner and we went to a local
club and we rocked that place. So by the end of the night the
lady /(pig)asked me over to her place, so I went and everything
started too get heated up. Well to make a long story short
I went down on her and trust me I go down on every women I meet.
The smell was so powerful I ...
5 Comments, 601 Views,
18 Votes
,4.76 Score
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make up you own mind 1/14/2005
when me and my husband was dateing he whent home to see his
family for two weeks and i stayed home. i went to a party one
weekend and had way to much to drink i then got together with
some friends one was a guy the other a girl me and this girl
had been friends for a whil and she know how i got when i had
one too many (which is my theerd one i am a light whight) she
also know that this guy ...
1 Comments, 281 Views,
11 Votes
,0.92 Score
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The Easy Way 1/14/2005
May I make a suggestion to the women who are overwhelmed
with emails? Why not send an auto reply that says, "Thanks
for thinking of me. If I'm interested I'm be in
touch. Otherwise- Happy Hunting." Believe me ladies,
that would take the sting out, a bit.
0 Comments, 164 Views,
11 Votes
,6.35 Score
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Dudes that won't just take no 1/13/2005
why is it that , some gay guys hit up straight guys with notes
, when we clearly have nothing in common. It's flattering
but no thanks
2 Comments, 200 Views,
12 Votes
,1.74 Score
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WHY ARE PEOPLE NOT WRITING BACK? 1/12/2005
I WOULD LIKE TO SEE MORE PEOPLE WRITING BACK SAYING "NO
THANKS".IF THE PERSON TOOK THE TIME TO WRITE TO YOU, YOU
SHOULD TAKE THE TIME TO SAY "NO THANKS".I WILL
ALWAYS SAY NO THANKS TO SOMEONE THAT I DON`T WANT TO WASTE
THERE TIME WITH ME.EVEN IF THEY WRITE BACK AGAIN I WILL READ
WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY.IF I`M STILL NOT INTERESTED I`LL SAY
SORRY BUT NO THANKS, OR WERE NOT LOOKING FOR THE SAME ...
4 Comments, 140 Views,
8 Votes
,4.87 Score
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Sex and Denial 1/9/2005
Don't deny me your sex.
My hot, wet cunt is eager
to accept your hard intrusion.
I act shy, hard-to-get,
but I long for you.
Force me to submit
to your probing fingers.
You know I'm pretending;
how could you not?
You feel the wetness there,
ready for you.
Demand entrance to my most
sacred place.
Compel me to give up my
most cherished secrets.
Love me with your body. ...
7 Comments, 431 Views,
39 Votes
,4.78 Score
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Don't be pushy 1/8/2005
I would of course perfer a response to tell me no thanx, but
if a lady doesn't write back, I know she's not interested.
People might also have a lot of repsonses to go through,
and bugging someone with relentless messages will just
make them even less interested in you.
0 Comments, 99 Views,
15 Votes
,4.66 Score
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Anonymity seems to preclude courtesy 1/7/2005
In the time we've been on this site, I've noticed
a behavior among members which I find quite anoying! People
will strike up a conversation or correspondence, and then,
just "dissappear". If one chooses not to respond
to an initial solicitation, I have no problem with that.
There obviously was something about the profile that fell
outside of their preferences.
<br>
However, ...
4 Comments, 232 Views,
24 Votes
,5.74 Score
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Need picture 1/6/2005
For wanting men to send face picyures. What I do is say in
the top of my profile is that must have or send "face
shots", since "head shots" can be a bad
request on this site. That has greatly reduce the e-mails
of men having no face picture. However, you will still get
some guys sending e-mails with no pictures, when you request
it and they are uh not your type. Just do not e-mail them ...
3 Comments, 497 Views,
27 Votes
,5.13 Score
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Profile Specifics 1/6/2005
I'm a SBF. I've been on SEXFinder.com, now for about 10 months.
I definately fine the site entertaining. This site is about
meeting someone with similar sexual tastes, interest,
drive, and desires.
<br>
The purpose of the profile is to give the reader some idea
about what you want in a partner and who you are. The site
also provides some basic tools like cupid settings, compatibility ...
2 Comments, 324 Views,
25 Votes
,6.01 Score
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Hard to do correctly 1/3/2005
I was once chatting with a woman who did not seem too interested,
but I could not get her to just admit that she did not want
to talk any more. I think both men and women should be more
willing to be direct and say "I am not interested in
you". I know my feelings won't be hurt !
2 Comments, 100 Views,
6 Votes
,3.93 Score
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perhaps SEXFinder.com could add a "No Thanks" button to the message center 1/3/2005
right next to the reply button - SEXFinder.com could put a "No
Thanks" button. it could automatically send a, 'Thank
you for contacting me, but blah blah blah, yada yada yada'.
<br>
or if they wanted to have some fun, they could put a 'Not
only no, but Hell NO!' or 'not if you were the last
male/female ...' I would rather get a 'go to hell'
message than wonder if my initial inquiry ...
3 Comments, 81 Views,
13 Votes
,6.50 Score
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some times, saying no thanks isn't possible 1/2/2005
I would like to tell every person who responsed to my profile
a hi or no thanks, but I am a standered member. That means
every e-mail I send counts, I only get I think 3 e-mail replys
to send. So I do not reply to the ones I do not find interesting
to me. Not because I want to be a butch, but because this site
does not allow me to respond to everyone. And I just can ot
afford to pay for ...
1 Comments, 102 Views,
9 Votes
,5.35 Score
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SEXFinder.com has contributed to the problem 1/2/2005
At one time, all "standard" members were allowed
to see other member profiles. Now, this is a priviledge
granted only to women. I think that when searching, men
are driven by the "eye-candy" provided and
that is why we are experiencing this problem. Of course
there are some who simply cannot read. In those cases, courtesy
should still prevail. If this is a place for lovers, then
a ...
1 Comments, 98 Views,
11 Votes
,5.78 Score
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Is it practical? 12/27/2004
Due to the convenient of dating world nowadays and it offers
so much that it shocks me in the beginning.
<br>
Can I just not respond to some exotic mails or mail with pictures
that reveals too much my jaw dropped but that sometimes
a turn off.
<br>
What do you think about a conservative girl involving in
this site out of curiousity?
5 Comments, 87 Views,
12 Votes
,3.51 Score
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only two letters 12/24/2004
its only two letters but some people find it so hard to say
even email to you.
whats the problem life goes on its not the end of the world
, but can be a frsh start to your life.
you also know ware you stand with asaid person!!
0 Comments, 53 Views,
22 Votes
,1.81 Score
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well... 12/19/2004
It doesn't hurt anyone to be polite, male or female,
but ignorant behaviour isn't restricted to gender
nor intelligence unfortunately. People forget that being
at the end of an internet connection does not preclude them
from behaving in a way which can be downright hurtful. Still
there you go, there are all sorts in the world and they use
the internet too.
1 Comments, 68 Views,
31 Votes
,2.95 Score
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Do they deserve a response??? 12/17/2004
Just looking for everyones thoughts on this -
If your profile is very clear as to what you are looking for
in a person*(s) and then someone that obviously has not
taken the time to read your profile trys to contact you do
you feel you should still at least say "no thanks"?
39 Comments, 621 Views,
104 Votes
,7.00 Score
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Saying no to the clueless. 12/16/2004
I am one who believes in being positive, and even in rejection,
finding a nice way to go about saying no. However, after
almost four months on this site, am realizing that some
just do not want to take NO for an answer. We have one guy that
continues to write now and then with these stilted notes
of adoration, insisting that we HAVE TO GIVE HIM A CHANCE...we
write back our thanks but no ...
0 Comments, 97 Views,
31 Votes
,4.39 Score
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YOUR OPINION AND SUGGESTIONS MATTER! 12/15/2004
HI WE LIVE IN CLARKSVILLE, INDIANA, AND HAVE MET SEVERAL
COUPLES AND SINGLES THAT ALL THEY WANT TO DO IS JUMP STRAIGHT
INTO THE SACK. THIS IS A MAJOR TURN OFF FOR US. WE ALL KNOW
THAT EVERYONE'S ULTIMATE GOAL IS SEX BUT WHY DO IT THE
SECOND YOU MEET? WHAT'S WRONG WITH HANGING OUT A FEW
TIMES BEFORE MAKING THAT JUDGEMENT CALL?
<br>
WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU LIKE THE OTHER COUPLE BUT ...
1 Comments, 131 Views,
17 Votes
,4.12 Score
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It would be nice if..... 12/14/2004
I don't mind being turned down by a woman. I just think
it would be nice if they would say "No thanks."
When I send an email to a girl, I would think she would be friendly
enough to write back with a "No Thanks" instead
of just deleting the email and not answering.
I think it shows respect and compassion.
3 Comments, 58 Views,
13 Votes
,4.99 Score
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can the men not read??? 12/14/2004
It has occurred to me that maybe the men are only looking
at pictures. My mate and I are very explicit about who we
are interested in and how we want to approach this swinging
lifestyle. It seems anytime we are broadcasting the men
all want to talk to you and think that you will meet up with
them on the down low. I'm into this for my satisfaction
and my mates together. We want to enrich an ...
4 Comments, 197 Views,
30 Votes
,4.71 Score
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Saying no thanks 12/11/2004
The men on here get really pissy when you turn them down.
To the men, if a woman was not interested in you, how would
you like her to express it? Is there a nice way to say no thanks?
9 Comments, 108 Views,
26 Votes
,4.00 Score
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No pussy-footin' around 12/10/2004
I'm sure I speak for the majority when it comes to this
issue. People, for the most part don't want to be led
on, or have to try and second guess the other's intentions.
Especially on an adult sex site. If for what ever reason
the guy or gal that you may be corresponding with or even
if you meet up with this person, and they just are not 'doing
it for you' then don't drag it out with ...
0 Comments, 40 Views,
18 Votes
,3.94 Score
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sister slut 12/10/2004
not long after my first encounter with my sisters wonderful
panties, i had another intense moment. she was out with
her bf for the day, they were to go bike riding. i figured
with all the activity, her panties would be extra smelly,
and extra moist. i had no idea.
she came home and showered, then went out with her friends
for the evening, ...my chance. i slipped in and got her fresh ...
3 Comments, 607 Views,
34 Votes
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The great Escape 12/9/2004
Ladies how many times have you gone out with someone and
wanted to run away?
<br>
Men the same goes for you.
<br>
I have gone out many times and wondered is this really what
I want. This occurs on many differnt occasions. So how do
we say thanks but. I think that honesty is usually the best
way to start, but if your date has shown that they may not
take it well what do ...
4 Comments, 49 Views,
9 Votes
,3.00 Score
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Good Recovery Lines 12/9/2004
Just wondering what some of your best recovery lines are.
You know, when you get rejected especially in a friendly
manner, and then have to come up with a line that makes you
sound like you're one smooth dude (or whatever female
version of dude is).
<br>
I asked this fine girl at work out once, and she told me she
was going out with someone already (she responded pretty
quickly ...
3 Comments, 69 Views,
17 Votes
,5.11 Score
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How long do u chat to someone before meeting them? 12/7/2004
Very new to the site about 3 weeks. Wondering how long is
considered normal on here to chat before meeting someone?
How long do you think it takes to build a relationship and
know the people are for real?
Just, wondering........
4 Comments, 111 Views,
10 Votes
,4.78 Score
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Telling a guy you don't like him 12/5/2004
I noticed that lots of girls like to let a guy down nice and
easy, give him those stupid lines to make him feel better.
Personally I hate it when girls tell me 'lets just be
friends' or 'Im not looking for a relationship
right now'. Just say no please! I have more respect
for a girl that can say that and move on. All those other lines
are just BS and Id prefer not to hear them. I don't ...
6 Comments, 37 Views,
11 Votes
,3.54 Score
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be true to your profile 12/2/2004
when i met her, she seemed nice. She had not uploaded any
photos initially, and maybe i should have seen her, but
i figured, meet her anyway and see what happens....
<br>
Well, she is a big girl. Much bigger than i have ever been
with. I guess that was all it took to shrink me down to size.
She was sweet, open, nice enough....but she was not my type...
<br>
We met one ...
2 Comments, 53 Views,
31 Votes
,6.21 Score
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Why Is It? 11/30/2004
OK, I'm sure I'm not the first one to post an article
addressing this subject but. . . this is a major pet pieve
of mine.
<br>
Ladies, don't take this personal but I only have personal
experiences dealing with women and not men. If I'm
wrong on this please correct me.
<br>
I don't mind getting a "no thanks" from
a woman I've sent an email to after she has read my ...
7 Comments, 106 Views,
33 Votes
,5.53 Score
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To say no thanks. 11/29/2004
Say no, no, a thousand times no.
1 Comments, 21 Views,
6 Votes
,1.66 Score
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Interesting SEXFinder.com screwup 11/28/2004
It looks like article posts go to whichever section you
hit the "add article" link from and not the category
you clicked on.
<br>
<Simpsons and other shows common>
<br>
Thanks dad...
0 Comments, 3 Views,
11 Votes
,2.05 Score
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Answers to some common questions 11/27/2004
I have posted this article in one form or another many times.
<br>
This is an answer to several commonly asked questions,
namely: "Why won't anyone respond to me?"
or "Why do I receive so much spam?" or "Why
do I only seem to find fakers on this site?".
<br>
These questions are all related to each other, so the answer
must be given in a long detailed answer. SORRY!
...
0 Comments, 17 Views,
28 Votes
,7.45 Score
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why ignore? 11/26/2004
the whole purpose that most of us are on here for is to meet
someone. it's hurtful to be ignored. the least someone
could do it say no thanks or you don't meet my interests...
7 Comments, 133 Views,
20 Votes
,3.51 Score
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No Thanks ? 11/25/2004
I seem to receive alot of e-mails and I do try and check them
out, but I receive sooo many that I will send a response to
say I am interested but kinda no thanks right now got my plate
full, needless to say I do not get such a good reply from that
it goes either way they get offended or they keep pursuing
hard!! Well we are all adults at least I hope and if ya are
on this site ya are ...
2 Comments, 50 Views,
25 Votes
,6.45 Score
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why say it when you want it 11/22/2004
I DOUBT IF NO EVER CROSSES MY MIND AGAIN. i LIKE TO FUCK SO
IF YOU WANT COME AND GET IT
0 Comments, 55 Views,
5 Votes
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Just learn to say No. 11/22/2004
Often times people will take advantage of you by overabusing
your politeness, so just learn to say no.
2 Comments, 18 Views,
36 Votes
,6.17 Score
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Like to know or not? 11/21/2004
If you write to someone, and they write back saying no thanks, and
give you a reason why, isn't that better than recieving
nothing back at all?I find when someone writes back after
I've sent them a message, I appreciate it more than
nothing at all.I alway's write back and say thankyou
for responding, just to let them know I really do care.
1 Comments, 12 Views,
14 Votes
,6.66 Score
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sometimes no thanks isn`t enough! 11/19/2004
we r a happily married couple and get our fair share of emails
we have stated in our profile that we don`t want married
men but they continue to mail so now we just ignore them we
tried thanks but no thanks but they carried on emailing!
sometimes when we r mailed we request face pics as requested
in our profile but if we r mailed one liners like like my cock
or wanna fuck why should we give ...
2 Comments, 44 Views,
18 Votes
,5.44 Score
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proper ettiquite 11/16/2004
we have been on SEXFinder.com in various forms of membership for over
a year now. we have met alot of people, hooked up with a few
and have also had to turn several down. after checking our
mail today and finding yet another message from a person
that we, as always in this case, 'politely' turned
down, deaming us 'fakes'. we get a little chuckle
from this! we have been in this lifestyle for a ...
1 Comments, 140 Views,
35 Votes
,7.82 Score
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dont beat around about it 11/15/2004
so many of us are finding it real hard to say , im not interested!!..but
come on, most are here for the same reasons and i know what
im looking for, if i say no thanks, it does not mean i cant
stand you, just means that physically im not there, because
we are on here does not mean we are free for the taking, so
, ill respect that about you, do the same for me...why take
it so personally???? ...
1 Comments, 34 Views,
19 Votes
,7.34 Score
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The gentleman respectfully."declines.." 11/14/2004
A few months a go after many conversations of with a person
on SEXFinder.com, I decided to meet in person. Normally, I would not
do this until I was absolutely sure that things would be
fine and adequate for both parties. HOWEVER because of
this particular young lady's profile sounded so intriguing
and worthwile; I decided to give into my better discretion
and meet her. I can't tell you enough how ...
1 Comments, 36 Views,
19 Votes
,6.42 Score
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In agreement with the article I read... 11/14/2004
I am in total agreement with the person who said, that you
ahve to be honest and if there is nothing there then....
BUT!
What i have found a lot of folk on SEXFinder.com will meet, say nice things
and then when you think hey, this is right and they could
be a nice friend/f* bud or whatever, they go 'funny'
or silent.
Us girls really don't ask for a lot.
Simple creatures really.
I'd rather have ...
0 Comments, 93 Views,
31 Votes
,6.88 Score
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why 11/10/2004
WHY DO PEOPLE TALK TO SOME ONE FOR WEEKS AND THEN TELL THEM
THAT THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED AND THEY HAVEN'T BEEN
AND JUST DIDN'T KNOW OHOW TO TELL YOU THAT? OR TALK TO
YOU FOR A WEEK AND THEN SAY SORRY NEVER WAS INTERESTED IN
YOU
2 Comments, 13 Views,
16 Votes
,2.98 Score
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Why don't people just say no 11/7/2004
if someone isnt interested in you from an email that you
have sent them then why is it that they can't just email
back quickly saying that your not their type, not attracted
to you etc..... I understand that people get loads of emails
but one would simply regard it as common courtesy. Do you
feel this would be a nicer way to play the game on this site?
<br>
Perhaps SEXFinder.com could ...
1 Comments, 30 Views,
20 Votes
,5.93 Score
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No Pic no Meet 11/6/2004
What is people's hang up with sending a pic? Sure I know
that not everyone has a digital camera. Not everyone is
willing to have nudie shots go through the local one hour
photo. But Face shots? come on. A throwaway camera can be
developed with a cd, - the kodak plus digigal is just a package
deal, but you do not even have to buy hat to get digital pics
back.
<br>
I wonder ...
3 Comments, 32 Views,
28 Votes
,5.81 Score
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How do you do this tactfully 11/6/2004
Just wondering how everyone else handles this situation.
You recieve a pic and you're not interested. What's the
right thing to do?
2 Comments, 26 Views,
11 Votes
,2.23 Score
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HOW about saying no thanks or goodbye 11/3/2004
Once i have received an email from someOne i must decide
what to do with it. Do i start a lil conversation? Do i answer
back with real interest? Do i just say no? Do i just ignore?
With each email i must decide which is best.
<br>
Then there is the point after a bit of conversation that
i figure out that it is not really best if we keep in contact..
what then? How do i say no ...
1 Comments, 102 Views,
24 Votes
,6.31 Score
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no thanks is a lost art 11/3/2004
Why say it if you do not mean it. I and a lot of women want to
fuck more than the men nowadays. I like to fuck each and every
day and a lot of days three or more time is not enough. If I
had to choose a number for the week about twenty one times
a week sounds good. I love a hard thick cock easing in and
out of my pussy and making the men quiver. I am a slut and love
being one so fuck me ...
1 Comments, 20 Views,
14 Votes
,4.90 Score
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Just be honest 11/3/2004
Ok I don't understand why people feel the need to lie
and say they are gay or what not, when they really just are
not interested. I think it's all alot of bullshit.
Grow some balls and be honest. It is not rude to say thanks
for the wink/e-mail, but I'm just not interested.
Everyone has their own preference and as long as you don't
say hey you're just to ugly ect... then what's
the big ...
1 Comments, 29 Views,
41 Votes
,8.25 Score
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No is honest! 11/2/2004
I always appreciate honesty. Even if you don't like
the answer ... they are saying no for a reason. Except it
and move on.
0 Comments, 10 Views,
11 Votes
,6.72 Score
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Call once, call twice, call three times im no nice. 10/30/2004
fellas, fellas, you havin trouble getting rid of that out
of date baggage, needs to be tucked away in the closet of
crazy bitches. Well, i have much experience in making the
wrong decisions on breaking up with girls at the worst times.
First of all, if your roommate forgets to pay electric bill
and you stay over at girls house for a week, and once the power
was turned back on, you dumped ...
1 Comments, 9 Views,
10 Votes
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Learning much from NO THANKS 10/28/2004
Accepting all kinds of no thanks, ouch
<br>
Dang i am learning a lot in this ‘NO THANKS’ section.. i just
learned that we ‘standard’ folk can not only NOT initiate
email contact but have limited replies as well.. i have
learned that some men (and ladies yeah yeah) are too chicken
or even cruel to send a goodbye after some months of intimacy.
i have ...
0 Comments, 19 Views,
30 Votes
,6.57 Score
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Why do guys keep hitting on me? 10/28/2004
I keep getting e-mails from guys. I want to have women contact
me. I try to be nice because I am really a nice guy and I want
to make friends, but I want to have sex with women. If a woman
were to contact me, I might respond with a yes rather than
a no thanks. How do I get more women to contact me. I am a straight
man who will respond to women, but not to any man besides
Bradley Pitt, ...
1 Comments, 23 Views,
3 Votes
,2.45 Score
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This site is a big joke! 10/28/2004
I have come to realize that this site is a big fat joke.
What a waste of time!
1 Comments, 21 Views,
6 Votes
,0.52 Score
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re: what is so hard in saying "no thanks" 10/25/2004
There are so many problems involved with saying "thank
you for your interest, but no thanks".
<br>
First and foremost. Many if not most messages that women
and couples get are from people who do not meet many or all
of their preferences. Your SEX, age, distance and body
type/race/wants are always of the utmost importance.
If you are a guy looking for women, 18 to 25, slim, and ...
2 Comments, 9 Views,
29 Votes
,8.05 Score
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what is so hard in saying..........no thanks... 10/25/2004
Find it very rude when you mail someone, and they dont even
reply....?? what is so hard in saying..no thanks......??
always reply to people, an politely too....
0 Comments, 29 Views,
5 Votes
,5.10 Score
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why so many suffer from amnesia,relating to their profiles.......... 10/25/2004
Why is it that so many women, on this site are so full of themselves...?
Dont ever reply to mails, totally ignore you, but on reading
their profiles, they are seeking men.
i've noticed some of them don't even bother to
check you out, yet the same people, in chat room xplain
their failed meetings with other members..perhaps had
they responded to my mail, it would have been better.
...
1 Comments, 36 Views,
11 Votes
,4.29 Score
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re: what is so hard in saying "no thanks" 10/25/2004
Oftentimes I get emails from people who send "broadcast"
emails, i.e. one generic email sent to many people hoping
for a response. Examples of these are "Hey babe, loved
your pic. Wanna get together?" when I don't have
a picture posted on my profile. Or "Hey read your profile
and I think we'd be hot together" from someone
who is 20 years younger than I. These emails never contain
a ...
2 Comments, 14 Views,
34 Votes
,8.09 Score
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Re: Question for the guys. 10/17/2004
Yes. She wasn’t my type on the personal level and also wasn’t
attractive to me physically.
p.s. she smelled like I was in a barn
0 Comments, 14 Views,
13 Votes
,3.31 Score
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what do you gotta do to get laid? 10/17/2004
I just thought i would ask the question....is it the apperance
or the game?????
1 Comments, 12 Views,
18 Votes
,3.53 Score
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Sorry not interested 10/15/2004
Why does it seem that when a man has a steady piece of ass, the
women of his past keep coming around looking for some.But
when said man is single, he's treated like he has the
plague.Seems to me that women get turned on by sticking
it to other woman.
0 Comments, 14 Views,
22 Votes
,7.21 Score
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No Means No 10/15/2004
What do you do when someone e-mails you. You check the profile
and decide he is not a match for you. You don't reply.
The next day he e-mails you again. You answer and tell him
no he is not a good match. You wish him well. Then again he
emails asking why not and won't stop. Do you have to
be rude to get someone to understand NO means No?
4 Comments, 13 Views,
23 Votes
,6.28 Score
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Re: No Thanks 10/13/2004
I agree. As a fella, I write lots of emails hoping for a reply. When no reply comes after say 2 weeks, I have many more emails which MAY elicit a reply so I delete the old ones. I do not think I am God's gift to women. I am VERY grateful to the many ladies who have become my 'on-line' partners through this site. I am still hopeful that one of them will one day meet me. Till then I live in ...
1 Comments, 16 Views,
12 Votes
,4.92 Score
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does anyone have some advice for saying no thanks? 10/10/2004
I find it very hard to say "I am not interested" I am always afraid of hurting somones feeling. I do not lead the person on or anything * I think that is wrong * But I avoid answering and I know this is wrong also. How can I get better at saying not interested??
2 Comments, 21 Views,
6 Votes
,5.64 Score
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If you don't want us to call, don't give your number! 10/8/2004
A lot of younger women have a tendency to want to avoid saying
'no' to someone who tries to get their number even
if they don't actually like them. I guess they figure
it's more polite and easier to deal with guys by just
giving away their number and not returning calls but it's
really misleading and annoying.
<br>
Try to be honest and direct: If you don't want to give
out your ...
0 Comments, 5 Views,
22 Votes
,7.45 Score
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Sometimes there's no way around it... 10/7/2004
Sometime they're just too damn fat or too damn ugly
to fuck. And you should just tell them that instead of leading
them on and hurting their feelings.
1 Comments, 17 Views,
15 Votes
,2.82 Score
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Respectfully Saying No Thanks 10/6/2004
Have you ever meticulously poured over a "Matches" profile, then drafted a detailed email to them only to never hear from them at all. I don't think a response should be expected from sent winks or mindless network invitations. However if someone has taken the time to draft a personalized email, that was respectful, witty, inquisitive, and non pushy, the recipient should at least respond with a ...
1 Comments, 110 Views,
10 Votes
,5.38 Score
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That's you in that picture! 10/6/2004
That’s you in that picture!
Yeah, maybe 5 years ago when your boobs weren’t sagging
to your thighs. I realize people want to look good but is
it fair to mislead those that you are talking to? More than
once, we have met with people who their pictures are at least
5 years old and do not look anything like their pictures
they sent. I am honest with the people I talk to on ...
1 Comments, 38 Views,
75 Votes
,8.21 Score
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saying no thanks 10/5/2004
The hardest thing I had to do was say 'no thanks' to a man. After chatting for months I just can't bring myself to meet him.. he is too nice for me. Mr perfect in every way shape and form. Oh well, so life goes.
0 Comments, 15 Views,
6 Votes
,1.66 Score
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The word NO. 10/2/2004
The word no is a womens gun in society, once she pulls it out
everyone will stop and think twice about the situation.
However, what if a man was to say no, it doesn't have
a strong meaning whereas comming from a women, why is that?
I have said no but the women thought I was joking but I was
not, do you understand the case tell me what you think should
the word no be universal everyone can ...
0 Comments, 10 Views,
18 Votes
,5.44 Score
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the hard way to tell a girl off 9/30/2004
well i recently been dateing since the end of a serious relationship.
all i see i am doing is turning girls down for some strange
reason. im not sure what the problem is. i need someones
advice on how to help my problem .
1 Comments, 44 Views,
1 Votes
,5.00 Score
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Men who just can't take no for an answer! 9/29/2004
Why is it that SEXFinder.com users sometimes will email you over and
over asking why you declined their network invitation??
0 Comments, 61 Views,
10 Votes
,3.39 Score
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Don't be an ass 9/26/2004
Lady's don't be an ass about saying no. You have
no idea the balls it takes to ask someone to have sex. IF you
don't want just say youg rather not. And if i guy doesn't
want to have sex for whatever reason, don't be an ass
to him now either. Your both adults so act like it.
1 Comments, 12 Views,
13 Votes
,1.63 Score
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Nothing 9/22/2004
The easiest way to let someone know you aren't interested
of course is to say nothing. That however is rude, or a bit
snobbish at the very least. Now as a man on this site we tend
not to get all that many emails outside of the spammers or
so it would seem by many articles I have read etc. so do the
right thing and let the real ladies replying to your ad know
that you aren't interested. As ...
0 Comments, 18 Views,
14 Votes
,5.38 Score
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Here is my No Thanks 9/20/2004
OK guys lisen up here is my "No Thanks, I'm not
interested"
If someone does not take the time to read my profile and does
not come close to what I am seeking on here I don't bother
with the NO THANKS. Females get to much mail to weed through
to send off a no thanks to everyone especially those that
cleary did not read the profile.
Then when we do we get the "WHY NOT"? or you hurt
their ...
1 Comments, 7 Views,
16 Votes
,5.92 Score
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How to break off when they want more than you do? 9/19/2004
Ive never quite known how to tell a woman who wants more than
I do, after we've slept together, that I'm not
looking for the same kind of relationship that I am...that
casual relationships are more my thing. any help?
2 Comments, 32 Views,
25 Votes
,4.68 Score
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Why we don't respond 9/18/2004
After being on this site for awhile, some of us get many,
many responses, and it's just a matter of weeding out
the ones we are interested in. A good example is someone
from Africa, asking to start a relationship, when you live
in North America, nottt, most of us are looking for locals,
not someone you can't touch. Also, the ones that claim
to read your profile but seemed to have missed ...
2 Comments, 90 Views,
73 Votes
,8.25 Score
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... and receiving a "No Thanks" 8/21/2004
Many people - especially many women here - have abandoned
extending a polite "Thanks, but no thanks"
approach. Many started out with good intentions. But they've
found that offering this polite response can often be more
hassle than it's worth.
<br>
Some of the contacts they've rejected get all needy.
Instead of accepting that the person they first approached
was not interested, ...
0 Comments, 31 Views,
41 Votes
,7.86 Score
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It's really rather simple.. 8/11/2004
Be polite: "Thanks for your interest, but no thanks."
That should suffice. You don't have to give a reason,
you don't have to apologize. If you are not interested,
just drop an email and let the guy know. No wasted time, no
hard feelings. I'm sure men find it much less frustrating
to be told "no thanks" than to be ignored.. I
know I would.
<br>
I have had guys write ...
2 Comments, 266 Views,
50 Votes
,8.25 Score
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Learn to Accept Rejection 7/25/2004
I don't know if it's a common problem, but a lot
of the guys I talk to on here have a big problem with rejection.
<br>
A lot of guys beg for a "not interested" or a "no
thanks" when they email or chat with me, but I have
had so many bad experiences that I have a hard time with it.
<br>
Also, the pure number of people who email me is amazing.
I can get up to 300 emails ...
1 Comments, 67 Views,
39 Votes
,7.23 Score
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Replying to messages 7/4/2004
Why do so many members on SEXFinder.com do not reply to your messages
or they wink at you and never send you a message to just say
hello?
1 Comments, 113 Views,
24 Votes
,2.90 Score
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Getting the point across without being rude 7/1/2004
How do you get the point across to some people on SEXFinder.com whom
you are not interested in because of age, location, looks
etc. I am the first to admit, I like cute guys under 35. Anything
older than that, I really have a hard time being attracted
to. How do you tell someone (who may be really nice and sweet)
that they are flat out ugly and you would never have relations
with them. Thanks
3 Comments, 46 Views,
21 Votes
,3.74 Score
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I don't owe you SQUAT! 6/20/2004
Just because you ask a question or make a request does not
ENTITLE you to anything at all. It is a persons perogative
to respond to a communication. Where is it written that
you MUST get something for making an effort? It isn't,
now is it? Just because you want a particular thing, doesn't
mean that some one has to give it to you. Lots of guys in this
particular forum gripe about women not ...
0 Comments, 148 Views,
53 Votes
,4.05 Score
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Sorry, but I want to be just friends! 6/1/2004
I was wondering, if you decide to meet someone from fpp.
and no sparks fly, how should go abouts saying no thanks?
3 Comments, 29 Views,
11 Votes
,1.86 Score
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answering messages 6/1/2004
I am a silver member and try to respond to every wink and message
I receive. However what I find irritating is that in my header
for my profile I ask if the guy isn't over 35 or single
to not message me or wink. I constantly get messages as well
as winks that don't fit the criteria. Most of them are
standard members and I realize that they can't view
my profile and that is why I have what ...
2 Comments, 75 Views,
15 Votes
,5.58 Score
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