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Love online   6/13/2005

Is it realy possible to find your one and only online? Talking to someone via chat and getting to know them though pics is great, but how do you get to know all there little quirks. We all have them. how is it possible to get that across online?


2 Comments, 147 Views, 8 Votes ,2.09 Score
rm_john21601 42 M
10  Articles
build   6/12/2005

lots of common interests andyou should be friends, gotta be able to talk to the person as if they were your close friend. and lots of love, gotta show it and say it and meant it. devotion and caring.


0 Comments, 77 Views, 9 Votes ,2.14 Score
Lancelot   6/11/2005

I truly do not know why women like Lancelot… <br> He was not a knight… <br> The moment he took Guinevere into his bed… <br> He violated one of the most important rules of knighthood! <br> King Arthur was far greater a lover then Lancelot. <br> Lancelot only loved war and women and Arthur loved the world! <br> I ...


0 Comments, 155 Views, 8 Votes ,3.25 Score
rm_tongueguyfu 60 M
1  Article
communications   6/6/2005

Communications between you and you partner are the essential ingredints when building a relationship. Good communications on every level verbal, touch, listening, and response to name a few. So take you time and learn from each other you will reach new levels younever dreamed of.


1 Comments, 162 Views, 9 Votes ,3.64 Score
cal_man78 63 M
4  Articles
Still in the dark   6/5/2005

Update: I may be loosing it lol...I still cannot read this woman, soon as I think I get it, she changes lol....so I put my brakes on and hold back. i.e. article title: "What to do?" (Read it, may help to follow where I am at) I hope soon that things will become more clearer...She is still in the no relationship mode, sometimes she seems to break away from it just a little but gets herself ...


0 Comments, 196 Views, 10 Votes ,2.59 Score
rm_reisaree 42 F
11  Articles
Have to Rebuild Now..   6/5/2005

don't know how many of you read the articles all the <br> time. But a while back I posted in the "Breaking Up" section regarding my husband and my feelings for our marraige. <br> Lots has happened since that article including the fact <br> that my husband read it and everything else I have posted. <br> Has that stopped me from saying and posting things ...


4 Comments, 400 Views, 21 Votes ,4.12 Score
Lies , Deception, and the rich man its all about who is taking advantage of who   6/4/2005

We have all been there, you meet someone online, you talk for hours, days and then weeks. This person does not seem perfect, but you are willing to take a chance and meet him. I did this. I agreed to meet this person, and then he drops a little information to me. He wants to know if it makes a difference that he is in a wheelchair. I tell him it does not. And that is the truth, what does ...


1 Comments, 229 Views, 15 Votes ,2.52 Score
   2005-05-31

Everyone has their very own trick of the trade - what is the "one thing" that you use to keep your prospective partners coming back to you - sexually or not? Class would have to be my "1 thing" With class, you are able to do a lot more than others and get away with it, and your partners would want to be even more discreet about your encounters because, let's face it, how many uninhibited and eager to please classy ladies do you really know? I'd get snatched up pretty quickly, so they had better be hush about me!


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rm_cosgirl_83 40 F
2  Articles
one night stands?   5/31/2005

why is it that everyone in this site or any adult site for that matter is just looking for sex...fair enough sex is great but it doesnt fulfil all of ones desires..what ever happened to movies, and dinner, and the old fashioned ways..i might only be 21, but ive been brought up to have respect for myself. im not about to go screw someone, cos ya horney..isnt that what vibraters are ...


6 Comments, 516 Views, 37 Votes ,5.52 Score
True Feelings...   5/30/2005

I consider myself conservative.. yet my true feelings want me to discover myself. <br> I have been faithful so far.. yet.. the inner me feels that I should have an intimate and discreet relationship. <br> I know it is disrespectful to seek out an intimate relationship... yet I feel that so long as I build a friendship and not hurt her feelings.. it should be ok. ...


1 Comments, 87 Views, 12 Votes ,1.92 Score
Approaching a Relationship   5/30/2005

Base rules obviously apply that every single individual is unique and reacts differently to varying actions. I'm a pretty straight forward chivilarous type of guy who understands the little nuances of behavior especially in regards to the communication department which I'm pretty good at. I'm also smart enough to know what does and doesn't work for me. I'm very knowledgable and I know ...


0 Comments, 69 Views, 9 Votes ,2.14 Score
Not Everything Here Is Just Sex   5/30/2005

Alot say that everybody here only are after for sex..I say its no truth!! Shouting it loud NO TRUTH!! I met lots of members here but a special relationship build-up. I have met people who are nice open minded that i became friends with in many ways have helped me see myself, my strength, learn me of my sexual prowse. Its up to the subcriber of this website how one deals with the people ...


3 Comments, 127 Views, 20 Votes ,3.38 Score
wanting515 39 F
3  Articles
Maybe you can help me?   5/30/2005

I have known this guy for almost a year now.The first day that we met we fooled around.My friends knew him longer than me so it wasnt like all of us just met him.He is twenty eight and I just turned twenty. In the past year we have probably hung out about five times.I know where he works so I can see him whenever I want.At first everything went real well but then we started to fall ...


4 Comments, 192 Views, 10 Votes ,2.39 Score
Treat her right   5/29/2005

The web, and with it, swing sites, offer a world of opportunities for people to meet new friends and enjoy both companionship and clean, safe erotic experiences. BUT, there are enough men out there playing games, that it gives all of us a bad reputation, AND it does injustice to the women who are looking for a fun but honest relationship. Please - men - when you chat with ladies on ...


0 Comments, 81 Views, 11 Votes ,4.66 Score
One night Stand???   5/27/2005

Hi, thanks for reading this... I just want to know what ever happen to Getting to Know somebody and friendship??? No one at this site its looking for that. Everyone want to get FUCK or FUCK really hard. Doesn't matter what happens...Don't get me wrong its really nice to get Fucked or to Fuck but at least call after that or get together occassially or something.... But the truth is that ...


2 Comments, 225 Views, 25 Votes ,4.46 Score
wifey3223 55 F
20  Articles
other women especially cacasion?   5/27/2005

as a sister, refrence to black women . I HATE WHEN , A WHITE WOMEN SAYS I NEED TO WATCH WHO, IM DATING. WE ALL AS WOMEN HAVE THESE PROBLEMS ITS NOT JUST BLACK, WHITE, ASIANS ALL.when , i write a post thats all there responses are there any counsolers in here, therapist, doctors. women of certain races think they no all, but yet when i give my opion. one says to me who elected me to speak ...


7 Comments, 167 Views, 10 Votes ,2.59 Score
rm_taska_11 77 M
5  Articles
cyber sex and the fantasy   5/26/2005

I've written several stories about experiences and desires from the people I've meet on SEXFinder.com. I think I have meet more interesting people that post comments on the stories, and I seem to make their days and nights more enjoyable. One lady recently started corresponding with me and sending pictures. This lady is for real, and loves to show you what you want to see. No longer that I asked ...


1 Comments, 116 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
Success/Disappointing Stories   5/21/2005

Hi All, <br> We met here on SEXFinder.com, and currently have a great relationship. There is honest, open communication, common interests, and fantastic sex. We believe these attributes will help us grow even closer, and substantiate a long-term relationship. <br> Are there other members out there that have hooked up here on SEXFinder.com, that would like to share their success stories? ...


1 Comments, 106 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
3Some Success Rate on SEXFinder.com   5/21/2005

As a m/f couple trying to find a bi-female for threesome fun, I've come across many other couples having the same difficulty of successfully meeting a woman on Adult FriendFinder who fits the bill. I'm curious to know the success rate of specifically m/f couples and single women who have actually met through SEXFinder.com. In addition to the success story, please share any tips of ...


1 Comments, 226 Views, 9 Votes ,5.56 Score
rm_heighhardwon 45 M
2  Articles
yeppi   5/18/2005

no relationship is a good relationship


2 Comments, 87 Views, 8 Votes ,1.39 Score
rm_sixsixtwelve 54 M
4  Articles
Serious or Joking?   5/14/2005

Serious or Joking? Women who live in: In your Dreams, None of your Business, Somewhere Near You... etc. <br> It tickles me to read people who post personals like these. I wonder if they get many responses? <br> I guess proximity is not an issue for them?


1 Comments, 72 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
How do u survive the time in between without contact and the empty feeling/loneliness at that time?   5/14/2005

Well, this is a tough one to write...nervous. But, when u care an love osmeone and the response back is the same, then you do what u must do. I have met 2 wonderful ladies in SEXFinder.com and it seems one has taken a stong liking to me and =I her. The other is more the , well, shal we say, the guarded type...more serious and thinks more. I can understand that fully and have told her so. But ...


0 Comments, 115 Views, 0 Votes
Pyro36932 47 M
6  Articles
Honesty part 2??   5/13/2005

From my last article "honesty does it really work" I have only gotten a few responses. I wrote that article as a comment and a question and not saying that I do it, believe it or not some people are honest. One person that wrote told the truth about not be honest and what it not worth it. For the other two, they took it and responded like I was the one not being honest. Just like that I got ...


1 Comments, 114 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
Is it possible to meet someone online, and find love?   5/12/2005

I have been on here for quite awhile now, but have only met a couple of men. I have had lunch dates both times. I am very leery of meeting for a drink, or for dinner. I just do not believe that meeting someone online will last! I am SO tired of caring about someone, only for them to start talking to someone else online, and think I am not so special, after all! That has happened to me twice ...


1 Comments, 475 Views, 28 Votes ,4.27 Score
direption69 54 F
20  Articles
What I need.....   5/12/2005

What I need is A soft touch Someone to be there Someone to hold To share the laughs and ironies To share the sorrows and tears A hand to hold Eyes to see Ears to hear Another soul who cares A shoulder, a face, a neck It doesn’t matter where It doesn’t matter what It doesn’t matter when Just a soul that's willing to accept I don't ...


6 Comments, 141 Views, 4 Votes ,2.08 Score
rm_WiccanRider 75 M
4  Articles
Only Time Will Tell   5/12/2005

Could this strange life that I live ever become my true life? Will the friends that I have made be close enough to meet? These questions that I ask can only be answered in time. This poses another question. Do I have the time left on earth to make it happen? Once again this can only be answered in time. <br> Then if time is the answer, The only way for my strange life to be ...


0 Comments, 27 Views, 0 Votes
rm_sixsixtwelve 54 M
4  Articles
Master Plans, Anyone?   5/11/2005

Hi. 6-6-12 here. Question for ya--- Anyone here have/had any sort of master plan? For instance, finish high school and marry your childhood sweetheart, or wait until ya finish college before ya date, or win the lottery and live it up? Howzabout plans for meeting some folk or some one here? I would assume you could exchange winks, then invite one to your network and get to know ...


2 Comments, 35 Views, 2 Votes ,0.34 Score
Pyro36932 47 M
6  Articles
Honesty does it really work??   5/11/2005

Ha, everyone! Well I have read a article about people being honest, and I agreed with that person 100% that people can't handle other people being honest even when they ask for it. In my profile I was totally honest and told the truth in what I'm looking for and so far I've had some people look at my profile. I have also posted a few article in different Categories and still I ...


5 Comments, 94 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
Vampire_Goddess0 38 F
1  Article
Long distance   5/10/2005

I am in a long distance relationship and have been for 3 months. I love my partner and everything and i don't want to loose him because they are the best thing that ever happened to me and i dont know if i could tell anyone about my past again like he knows me, But recently over the past few weeks we dont talk anymore. We sit on the phone in silence mostly saying very little to each other. ...


2 Comments, 178 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
rm_sexxahchicka 38 F
2  Articles
Is there really ANY way of working in a long distance relationship?   5/10/2005

Every long distance relationship I've been in, sucked. I wanna know if it's like this with you guys too.


4 Comments, 117 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
Love and Friends   5/9/2005

Yes it is true that we look for someone who will be a friend to our friends but what if that person does not want to be friends with your friends? What is more important -- the relationship or the friendship? This is a defining moment in our lives because for somethings we must compromise and sometimes we must stand firm. I think the most important question is to ask -- do her friends ...


0 Comments, 51 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
funbuggy 42 M
1  Article
Babe in the Woods   5/8/2005

So here's the deal. As an inexperienced 22-year old male, I'm sorely conscious of what I'm missing in the dating game. To build up esteem, I've been toying with the idea of having some casual sexual encounters with women in the hope of boosting my confidence. I hope this will help me be more relaxed the next time I go on a date. When approaching women, I am painfully shy, and the fairer ...


2 Comments, 146 Views, 5 Votes ,1.19 Score
rm_juswes74 39 M
4  Articles
Is it mind games only here?   5/8/2005

I've been a member for sometime, I have found that some people do not trust you when you are utterly honest with them. I have found a few times that it seems to be the women who are not the honest ones. This site is for people who want to enjoy other people. I have only so far mind games. Very frustrating but I home in time I will get to know someone worth while. Thx


0 Comments, 92 Views, 0 Votes
is it wrong?   5/5/2005

Is it wrong to have a relationship with someone that you only like physically? I don't think it's so bad, as long as you both enjoy what you get out of it.


2 Comments, 129 Views, 9 Votes ,2.78 Score
HARD469ERS 80 M
1  Article
WHY IS IT SO HARD?   5/5/2005

IVE BEEN LOOKING FOR A REALLY NICE GUY FOR A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP AND IT JUST DONT HAPPEN. IM NOT BAD LOOKING, HAVE A PRETTY NICE BODY, AND AM A VERY LOVING, CARING PERSON. OF COURSE I AM 61 YEARS OLD AND THAT PROBABLY REALLY TURNS OFF THE YOUNGER GUYS, BUT WHY?? WE SENIORS HAVE WEATHERED THE STORMS AND HAVE PATIENCE, MOST GENERALLY AM VERY TRUSTING AND TRUE TO THE PERSON WE ARE ...


1 Comments, 84 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
So far so good   5/4/2005

We have just begun to talk about the lifestyle. And if nothing else it has strengthened our communication with each other. Its has provoked some conversations and I feel like this is something you need to talk about before doing. Has anyone had a meeting that just turned you off from meeting more people?? I want to know that after the sex you can still hang out and be friends. The sex is ...


1 Comments, 45 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
Compatabilty through personality types and horoscopes.   5/1/2005

My personality type is INTJ. According to the SEXFinder.com site, there are no women who are my personality matches (INTJ or INTP). How can this be? <br> Am I missing something, or is there no way to search for matches by other such criteria? Why not set up a matching system for horoscopes of both types and from thos matches test them against Cupid settings? <br> And, while I'm ...


1 Comments, 58 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
Is it really possible?   5/1/2005

Is it really possible to find “just friendship” from this site? I’m been married for 25 years and we are just now starting to emerge from the roughest time of our marriage. The one thing that has helped us is knowing it’s possible to have close friends of the opposite sex out side of the marriage. After 25 years of being tightly rapped around your partner and ...


0 Comments, 90 Views, 2 Votes ,0.34 Score
Advice for first timers   4/30/2005

My wife and I are just starting with the possibility. of swinging. We enjoy sex very much and love each other with no limits. She gets hot watching porn. It turns her on big time to watch someone get it hard. She likes it hard and fast. After talking to her about it, she said it would be fun to fuck in the same room as another couple. I have seen some pic's of women in here I would love to ...


1 Comments, 142 Views, 7 Votes ,1.51 Score
Starting it off...   4/28/2005

Starting it off… <br> I saw another women comment on opening mail and I thought it to be funny, funny though only because it is so accurate. <br> I think a lot of guys see a naked body and then suddenly respond to that without thinking of what she has to say of her desires. <br> Every woman that has mailed me has made direct responses to my profile and ...


1 Comments, 155 Views, 17 Votes ,5.53 Score
Starting a relationship.   4/28/2005

Do NOT use "u" to mean "you." Do NOT use "4" to mean "for." <br> When I see those two -- and some others I can't remember because I'm so angry -- I feel the girl is about 12 and/or not very bright. <br> Please, girls, use words. The right words. Check your spelling. I see lots of complaints about how men write like they're stupid -- and the women do not recognize that ...


5 Comments, 157 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
Internet Dating   4/26/2005

Internet Dating <br> <br> We all come to the Internet for something different; we all ended up here for a different reason as well. I think a lot of people here are strictly here because they saw the word “sex” in the title and missed the part about swingers and personals. <br> I know that personally I have experienced things in life that ...


0 Comments, 101 Views, 17 Votes ,5.67 Score
onestickatatime 62 M
1  Article
Mr.Mom   4/24/2005

I wonder if a guy with 2 has a chance at meeting someone on here that would like to share there life, body and soul? Any thoughts, suggestions would be helpful. Have a great day! Keith


1 Comments, 77 Views, 4 Votes ,2.08 Score
onestickatatime 62 M
1  Article
Pictures   4/24/2005

I have a note for the guys out there looking for a long term relationship. If a woman doesn't have a photo you can save alot of time by passing up the profile. They are not stable or happy with the way they look. If you do decide to check them out they might give you a photo of when they were a bit happier with themselves, but rest assured they are not at all like the photo they will send ...


0 Comments, 168 Views, 12 Votes ,1.56 Score
jump163 61 M
10  Articles
Well Now   4/23/2005

There is to ways to build a relaitonship you just haft to ask you self if you want a good one or a bad one.To have a good one you need to care deeply about that person, be honest, loving and carring, and very open to that person.Now to build a bad relationship just lie cheat and disrespect that person and you will have it. Always treat them if there was know tomarrow.


0 Comments, 50 Views, 3 Votes ,0.98 Score
It is all about TRUST!   4/22/2005

The base for a strong relationship is "Trust". If you trust each other, there will be no jealousy or doubt in either of your minds. <br> Remember trust is only the base, caring, consideration, love, goodwill, and commitment are needed to sustain a relationship.


1 Comments, 67 Views, 6 Votes ,3.65 Score
867LOVE2206 45 M
10  Articles
Reality & Relationships   4/21/2005

listen, I dont believe in anything relative to "the perfect relationship". Men are never satisfied with that woman that go the extra mile for them. They only realise the sweetness of their cherry after its gone. Women are the same, they tend to not see that they have a good man. They just keep looking at the other girls DIC. Females you too need to realise that men only look better in the ...


0 Comments, 111 Views, 5 Votes ,2.16 Score
BigBlkKing4u 50 M
1  Article
Being 100% honest about what you want   4/20/2005

Relationships seem hard many times becuase we are not blunt and to the point about what we really want. It is true that compromise is necessary to develop a relationship, BUT you have to at least know what those things are that you need to compromise about. <br> I have seen from personal experience what happens when you hide away dreams, desires and wants that you have in your ...


1 Comments, 93 Views, 9 Votes ,3.85 Score
what is safe sex really...???   4/20/2005

As we go down the road today we hear all types of people say...that they are really D/D free...is that a part of safe sex...??? Condoms are the only way to have safe sex..or unless you let your partner give you massage relief..but really what is safe sex...In one persons eyes its one thing but to another it is something different..Well to all..have safe sex...keep it clean...


1 Comments, 86 Views, 10 Votes ,2.59 Score
lb2be 40 M
2  Articles
Friendship is the Key   4/17/2005

I may be have just become a full-fledged man, at the age of 21 and three-quarters, but there is certainly one thing that I've learned about relationships. Unless it is founded on a friendship, it is doomed for failure. I have been privileged to have a significant other for three years and I know that if the small things between us weren't there, we would no longer be together. Think ...


0 Comments, 154 Views, 16 Votes ,5.19 Score
My hubby masturbates   4/14/2005

I have a big problem. I got married recently some months ago and mine was a love marriage. The problem now is that every night my husband watches television (channels like FTV) and masturbates. I know all this as I pretend to be asleep and let him do what he wants but inside of me I really feel worthless. And then when I wanna have sex with him than most of the times he declines and ...


6 Comments, 684 Views, 24 Votes ,4.04 Score
Is this the place?   4/12/2005

I am horny and yet I want a proper r/s..not just a fling..am I in the right place..with the right mindset?


0 Comments, 120 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
cal_man78 63 M
4  Articles
What to do???   4/12/2005

I met this lady on this site, we chatted on messengers, and phone for about 2months, she is getting ready to take some college courses to get her nursing license, she new I had room in my place and I offered it to her since her classes were going to be in my town. One of the first rules of this business (lol...) adventure was there were to be no sex, no personal relationship, since she will ...


2 Comments, 384 Views, 4 Votes ,2.08 Score
hornycouple1414 34 C
1  Article
woman on woman is not just a chore !   4/12/2005

I beleive being with a woman is not just a chore like some people think. It takes time to open up, you need to build a friendship, then the benfits come after it all. i have been in 3 threesomes. You get all these man that think its just happens in a blink of an eye because its a lot of guys dreams to see but things like this involve some sort of relationship to happen . SO TAKE A MIN , ...


0 Comments, 266 Views, 8 Votes ,1.39 Score
rm_sidedish4u2 51 M
2  Articles
Dont give 100% you will loose yourself and your other half (pt2)   4/6/2005

Part 2 --The 80% giver-- Well by now I'm sure you know that I'm a lil off the deep end. Especially that I'm writing this article as a married man seeking fullfilment.. because nobody's perfect, remember. I came to a harsh realization that I wasn't going to find anyone to return unconditional love as I would want to receive it. Because every time I gave 100% they expected more and more ...


1 Comments, 154 Views, 7 Votes ,2.53 Score
rm_warrior5674 39 M
8  Articles
Getting past the first stage   4/5/2005

Starting and building a relationship is a trying and at times stressful endeavor. Attemping to learn about another person while teaching them about yourself is not easy, but it can happen. I offer a few points of advice. First, always think about the other persons needs and desires first. This is especially true when it comes to physical intimacy. Always tell the truth when asked a ...


0 Comments, 161 Views, 10 Votes ,1.99 Score
rm_sidedish4u2 51 M
2  Articles
Dont give 100% you will loose yourself and your other half   4/5/2005

Ok I'm not Dr Phill. But you can call me Dr Side.... LOL. Ever since I was 19 I've always found myself at the listening end of somebody's relationship woes both male and female, good and bad, who ranged in age from 14-45. Now that I'm in my mid 30's the only thing that has changed is my view on how to commit and no longer what to commit. I still get an earful day in and day out from all ...


0 Comments, 160 Views, 7 Votes ,2.02 Score
Love With My Accountant   4/3/2005

I work in a small office and was fortunate to hire a beautiful accountant for my company. I was more interested in her for her credentials and less her looks, but thought it would be nice eye candy. She is in her mid-forties but has the face and body of a 20 year old give or take. Of course, both of us married kept in notion of a dalliance out of the question. Well, so I thought. It being ...


0 Comments, 314 Views, 9 Votes ,2.57 Score
FreeAgain21 60 F
8  Articles
Being Bi-sexual   4/2/2005

I am bi-sexual and have had alot of problems establishing a lasting relationship with either male or female. I am always upfront about my sexuality from the start of any relationship. My partners tell me they have no problem with the fact that I am bi-sexual, and love to have sex. Yet, there always comes a time when my sexuality is thrown in my face. (Usually with me being accused of ...


3 Comments, 185 Views, 11 Votes ,5.60 Score
dont ever stop building   4/2/2005

2 years ago after umpteen years of marriage me and my husband decided to finally split. I wont go into detail but the once happy relationship was dead and had been for a while. For the childrens sake we wanted to part on good terms, after just one week it became clear we couldn't be apart, we started dating again and fell in love all over again, last year on our 14th wedding anniversary we ...


1 Comments, 143 Views, 13 Votes ,3.65 Score
Creativesoulsin1 47,1946 C
10  Articles
Trust while trisiting in a relationship   3/31/2005

Tristing~ Do you know what that is? You know its when you play in SEXFinder.com land~ that is you are here to get hooked up with others of like mind. The one thing that you truly need in order to make things work while having fun here and being in a relationship is to trust each other. That is work at communication and what you want. Set the boundries that will set you and your ...


1 Comments, 197 Views, 13 Votes ,3.48 Score
So the wedding is approaching...   3/28/2005

So yeah the wedding is approaching now at an increadible speed and I am getting a little cold in the feet thinking what sex is going to be like after we have tied the knot. I know i have heard over and over that the sex just gets beter, thats all good, I'm worried about the frequency. We do it now like once every 2 weeks and the wedding is a month away and I'm not feeling so good about ...


2 Comments, 63 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
wifey3223 55 F
20  Articles
TRYING,to know alot of SEXFinder.com,members,get noticed more.   3/28/2005

Hello, once again, everyone or some did not understand my holler article, caps comments.someone comented , people were gonna complain about caps .Did , they mean letters (I HEARD BIG LETTERS MEAN YOURE SCREAMING).thats not my intention, i just write in any casing.i thought, in chat rooms he meant was.i cursing him .lolsome of you, indent more, i will learn better soon..... alot of men just ...


0 Comments, 80 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
First Meeting   3/26/2005

From The first meeting or first date i think its always important to have a sence of humor. And not be uptight be considerate of each others feelings, wants, and needs throughout the relationship and if your girlfriend or boyfriend seems like he is distant and is not as happy as as he used to be Dont be afraid to ask whats wrong.understanding the person and the way they think can keep you ...


0 Comments, 73 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
Like a mile race...   3/26/2005

You don't want to start out sprinting off the line and give everything you have at the beginning only to be exhausted after the first quarter-mile with nothing left to give nor do you want to start off too slow to let everyone take such a lead you can't catch up and win in the end. Many of our friends have made this mistake and lost the other party over and over again from making this ...


0 Comments, 160 Views, 21 Votes ,4.24 Score
devi_ous 42,1937 C
4  Articles
what does it take?   3/23/2005

i want to know what compromises evry one has to take to make a relationship work?


4 Comments, 120 Views, 6 Votes ,2.80 Score
rm_RavenBeauty5 56 C
5  Articles
Communication is important   3/23/2005

Communication between the two of us began in a chatroom. I had met her online four years ago and we are engaged to be married this June. We have been through our ups and downs as a couple, but what brought us through was our communication. What made it hard for us was we had to unlearn all the bad of our past relationships and build a new one with each other. We had our share of ...


1 Comments, 108 Views, 12 Votes ,5.27 Score
The first, and most important, step in building a relationship   3/22/2005

Well, folks. Its obvious that you cannot build a real relationship without meeting someone and talking to them. Unfortunately, it seems that this is where most men and women have a problem. Overcoming the initial fear of approaching someone new, especially someone that you are attracted to, can be ridiculously hard. Lets face it, it can be intimidating as hell. It has been my ...


1 Comments, 112 Views, 8 Votes ,4.87 Score
FLLover4U269 47 M
1  Article
Bi-Sexual Trists...Can They Work?   3/19/2005

Bi-Sexuality has always been a major item of interest to me for several years now. Out of all the various sexual deviations, bi-sexuality has to be the most scorned of all. <br> It is the only sexual deviation of the norm that pits homophobs and homosexuals on the same side 99.9% of the time. <br> Although science tends to say that homosexuality and bi-sexuality are ...


0 Comments, 135 Views, 10 Votes ,2.79 Score
drive bye profile check   3/18/2005

this is for women to be discreet and check out the who`s interested in them .have the man stand on a street corner at a curtain time. and drive bye and check it out. and keep it all a seceret.


1 Comments, 198 Views, 10 Votes ,1.00 Score
FunFriendsXX 56 M
4  Articles
It make it better   3/16/2005

Hey friends have more fun and are better relationship.


1 Comments, 133 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
tigers20022 56,2013 C
2  Articles
why is that   3/15/2005

why is it on SEXFinder.com that you build up a good relationship (or you think so)and then when the topic of meeting up comes up the other party seems to get cold feet. im not say they should jump straight into bed or anything but they should meet up as even if the bed sene or what ever you want dos'ent come off good friendship could happen. so please people give it a go, you might just enjoy it.


8 Comments, 330 Views, 26 Votes ,4.00 Score
To Rebuild, or Not to Rebuild   3/12/2005

There is an ongoing group discussion called "What about guilt?" that is addressing how to deal with the guilt associated with having an affair. The consensus was, "if the guilt out weighs the positive experience, then don't do it. But, don't forget to factor into the equation the result of getting caught. It could make the guilt feel like nothing by comparison". Then, the posts took a ...


1 Comments, 265 Views, 9 Votes ,2.78 Score
seeker_o_passion 50 F
2  Articles
Travel or not to travel?   3/11/2005

Having spent the last two weeks travelling all over Michigan meeting people from this site, all I can say is - whew. After driving sometimes hours, just to meet someone, then in the case of one gentleman, having them fall asleep on you, a little disappointing. Then incorporate the cost of gas, and possible bodily injury due to maybe falling asleep at the wheel, (almost happened to me last ...


3 Comments, 330 Views, 14 Votes ,3.46 Score
deadcoad 46 M
2  Articles
Aunty in my next door   3/11/2005

When I look out at a Married woman next door she is exposing her brests too much.Is it a sexual invitation for me? Plaese advice.


2 Comments, 492 Views, 8 Votes ,3.48 Score
Tips on wining the dating dating game.   3/10/2005

Doesn’t it seem odd that there are so many frustrated surfers wiping out at meeting, dating or whatever it is you are looking for on personal web sites? Ok, I know you have to put a solid effort to achieve results and doing things that grab attention. But did you ever consider that people are afraid of failure or some misfortune? Or is it that people are so picky, they blow by a ...


2 Comments, 1942 Views, 122 Votes ,4.55 Score
College   3/10/2005

Several years ago when I was in college. I was having a few afternoon beers with a buddy of mine in a bar when we ran into this girl who my buddy really wanted to, for lack of a better word, screw. My buddy had a few weeks before fallen down some stairs while drunk and had torn his Achilles Tendon. He was on crutches and a bit incapacitated.


1 Comments, 547 Views, 11 Votes
seaskorpio 52 M
1  Article
WHY?   3/9/2005

WHY THE WOMANS OR MEN , AFTER ACCEPT THE INVITE IN NETWORK NOT ANSEWR MORE OR NOT GIVE THE INFORMATION FOR CONTACT AND START THE FRIENDSHIP THAT ALL HOPEFULL? IF ACCEPT IS FOR SERIOUS MATTER? OR IT S ONLY FOR HAVE THE PICTURE IN THE NETWORK AND SHOW AND OTHE FRIEND?


7 Comments, 640 Views, 14 Votes ,1.22 Score
Where are the honest women at?   3/8/2005

Good Day every one, I just joined this site about a week ago and I must say that there are some people out there who just can't be honest about what they want out of a relationship, I on the other hand know what I want and am willing speak out against both genders who for some reason can't or won't stop playing mind games. you either want to just have sex or you don't it is as simple as ...


0 Comments, 842 Views, 21 Votes ,4.61 Score
rm_RIDE1963 61 M
2  Articles
Meeting people   3/4/2005

I thought meeting people here would be easy , but its still the real world . I no the people i do eventually meet will be friends of mine . , and the memories will last a life time.


2 Comments, 460 Views, 8 Votes ,1.86 Score
rm_Hilltoper46 37 M
1  Article
Getting back together with ex-gf   2/26/2005

My gf and I broke up 8 months ago, and I havent been able to think of anyone else except her. We both knew that we loved eachother, but figured that the time wasnt right yet. We still keep in touch since we both live close to eachother and go to the same university. Recently shes been seein a new guy but I can tell she isnt that happy with him. We havent talked about getting back ...


4 Comments, 233 Views, 15 Votes ,2.67 Score
JacksonWICouple 51 C
8  Articles
Is you realationship great or bad and single men and women should take NOTE!   2/24/2005

Have you ever wondered if yours is really that great? Have you wondered how great your man or women is really in bed? Have you figured out why your jealous if your the jealous type. <br> Well I can personally tell you I used to be jealous about 8 years ago , my name is Greg , It is the feeling of someone being better than you and pleasing your mate better than you can or the ...


1 Comments, 208 Views, 21 Votes ,3.25 Score
The first kiss   2/22/2005

If you were on a first date and the woman you were with turned out to be a bad kisser, would it be shallow to end it right there?


5 Comments, 270 Views, 16 Votes ,3.57 Score
lthrnlcey 53 C
7  Articles
Too fast?   2/21/2005

What is to fast to let an un-suspecting partner know your ambitions sexually? Like, say, the ambitions we all put on Hotmatch and the reason we are all members on Hotmatch. Now , i know this is really a hypothetical question, but say you have just met that mr. or mrs or miss right, when do you let them know you want more in your sexual relationship then they alone are going to be able to ...


1 Comments, 260 Views, 27 Votes ,2.71 Score
rayshot007 58 M
3  Articles
Gamesbond007 Extra Comments   2/21/2005

Well 235 responses to my posting, not bad, but wish i had <br> as many messages from you women out there or are men really <br> from mars and women from venus, if so birth must be from the <br> virgin rock found all over our landscape. <br> <br> <br> <br> Ha Ha <br> <br> <br> <br> Im Back ...


0 Comments, 363 Views, 17 Votes ,1.57 Score
superscrthandle 40 F
1  Article
It takes work   2/21/2005

That is the bottom line. So many people seem to have the opinion that ok ive found someone now its easy street from here. That is not the case. A true relationship takes tons of work and committment. Thru the good and the bad. Compromise is hard but you both do it. If you are not willing to realize in the beginning that finding someone is really the easy part and that the so called ...


7 Comments, 2973 Views, 358 Votes ,6.12 Score
Pet Names   2/20/2005

To men & women who think it's okay to use pet names with someone you just meet...think again. Being single & not in any relationship at the moment, I don't care for a women to call me: <br> Darling Sweetie Honey Hun Babe etc... <br> For the most part, I may have just started talking to you & don't know you nor do you know me. The same goes for men who do the ...


14 Comments, 323 Views, 17 Votes ,2.42 Score
uncleshos 49 M
2  Articles
building a relationship   2/18/2005

that's what i'm trying to do - build a relationship. i need points in my account to do this so i write this article.


0 Comments, 106 Views, 11 Votes ,2.05 Score
Why are Most of these men on this site EITHER FIREMAN...COPS..OR MILITARY???   2/17/2005

Why are Most of these men on this site EITHER FIREMAN...COPS..OR MILITARY?? Its it that You all have to much time on your hands??? he..he...


4 Comments, 206 Views, 12 Votes ,0.50 Score
a "dating" website?   2/15/2005

I must ask a question..........why is it that the website specifically states "sex and swinger " and people are using it as a "dating" site.......stating on the profile..."no married men".........just curious.........


6 Comments, 446 Views, 10 Votes ,1.59 Score
Trust   2/12/2005

There can be no greater good then trust. Without it there is no foundation for friendship, let alone a relationship. Sure there may be lust, but is that enought? Without something as fundamental as trust to fall back on there can be no self reliance, no ability to carry on safe in the knowledge that 'at least i am the one' (at least in someone's eyes). Without trust are we doomed to an ...


0 Comments, 74 Views, 9 Votes ,2.78 Score
Should a little "Fib"; be construed as a "lie" in a relationship??/   2/12/2005

My girlfriend and I were watching TV, when the phone rank. Not looking at the caller ID, I answered the phone instead of letting it go to voice mail. On the other end was a lady friend of mine, who is JUST a friend and nothing more.....She called just to tease me about who was playing football on TV at the time. I kept the conversation short and hung up, going back to sit down with ...


5 Comments, 245 Views, 12 Votes ,3.15 Score
build   2/11/2005

Well I bielieve that you must work together on everything.It`s fifty fifty when you are with someone.Buil it first on companionship then move to sex and life in genral.Treat your women like a princess everyday .And then true love might find you


0 Comments, 40 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
The Older The Better?   2/10/2005

I see and hear people say rather often that older men or women make better lovers or partners. I think it is true in very few ways meaning it is mostly wrong. <br> <br> The primary reason that older men or women might make better lovers is not actually based off experience it is based off knowledge. Lot's of younger guys are fast and furious, and do not slow down ...


2 Comments, 153 Views, 10 Votes ,3.58 Score
rm_gemini6622 61 M
1  Article
How do you maintain a relationship once it has started?   2/7/2005

Having grown up with a father in the military and moving all over the world with him I don't know how to maintain a long term relationship. I've married twice and both times for the wrong reasons, now I'm single again. I've met my soulmate but have said some things that have hurt her deeply and she has withdrawn from me. We are still friends and working on rebuilding the relationship. We ...


4 Comments, 166 Views, 17 Votes ,3.41 Score
rm_real69funguy 65 M
3  Articles
Truth in advertising......   2/4/2005

I have been on SEXFinder.com for a while. Met two nice people who were liars in the end. why is honesty so difficult in this forum. Say what you want, want what you ask for......is all I am looking for.....any advice for me? <br> Thanks.


4 Comments, 202 Views, 12 Votes ,3.15 Score
luvs2eatpussy56 68 M
7  Articles
What are you looking for   2/2/2005

Now let's be serious about this. This is a sex and swinger personals site. So what are you looking for? If it is a long-term relationship then just how much does sex factor into it? What would you expect from advertising on this site? I've seen some profiles from women that seemed real nice. But are they really, I would honestly have to give them the benefit of the doubt. Honesty is ...


4 Comments, 141 Views, 14 Votes ,3.46 Score
am i just a little impatient.   2/2/2005

i thought i joined this site to get sex from local women, not think about it. yes some women have responded, but the responses are like"maybe in a few weeks", instead of "how about tonight".should I just wait until they are completely ready? how long should i wait?


3 Comments, 214 Views, 15 Votes ,1.75 Score
Just Curious   1/29/2005

How many people can honestly say they have met someone on this site that was not full of shit and a meaningful relationship came of your date/meeting? I’m just curious to know.


8 Comments, 684 Views, 28 Votes ,4.16 Score
The ex   1/28/2005

i've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months and it's great. before me however he dated a girl for 5 years. the other night when we were having sex he called me her name. they never had sex but they were intimate. he told me that he didn't love her and that he loved me but it made me wonder. what should i do?


6 Comments, 273 Views, 19 Votes ,2.99 Score
rm_hotbtweenlgs 69 C
24  Articles
respect of a woman   1/28/2005

"Be very careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved."


1 Comments, 294 Views, 38 Votes ,6.56 Score
Relationship not SEX   1/27/2005

All over the world most people are interested in entering into a relationship because of sex, but it goes way beyoung sex.I shall use my self as an example, i met this handsome guy last two years and i really liked him we stated from friends and then one night i was sitting in front of my house which is his house as well becuase his brother came to rent an partment there.so as i was saying, ...


1 Comments, 241 Views, 18 Votes ,2.58 Score
rm_real69funguy 65 M
3  Articles
Truth in adversiting   1/26/2005

I have spent many months getting to know two different women. Both turned out to be other than what they said. One was 300lbs plus ( said she had a "few x-tra pounds") and the other revealed at the last minute that she had an STD after saying she was clean. What EXACTLY does a man have to say to get a woman to be truthful?


2 Comments, 348 Views, 15 Votes ,5.73 Score
shortandsweet36 58 C
2  Articles
Will this help?   1/23/2005

My boyfriend and I are starting a new sex life. We are looking for bi females or couples..My question is is this gonna make us stonger or tear us apart?


7 Comments, 265 Views, 14 Votes ,2.82 Score
HunkInHeat2005 60 M
20  Articles
For Ladies Only: Annihilate Male Liar's Quickly   1/21/2005

OK OK, I’ve been a bit rough the last couple of days, going way out of my way to make trouble for you. I’m sorry ladies. I’m going to attempt to make it up to you now, by suggesting some strategies to weed out males liar’s quickly, so you don’t waste your precious time with them. First, let’s pull the curtain back, and have a peek at the core ...


2 Comments, 403 Views, 21 Votes ,1.27 Score
jbd83 58 M
2  Articles
Honesty   1/21/2005

Honesty, that's what most people start off with, when describing what they are looking for in a relationship. However, I have found very little honesty on this or any site. Let's start with physical attributes. Unless health class has changed dramatically in the past few years. If you weigh more than 20 pounds above your height ratio, then you have a couple extra pounds. This does not ...


2 Comments, 315 Views, 22 Votes ,3.73 Score
HunkInHeat2005 60 M
20  Articles
Taking On The Ladies: Strategies in Fighting Back #1   1/20/2005

I’m feeling frisky tonight, after getting my ass kicked in my BDSM fantasy. So it’s time to go after the ladies, again. I’m going to reveal a strategy that I utilize with my wife, in an effort to undermine her gurilla war against me. I call it my Contrary Strategy. Basically it works like this. This is most effective when used regarding completely inconsequential ...


2 Comments, 406 Views, 14 Votes ,2.66 Score
HunkInHeat2005 60 M
20  Articles
How Women Use Dishwashers to Undermine Men   1/18/2005

Being that my Inbox is almost always empty, today I feel like causing some trouble. Sorry ladies, I know it’s not your fault. I suppose my eyes would glaze over, too, if I had as many emails as I think you’re getting. Nonetheless, I’m going to reveal a truth about one of the thousands of ways women engage men in a never-ending battle of subterfuge and attrition- designed to undermine ...


4 Comments, 371 Views, 29 Votes ,5.65 Score
How to get the sex without offending her   1/18/2005

I have found out, as a college student, that if you build a strong foundation with a female she will stick around. I simply explained to her that Im in college and at the moment don't see myself getting with anyone else but will not be exclusive to her. This has led to great sex and a lot of sexual favors


1 Comments, 5463 Views, 172 Votes ,1.09 Score
Strong Foundation in a relationship   1/18/2005

I find the best way to build a relationship is through a common background. I see two people coming from the same background with the same moral values as going a lot further than a couple that has little in common. This is usually the foundation of a relationship and it keeps one another interested. A better foundation in a relationship can usually lead to better sex.


0 Comments, 482 Views, 19 Votes ,2.33 Score
Strong Foundation in a relationship   1/18/2005

I find the best way to build a relationship is through a common background. I see two people coming from the same background with the same moral values as going a lot further than a couple that has little in common. This is usually the foundation of a relationship and it keeps one another interested. A better foundation in a relationship can usually lead to better sex.


6 Comments, 2295 Views, 282 Votes ,4.09 Score
HunkInHeat2005 60 M
20  Articles
Married Folks: Should I Stay or Should I Go   1/17/2005

I need the advice of married folks who have made the decision to have affairs, and are "living the life." Without going into the background of my particular situation (Which you can read about in my article titled "Married Women, How Can I Capture Your Attention"), as I see it the bottom line question, for someone considering leaving their mate, comes down to this: Is it more important to ...


5 Comments, 403 Views, 18 Votes ,5.85 Score
how to create Fort Worth....   1/17/2005

Self worth??? What kind of namby-pamby bullshit is that??? Self-esteem has nothing to do with building a relationship. Hell, if the relationship lasts any time at all, you won't have enough self-esteem left to wipe with. Self delusion is the key. Be a fucking schizoid SOB, talk in tongues, slobber on her mother, and jerk off during Oprah. Be the best that your sick deluded rat-fuck brain ...


0 Comments, 133 Views, 16 Votes ,0.04 Score
look in the mirror   1/16/2005

To build a true and strong relationship, just stand in front of the mirror and examine what it is you want from it. Ask yourself the tough questions and examine just how much of yourself you are willing to give away to the relationship. Anything less that true and utter honesty is doing neither of you any good.


2 Comments, 610 Views, 91 Votes ,4.23 Score
rm_shemaleVIDA 60 F
14  Articles
HOW TO CREATE SELF WORTH   1/16/2005

Self worth is not instant. It is a process, not a thing! Self worth is constantly being sapped and demolished by the nature of our society, and even the physics of our universe. A person is responsible for their own happiness, and also for their own self worth. Neither can really be bought, sold, given or accepted, despite all fuss to the contrary. Self worth, and happiness for that matter, ...


7 Comments, 2396 Views, 249 Votes ,6.77 Score
the super glue of love....   1/16/2005

There is nothing more important in a relationship then friendship. If you're not the best of friends then not a damn thing you try will work. If you two don't honestly just enjoy hanging out together, then there will be no future for you. Love, whatever the Hell that is, will quickly burn off. But friendship will last forever.


2 Comments, 203 Views, 19 Votes ,3.26 Score
rm_bdm1198 51 M
6  Articles
trust   1/16/2005

Trust is the what a relationship is.. If you dont have trust then you should look at your relationship because it probably isnt very strong


1 Comments, 155 Views, 17 Votes ,2.84 Score
betweenyourknees 46 M
4  Articles
((Build Win-win Relationships))   1/15/2005

((Build Win-win Relationships)) <br> The secret to building win-win relationships is honesty. You first have to be honest with yourself as to who you are and what you want, then act accordingly. You must also be honest with others that you have relationships with as to who you are and what you want from the relationship. Surprise, surprise, the relationships that do not give you ...


1 Comments, 89 Views, 11 Votes ,5.97 Score
HunkInHeat2005 60 M
20  Articles
Married ladies: How can a fellow married man capture your attention.   1/14/2005

If you are a married woman, and your reading this, chances are your in a similar boat. I would be indebted to any woman who would help me with this issue, and I want to thank you, in advance, for any advice you can offer. It seems to me that married men appear to be the scum of the earth in the eyes of most of the people utlilizing these sites. How can I convey that I'm actually a very ...


3 Comments, 308 Views, 18 Votes ,3.40 Score
HunkInHeat2005 60 M
20  Articles
How to get a man to do as you wish, without the typical struggle.   1/14/2005

Do you find men to be difficult and confounding? Consider this: First of all, let's get the truth on the table. Females (All animal's, including humans) are superior to males. No matter the measure, females come out on top, except brute strength.(Although pound for pound that may not be accurate.) You live longer, are healthier, better able to adapt and accept, work under stress more ...


4 Comments, 206 Views, 14 Votes ,2.34 Score
Relationships and "the lifestyle"   1/13/2005

Well, one thing is for sure, if you are a swinger and have tried all different types of connecting with others who are "like-minded" - you have probably run into the same problem occuring - no matter what the venue.... Trust Issues. <br> Clearly, there is a new age of swingers coming out of the closet. "Lifestylers" - (as they refer to themselves) these days will always air on ...


0 Comments, 152 Views, 17 Votes ,3.69 Score
Give me a reason to love you   1/12/2005

I'm so tired, of playing Playing with this bow and arrow Gonna give my heart away Leave it to the other girls to play For I've been a temptress too long <br> Just. . <br> Give me a reason to love you Give me a reason to bee, a woman I just wanna be a woman <br> From this time, unchained We're all looking at a different picture Thru this new ...


0 Comments, 59 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
Looking for advice from married women who have successfully found sex outside marriage   1/9/2005

I am pursuing the idea of having sex with another man. My husband is the only man I have ever slept with and I'm hoping that will change soon. I'm not sure yet if what I want is a one-time experience or to find a fuck buddy. I do know that the city I live in is small and it feels even smaller when I start contemplating having sex with another man and no one knowing about it. <br> ...


1 Comments, 315 Views, 17 Votes ,2.42 Score
sexhandle4349 70 C
1  Article
TO LAST FOREVER   1/8/2005

My hubby and I have a wonderful relationship and it is all because trust, loyality and love. We do everything together, tell each other everything, there is no secrets. I think is important. We enjoy open sex with other partners and enjoy each others bodies. We are married 15 years still feels like it is our first year of marriage. We cannot keep our hands off each other and we are ...


3 Comments, 296 Views, 35 Votes ,6.06 Score
Misconceptions   1/7/2005

I am writing this article out of frustration and dissapointment resulting from "near misses" in establishing a relationship. An SEXFinder.com member in Bolder, Co., wrote "I feel that men get the raw end of the deal and are made to look like that is all they want is sex. Truth of the matter is women are snobbish, prude and selfish when it comes to sex. There's a dark side to male sexuality that ...


1 Comments, 149 Views, 14 Votes ,3.30 Score
honesty is the best policy   1/6/2005

I know it sounds lame and cheesy, but in building a relationship both parties have to be honest with each other. Especially with their sexual needs. If not the relationship will die a long slow death. And that is Hell to live in.


9 Comments, 263 Views, 22 Votes ,4.57 Score
will you have a threesome   1/5/2005

My boyfriend asked me to have a threesome with him and another woman. He say it's not because he wants to be with another woman it's just a fantasy he has and wants to do it with me involved. I am insecure about the whole thing because i am worried about how he will feel about seeing me with another woman. But i want to do it, I just don't want to lose him because of it. HELP!


3 Comments, 234 Views, 19 Votes ,4.05 Score
rm_simrebel 58 M
2  Articles
Frends and lovers?   1/1/2005

I met a girl a couple years ago and had a instant attraction to her, over the next couple years we have become best freinds, Doing couple stuff together, but with no intimitsy (SP) I recently confessesed to her that my feelings went beyond freindship, and wanted to become closer, And she told me we couldn't because we were such good friends and she dosnt have those type of feelings for me. ...


3 Comments, 119 Views, 2 Votes ,1.04 Score
Finding a third...   12/31/2004

My husband and I have been using the site for a few months now. There are a few things that I guess we just don't understand. First, why would a female member include in her profile that she is looking for M/F couples when after reading her profile it's clear that she's only looking for a man? My guess is that they're just trying to increase the number of "hits" on their profile, but ...


2 Comments, 218 Views, 11 Votes ,3.92 Score
rm_simrebel 58 M
2  Articles
Can freinds be lovers?   12/31/2004

I met a girl a couple years ago and had a instant attraction to her, over the next couple years we have become best freinds, Doing couple stuff together, but with no intimitsy (SP) I recently confessesed to her that my feelings went beyond freindship, and wanted to become closer, And she told me we couldn't because we were such good friends and she dosnt have those type of feelings for me. ...


0 Comments, 43 Views, 3 Votes ,4.41 Score
snap007666 59 M
3  Articles
Real?????   12/30/2004

What are people really looking for. It seems to me that a great deal of the people on here want to look at profiles or have you go to their site or somethign like that. <br> Where are the real people who want to meet. are they all in another state? If so What State? <br> I thought that Florida was the loses state when it came to sex. <br> Any ways enough of ...


1 Comments, 87 Views, 14 Votes ,1.38 Score
rm_SCUBA602 50 M
5  Articles
When's the best time to start getting rough?   12/28/2004

How do you come about to get into rougher sex? Mega-hair pulling, whips, hard spanks and slaps, etc etc? I've had prior relationships where she said get rougher, but I'm not sure of the limits and it seems to be pulling teeth for them to let me know.. Anyone have a better solution than I tried- Talking about it?


3 Comments, 101 Views, 6 Votes ,3.37 Score
rm_melcum2 61 M
3  Articles
women   12/27/2004

is it true a women, can get a guy a lot faster.than a guy can get a women .i wonder why.


3 Comments, 101 Views, 7 Votes ,2.28 Score
trust love, and desires   12/27/2004

how many of you can truely say that you trust your mate{whether 2 women, 2 men, or a man and woman} 100% all the time? in this day and age, the ones who do get married, often go in it saying well if it doesn't work we will get divorced.thats not the right way to plan your future.now matter who it is the sooner they both realize that at time when you äre"you are wrong.and sometimes you ...


3 Comments, 66 Views, 14 Votes ,2.98 Score
tocantu23 50 M
2  Articles
Can there be trust   12/24/2004

Ive been through alot of shit with a women, and i dont no if i can build any trust she fooled around on me twice but i still love her what should i do?


12 Comments, 288 Views, 52 Votes ,1.99 Score
being new on block   12/21/2004

Am new to the site .have upgraded to silver by uspostal.but wasn't knowledgable on the limits of standard member.was talking to rimunow and could not reply back to set up meeting.i did not realize that i was near my limit for 24hrs.Now he has got mad and will not let my messages get to him.want to say that i was sorry and try to set new time to meat.so all you new people be careful on your ...


0 Comments, 122 Views, 37 Votes ,2.90 Score
rm_shemaleVIDA 60 F
14  Articles
How to Approach the Millennium Woman   12/20/2004

How to Approach the Millennium Woman A Compendium of Surefire Tips for Nerds, Adonises & Regular Joes <br> <br> My guy friends tell me that women are a mystery, that it’s hard to know what to say to us. Women play games and don’t tell you the rules. Or else we change the rules midgame. We want to be goddesses and expect you to worship us. But when you ...


11 Comments, 505 Views, 102 Votes ,7.29 Score
ideas to keep your relationship going   12/20/2004

i find the best way to build on any relationship is that the 2 people need to have a strong friendship as a base. being best friends and taking the time to sit down and talk about what they did when they started dating etc. evaluating a relationship can be very fulfilling to any relationship to see where it is headed and this is the time when you might see problems that could come up in the ...


2 Comments, 296 Views, 41 Votes ,5.43 Score
Nonresponse to article from the women   12/20/2004

I have been reading articles and have gained alot of good insight from this category. Thanks everyone. However, I am curious as to why no woman responded to chappyfu....'s article of 10/31/04. Could it be that women only want what they can't have as the saying goes. I feel this was a good question and was surprised no women responded. I mean no offense but is it that the nice guy finishes ...


1 Comments, 176 Views, 23 Votes ,2.78 Score
dreammeetthe1 77 F
7  Articles
What to say, and not to say, in your profile   12/18/2004

I read so many profiles that turn me off that I thought I'd give some advise. First, be truthful, even if it might turn some people off. Do not lie about your age, weight, or marital/ relationship status. The "do unto others" idea applies here; you expect that when you read a profile, the information is correct, so be that in your profile. Second, don't be too blatent. We all know that ...


16 Comments, 4001 Views, 609 Votes ,4.14 Score
Think about what you want first!!!   12/17/2004

OK, it seems like this should be common sense, but nobody seems to get it. To build a good relationship, you need to think about what you want out of the relationship and use that in deciding where to go. If what you want is a no-strings sexual relationship, then having sex the first time you meet is no problem. But if you're looking for a long-term, serious romantic relationship, then ...


4 Comments, 89 Views, 33 Votes ,2.96 Score
SensualFriend4us 68 C
38  Articles
Multi dimensional relationships?   12/16/2004

Hi All: <br> OK, you come on here to SEXFinder.com, and you find that perfect match, or at least one that is being a great deal of fun. You like the people you are playing with...in our case, lets say a couple. At almost 50, I very clearly understand the dynamics of a couple, a duet walking hand in hand through life, and know my way from point A to point B in building and maintaining that ...


5 Comments, 139 Views, 51 Votes ,3.75 Score
when to cross the bridge   12/12/2004

I've been involved with a sexy, beautiful, intelligent woman now for about 3 weeks. I'm and intellectually and physically attracted to her and want to build a relationship. The sex has been great and we really seem to have chemistry. However, I've always been involved in the lifestyle and really don't see that ending. I think she'd be interested in exploring more of her fantasys if I ...


2 Comments, 206 Views, 38 Votes ,3.32 Score
rm_two4_3fun 47 C
16  Articles
What Women Prefer   12/8/2004

I have no intention of speaking for all women here, but do want to say some things to gentlemen who are starting relationships. Please understand that your woman is different from all other women. She is a unique individual who has preferences, special spots, things that she likes. If you feel that you need to ask what she likes, please ask her - she is the one who knows. Many men ask here, ...


10 Comments, 5878 Views, 504 Votes ,4.00 Score
rm_jeepoffRD 50 M
6  Articles
what sex is to men   12/8/2004

Well being a man myself I know. What I am going to write here is so true and to the hart that most men out there will not like it and or say that it is not true. What fuels a mans sex drive, more so then just having an orgasim is the feeling of acceptance trust, and being liked/loved that he gets when having sex. To a man it is the ultimate desplay he can get from the other person.


6 Comments, 363 Views, 56 Votes ,4.19 Score
naughty_827 41 M
2  Articles
SEXFinder.com Can Be Tough   12/8/2004

SEXFinder.com can be really tough. I am a young, pretty good looking married guy looking to fufill some fanasies here and no matter how nice, patient or polite I am either no one is interested (so it seems) or I get blasted for what I am trying to do here. Having your opinion is fine, but to each his own... if I am understanding of your decision to not be interested people here should try to be ...


13 Comments, 300 Views, 43 Votes ,4.14 Score
nobleguy004 63 M
5  Articles
Why does Sex have to be so much work ?   12/6/2004

It seems to me that a lot of work must go into building a relationship. If all we wanted was sex would it be easier? Would we get responses to our inquires from women? I don"t know but maybe you do. Let me know.


0 Comments, 72 Views, 18 Votes ,2.58 Score
is there a standard membership stigma?   12/6/2004

i don't know if this is an issue that actually concerns anyone but i am curious if the gold and sver members look at the standard members as an identified group or if the individual profiles are the only real criteria that most look at and base their interets on? <br> as a standard member, i am often unable to open profiles or see pictures and can not invite to my network so ...


4 Comments, 67 Views, 24 Votes ,3.70 Score
a matter of fact...   12/6/2004

i have had the fortune of meking a few great penfriends through the site that have been so terrific with sharing their insights and experience. they have been specifically m2m related correspondence but i think most dating info. pertains to everybody. <br> the thing that struck me was that without much provocation, each person (man) stated as a caution for me, as a newbie, that ...


0 Comments, 120 Views, 20 Votes ,2.87 Score
one4sex692 73 M
3  Articles
A Little Help from the Ladies Please…   12/5/2004

I am a “tell it like it is, straightforward” kind ‘o guy. Several months ago I met a woman on-line and we began to chat occasionally and more recently on a regular basis. We began to really flirt back and forth. We set a date to meet face to face. We had been talking about meeting for coffee for quite awhile. She was nicer and sweeter then any woman has been to me in a ...


3 Comments, 99 Views, 28 Votes ,4.47 Score
Threesomes   12/2/2004

My spouse and I have been involved in threesomes with other women.We have always done this together.She is bi and he is not.She feels its ok to now see women without the man The man now feels left out.Hes not bi so him being with another man is out of the question.Should the man be allowed to sleep with other women without her.


7 Comments, 113 Views, 70 Votes ,5.93 Score
How soon is to soon to sleep with someone?   12/2/2004

I met this guy a few weeks ago thru a friend, the first time we went out we hit it off. we have alot in common, and we even like alot of the samethings. About a week after we met for the first time. We slept together. We still see each other and hang out, but now things seem ackward. What should I do?


7 Comments, 102 Views, 51 Votes ,3.75 Score
willyouloveme4 38 T
1  Article
love.   11/28/2004

"love is like a wind, you cant see it but you can feel it...." <br> This is the kind of feelings that you cant describe, its just like it hits right into you and you just cant tell what really is..this thing when you got to feel this... Have you feelin that way too?


0 Comments, 31 Views, 40 Votes ,6.43 Score
WetWmyn 48 F
5  Articles
He says sure why not, but I've got questions......   11/28/2004

I'm just starting to get into a commited relationship, and my man knows that Im bi(curious). He is fine with that, and we werent exclusive in the time we've been dating. We grew to be best friends and been there though each others ups and downs. Now that we are getting into a serious relationship he says I can still be with women if I want to and he is good with that. He says his one ...


2 Comments, 76 Views, 41 Votes ,6.22 Score
Propoz Her!!!   11/27/2004

Just some funny ways to propose her/him ........(at your own risk!!!) <br> 1. (Walk up behind girl and point fingers shaped like gun into her back) <br> You're under arrest! ; (For what?) For stealing my heart <br> 2. Hi, my name is Chance, Do I have one? <br> 3. are your legs tired? ( girl: Why?) because you have been running through my mind all ...


1 Comments, 36 Views, 21 Votes ,4.61 Score
Too much love   11/27/2004

Ok as some of u know i have a boyfriend that lives five hours from me.....i have been with him for alomost 2 years but there is this one guy that i really really like and i talk to him a lot....i have told him (the new guy) how i feel towards him. I am not sure how to get him to realize that he feels the same....he calls me every chance he gets and we are always talkin to each other but hes ...


1 Comments, 88 Views, 39 Votes ,5.52 Score
My wife is bi-curious, but its harder than I thought to make it happen!   11/25/2004

Me and my wife created this ad to find a female to help us explore a new fascide of our relationship. When she agreed to the idea I was happy. Ive fantasized about my wife being de3voured by another female for a long time. Now its gonna happen1! Or so I thought! The first problem I encountered was this sites inability to allow us to create a "Couple" profile. No sweat I thought. Well just ...


1 Comments, 44 Views, 28 Votes ,5.91 Score
bifstr8male4cpl 52 C
3  Articles
Taking It One Step At A Time   11/25/2004

My wife and i have been married for three years and when i found out that she was BI it really shocked me but the one thing i learned that in any relationship you need to be able to accept your spouse for who they are.


0 Comments, 74 Views, 27 Votes ,7.03 Score
d0minat3me 37 F
3  Articles
Relationship...after sex?   11/24/2004

The guy i'm seeing is a good friend of mines cousin. We've known each other for years...about a month ago we had sex and we were just leaving it at that...sex...nothing more. Well 2 weeks ago he wanted to pursue a relationship with me. I dont know what to do because we had started having sex before we started dating...any advice?


1 Comments, 68 Views, 24 Votes ,4.61 Score
I am saddened by what I have done   11/22/2004

To all who may get a chance to read this I would like to say that once upon a time I was actually in a relationship that was not worth much...with my second wife, she put me thru hell as my first wife did. I am 45, i am balding slightly, i have two grown sons and i met the girl of my dreams via work 5 yrs ago...she is half norweigen half irish, 5 foot 1 face of an angel, body of a porn ...


5 Comments, 57 Views, 17 Votes ,4.12 Score
rm_Gyntlman 43 M
11  Articles
Gay/Lesbian Women   11/22/2004

What makes some of the most attractive, beautiful, sexy and just drop dead gorgeous women turn to the same sex? I need more rationale other than being born that way, or it's genetic/hereditary because I understand that aspect. I need reasoning behind those who can't use that as an excuse. I've had women tell me that "She had some bad experiences with men" or "The guys she been with in the ...


2 Comments, 41 Views, 6 Votes ,1.94 Score
2freaky4u2004 58 C
2  Articles
building a relationship   11/21/2004

when you are trying to build a relationship it takes hard work. not just from you but your partner as well.there are some things that are a must and they are commitment, trust and compromise.with out those things you have nothing to build on.


0 Comments, 73 Views, 10 Votes ,5.58 Score
rm_Oui381 73 F
3  Articles
Time, Patience!   11/21/2004

I know that it takes time for relationships to develop, but how long, before you know to give the guy the boot?


5 Comments, 94 Views, 17 Votes ,2.70 Score
rm_Gyntlman 43 M
11  Articles
ATTRACTIONS   11/18/2004

Why is it that we attract people that we aren't interested in? And those you are interested done seem to know you exist or the oh so common, are already taken or spoken for?


2 Comments, 35 Views, 20 Votes ,4.27 Score
Sinister_rat 55 C
2  Articles
3ways and what not.   11/17/2004

I have been on a quest to find a girl to join us now for almost a year. My girlfriend (4yrs) is wanting someone special to join us. We have joined several websites. We have attended several parties, We have approached several gals all with no luck. It seems the girls either just want me alone or her alone. The reason for having someone join us is she has no sex drive and mine is almost ...


0 Comments, 47 Views, 43 Votes ,6.03 Score
swinging and marriage   11/16/2004

Is it possible to keep building on your relationaship and be swingers at the same time? <br> How can you seperate sex from love? And why does it seem easier for a man to do this that it is for a woman? Is it the stereotypes that we all grow up with? Just wanted to ask a few questions to satisfy my own curiousities and data research. <br> Thanks


16 Comments, 312 Views, 182 Votes ,5.92 Score
When Instincts are wrong   11/16/2004

What are guys to do when women around them tell you a girl is giving you all the signs but when you contront them about it, they freak out? Not only that but they get pissed off instead of being flattered when you tell them that you like them?


3 Comments, 43 Views, 41 Votes ,4.26 Score
Wonderful Intimate Ralationship (2)   11/16/2004

After half an hour time , I was thinking about Mike and Rose almost should finished fucking and Rose must be sleeping well , I rung his up , Mike told me Rose was sleeping , Both of us got up and exchange room , Mike enter into my room and I enter into his room , We take off electrical card and turn off electrical source , The room was very dark .I unknowingly went to the bedclothes on ...


0 Comments, 32 Views, 43 Votes ,3.08 Score
Wonderful Intimate Ralationship(3)   11/16/2004

I called Mike and told him Rose's taking shower , Mike came in the room at once , We too stood at the door of the bathroom and watching Rose's body , Rose was watching our nude too , After a while she told us that she feel her pussy's always slithery , Even if washing a thousand times cannot clean .We knew her meaning , Mike and i entered into bathroom and help Rose wash her body , Rose ...


0 Comments, 31 Views, 19 Votes ,4.57 Score
rm_2U4U2 60 F
6  Articles
Lovers in our bed   11/16/2004

U would have to know me to really know that I am a decent person with all the right moral and principals. Really I am but when u piss me off, I just do what I feel like doing at the time and with no regrets. And so that is how it all happened. <br> He lives about a couple blocks away from; he goes mountian riding with his friends; he may not look all that but boy, does his dick ...


1 Comments, 237 Views, 40 Votes ,6.91 Score
rm_shemaleVIDA 60 F
14  Articles
consequences   11/15/2004

For every action you take, there are consequences. Before taking action, you should try to figure out as many of the possible consequences as you can. If you can't accept the consequences, don't take action.


1 Comments, 538 Views, 28 Votes ,7.55 Score
Wonderful Intimate Ralationship   11/15/2004

Hi, folks .I am glad you took your time to read the story .It's a real story about four people .Let me introduce everyone first , Mike Liu, My officemate , 27 years old handsome guy who looks like a HK movie star , Enjoy fuck very much .Rose Yang , Mike's girl friend now , 25 years old plump and busty girl , Bank clerk who always likes something different , Actually she is a bisexual girl ...


0 Comments, 68 Views, 12 Votes ,5.27 Score
briwantsitbad 38 M
2  Articles
Going from Friend to Fucking   11/15/2004

I seem have a problem meeting chicks, thats the number one reason I'm on this site. Whenever I meet a chick and I'm not really interested in her she ends up wanting me. But when I meet a chick and I would like to date her I end up fucking up. Is it because with the chicks im not interested in I tend to act indifferent and they like guys who don't give a fuck what they think? Then with the ...


4 Comments, 61 Views, 19 Votes ,4.05 Score
a swinging relationship   11/15/2004

was the apprehensive one to try this, (the wife)My husband mentioned it jokingly at first. Then he invited me to browse some swinger sites he had recently joined.We began browsing together. He told me of fantasies that he had, Things that excited him about doing this, And really listened to my reservations and fantasies, and got me aroused thinking about fulfilling mine as well as his.We ...


0 Comments, 41 Views, 18 Votes ,6.81 Score
Long distance probably not happening   11/13/2004

When I first met her, it was at a party and we hit it off. The fact that she was a teaching assistant in a human sexuality course, well, that boded well for the future, didn't it? <br> One slight problem. The presents piling up at her feet were going-away presents! She was crossing the Pacific to another country the very next day!! <br> We corresponded for about a year, ...


0 Comments, 16 Views, 21 Votes ,5.35 Score
trust is the foundation   11/12/2004

We have been together for 32 years all together and she is my soul mate. I will love her to the end of time. The sex part of all of this is the fun part. As long as she is enjoying sex she can do it with who she wants to. Even with a few that I want her to do.


0 Comments, 29 Views, 7 Votes ,5.59 Score
long distance   11/11/2004

whats the best way to build a strong long distance relationship


2 Comments, 22 Views, 9 Votes ,3.85 Score
she is wonderful   11/11/2004

man i am falling for a woman i know i shouldnt. she is married unhappily from what i have seen and heard. she is very close to me and she is as my title says wonderful she makes me giddy like i was in jr high again. i know it is wrong but i cant help it to be involed with her like i am and persueing it. i dont want to break up a marriage but at the same time i want her for myself. yes i ...


5 Comments, 118 Views, 17 Votes ,3.55 Score
Eyes Wide OPEN- - Not shut anymore   11/4/2004

Well folks, it's everywhere. That's right, SEX! <br> I just read a question in the articles section asking "If 2 parties are having sex does it matter if they're married or not?" <br> I was raised in the biblebelt in Southeastern NC, so saying that, I should reply, "Marriage is sacred, you shouldn't commit adultry, especially with someone who is also married." ...


0 Comments, 62 Views, 73 Votes ,8.01 Score
rm_saleem22003 55 C
40  Articles
COME ON SHARE US   11/3/2004

Want to tell u one thing only , just check our profile u'll be horny , harf we can bet


0 Comments, 89 Views, 23 Votes ,5.23 Score
the trust that binds   11/3/2004

At first getting married was exciting and new.Then set in that urge now I love my wife very much .But I am a highly sexed individual.That likes all kinds and variety of woman.my question is can there still be love with infedelity I say yes.


0 Comments, 22 Views, 17 Votes ,6.94 Score
i found love   11/3/2004

Hi ... I had been on my own since the death of my wife. I didnt think for a second I would ever meet anyone after her. I found a really very sweet lady friend who although i fancied her like mad quite rightly told me we could only be friends. Since then I have met someone new. My whole life has opened up again .. Yes SEXFinder.com does work


1 Comments, 19 Views, 30 Votes ,6.57 Score
"Only" for the ladies who seek a helpless romantic in their "local" area, the do's and don'ts   11/2/2004

The following is a recent encounter I had with a wonderful young women. The sad thing is she is living a lie in life and doesn't know how to get what she wants. She is a party girl cause it is the bandwagon, but based on her actions it is apparent that she desires more in life, and specially in a relationship. <br> <br> <br> <br> Fourteen months ago a ...


0 Comments, 24 Views, 29 Votes ,6.45 Score
Let's get together   11/1/2004

fun , easy going , let the days by days gone and don't really worries on whats come around, just let it be. If you would like to meet me by the net, and we have a chance to get in touch with , you will not go away from me.I will make you happy every time. Please send me a mail. I will tell you more.


0 Comments, 12 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
Older women and younger men (Correct posting area)   10/31/2004

Sorry, for some stupid reason I posted this in the articles area and it shouldn't be there. Anyway.... <br> I have seen many people specifically men ask what it is about younger guys not being able to or being able to get older women. I have dated or been friends with older women my entire adult life and do not associate with women younger then me or the same age as me. If you ...


0 Comments, 47 Views, 24 Votes ,6.54 Score
pinkxtc43 43 C
6  Articles
Pink's Revenge????   10/31/2004

I'm not about revenge. It's a karma thing. I can expect to get what I give. I'm too honest for that. But I have been known to get myself into a situation that I couldn't get out of. So you know... when XTC (my better half) posted that story, (The truth about lying) I was mad. Yes, it still makes me angry. Plus it's pretty personal. Then he posted Thinking about Swinging, and that was O.K. I ...


0 Comments, 33 Views, 25 Votes ,6.01 Score
what's the deal ?   10/31/2004

Why do women say they want to take it slow, and when you are a gentleman, they get turned off ?


1 Comments, 11 Views, 9 Votes ,4.71 Score
pinkxtc43 43 C
6  Articles
THE TRUTH ABOUT LYING, HONESTLY   10/30/2004

You see it happened like this ... It happened while fighting for custody of my oldest , on the drive back from NY me and my friend bill stopped in fla at a strip joint.It was all his idea.Anyway then he starts talkin trash to this blonde next thing i know we've got a passenger so ok her boy friend is abusive I couldnt just leave her but man Pink isnt going to like this. I think well not ...


0 Comments, 28 Views, 22 Votes ,5.53 Score
big_tulsa 42 M
4  Articles
Respect your way to sex   10/30/2004

The fastest way to make your way into a woman's bedroom is simple but often overlooked. Respect. Respect can come in a variety of ways: being patient and polite, paying for dinner and a movie and maintaining proper distance. Mirror her movements. When she turns to you, turn to her. If she's hands-off, so should you be. While it's true that women generally like men who are initiators, or ...


0 Comments, 20 Views, 10 Votes ,5.58 Score
pinkxtc43 43 C
6  Articles
Lying in a relationship   10/29/2004

Building a relationship is always tricky. You can depend on a certain amount of dishonesty from the person you are infatuated with. You have to be honest with yourself about that. It takes time to truly get to know someone. Matter of fact, you have secrets yourself, and that's O.K., too. A certain amount of yourself is for you alone. When you are in a relationship things change. Or do they? ...


0 Comments, 10 Views, 19 Votes ,5.63 Score
italianstalion70 40 M
3  Articles
Relation   10/29/2004

The best way to build a relationship is to do whatever your partner wants. If things are working, they will do the same for you most of the time. That's how you know they love you and you love them.


0 Comments, 12 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
pickup lines   10/28/2004

do girls still go for guy's cheesy pickup lines?


2 Comments, 67 Views, 7 Votes
supersly2004 50 M
9  Articles
is it possible to meet .............................   10/25/2004

hi all, does anyone think its ever possible to meet your dream person, on this site??? can there ever be trust, faithfulness, love......i'm very curious to know.... Where would you tell friends, and family...you met?? Ladies, will you trust a guy, who sleeps with lots of women on the site, you included....could you then form a loving n trusting relationship..?? Same ...


4 Comments, 225 Views, 10 Votes ,4.58 Score
why is it so hard to meet someone honest   10/25/2004

ive been on here for 2 months . and was wondering why is it so hard to find someone honest .


4 Comments, 10 Views, 11 Votes ,5.60 Score
keeping your lover   10/24/2004

It, s really easy what it take, s to get your lover is what it take, s to keep them. If you wine and dine them then don, t stop just because you have been together for a while. You still need to let them know you really still rock my world. I seen to many that once they get together for a while all of the spark, s are gone you have to keep it going. If not then you or your lover will look ...


0 Comments, 14 Views, 30 Votes ,7.46 Score
rm_shezamystry 66 F
8  Articles
patience time   10/22/2004

Ok, He wants to see me. He is adorable and thoughtful. He is so funny and charming. Then He gets tired and stops stroking my hair. He stops letting me know He wants me there. <br> Is He afraid i will think we will scene/make love/ or whatever and does He have to shut down to show me i should not hope (for all time or even that night)? Do i stay and just massage His feet, or is ...


0 Comments, 36 Views, 35 Votes ,7.11 Score
LatinnFrench 57 C
2  Articles
Think Smart   10/21/2004

We have to think very good step by step how to keep having a good relationship, it is good to have good talks all the time and trust, we the trust it is lost, almost everything can be lost, that doesn't mean that it will be done, but it is important you try to get the trust back in your couple, relationships are difficult in all the situations, woman with a woman, man with a woman, man with ...


0 Comments, 17 Views, 28 Votes ,6.32 Score
here is what i think to biuld a relationship   10/19/2004

to build a relationship you must be true and onist to each other, be very open minded, loveing , carring and trust oneanouther.do what he wants and then do what she wants to do and i think the two most importent things are to be very romantic and trust each other.


0 Comments, 17 Views, 10 Votes ,5.58 Score
20fuslooking 58 C
0  Articles
is it possible to have a wife for sex and one for a companion   10/18/2004

Well i find myself in a odd situation. i am married and that is the best thing that ever happend to me, but i also seem to now have a extra wife with no sex involved. This is how it happened. My wifes cousin was going through a break up after ten years with her boy friend. My started baby sitting for her on a regular basies and so i started chatting with her a lot when i went to pick up ...


3 Comments, 98 Views, 21 Votes ,6.47 Score
Hmm really   10/16/2004

What do women really want in a relationship?


0 Comments, 48 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
rm_goodforfunme 61 M
7  Articles
The Bird and The Monkey a Holloween story   10/13/2004

Once upon a time, there was a man who was a waremonkey. What is a waremonkey? You heard of a warewolf? This guy was a waremonkey. On the night of the full moon he would turn into a waremonkey. But, not just an ordinary waremonkey, a very ugly waremonkey. Tall and skinny with a big head that still retained some human features. When the moon was full, he would go away and hide in a ...


0 Comments, 59 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
ounvrno 55 M
1  Article
Getting over the past   10/12/2004

I recently clued my girlfriend into what my sexual past was like. i was a swinger and she feels that because I enjoyed it I may not be satisfied with just her. I tell her repeatedly to watch my actions to see if I'm pleased, which I am completely but she still has this doubt that I can settle for one when i can have many. What should I do?


0 Comments, 20 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
how can i get my relationship back together   10/11/2004

my relationship with my wife is falling apart .what way should i go and how should i do it,please give me some pointers,i would love to find out.


1 Comments, 23 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
best way to develop a long distance relationship   10/10/2004

what is best way to develop a long distance relationship with someone you care about when she cares a whole lot about you


0 Comments, 19 Views, 1 Votes ,1.10 Score
sorry guys we get a lot of mail   10/10/2004

i would like to reply to the gentleman who said he thought women who dont respond early to offers of meeting in person were only looking for attention. you are right. we do want attention. isnt a big reason for wanting to have sex with another person to get someone to pay a little bit of attention to us? we all can do the physical part of achieving orgasm on our own. someone else being there ...


0 Comments, 11 Views, 3 Votes ,4.90 Score
rm_AustinBC 44 M
8  Articles
what can you do?   10/9/2004

Is there a way to try and make a relationship new and fresh, once you've already been through the drama? I was with a woman that I liked a LOT and did a lot of first time things with, sexual and non-sexual, but she's a bit abusive. How would I be able to figure a way out for her not to be so violent? I'm not going to hit a woman, but I think that she needs help. How is it possible to start ...


0 Comments, 31 Views, 1 Votes
2whoRfree2lay 46 C
1  Article
re: first timer   10/7/2004

to anyone who thinks this website doesn't work to find a great relationship, I am here to say thats B.S.!!! My lover and I met on here under single profiles! After receiveing his 1st email, we chatted numerous times both on SEXFinder.com and private IM addy's! I am a woman with severe raging hormones whom had had 1 bad relationship after another and was really looking to meet a guy who could ...


0 Comments, 18 Views, 27 Votes ,8.08 Score
I'm a first timer!!   10/6/2004

I am a first timer user of this service and i am interested to know if it really works. My friends say its just a con. So im asking u the users to prove my friends wrong and hopefully open my eyes to what this service can really deliver!!


2 Comments, 24 Views, 29 Votes ,5.15 Score
XXX Sex What Next????? OOPS!   10/6/2004

If you will look in the dating section I sent a suggestion for this question. I sent it to the wrong catagory however! Sorry. But please follow the advice there it's pretty sensible. Don't blow a good thing out of proportion, relax and let things go where they will.


0 Comments, 11 Views, 1 Votes
honor & fidelity   10/5/2004

Well, to start off with, i admit to NOT being the most perfect male in the world. I have been married three times. One thing I am very sure of is that I have never been unfaithful or cheated on my exes. This often is not appreciated by women. Being the good guy is not always the best. As far as sex- well, with all three of my exes I was always ready, no matter what- and usually ready ...


0 Comments, 12 Views, 14 Votes ,3.46 Score
is trust really wat makes a relationship last?   10/5/2004

i was in a 2 yr relationship and i didnt trust my man 4 shit cuz he cheated but i still love him and i still wanna be with him is it cuz trust doesnt matter or cuz im blind?


2 Comments, 21 Views, 7 Votes ,3.55 Score
RE: Any suggestions on how to get my wife to swing?   10/4/2004

Have you discussed the possibility of doing this with her? It has always been my understanding that forcing or coercing a person such as a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife, to do something they are not really interested in or they are uncomfortable with could be disasterous to the relationship. I know one woman who divorced her husband because he took her to dinner with a couple that he ...


0 Comments, 74 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
XXX Sex...now what??   10/2/2004

It can be tough forging a strong bond with a new partner. Especially when the First Date is perfect in every way. How do you build deeper ties with someone you just met when you feel as if you have known him/her forever? <br> From the second we started to chat, we were at ease with each other like you wont believe...It was uncanny!! Barely one hour after we first met, she said ...


0 Comments, 22 Views, 15 Votes ,6.19 Score
Ibecookn69 43 M
7  Articles
Laying the foundation.   10/2/2004

If you have sex right away forget about building a relationship. You always want to have two or three things that are unknown in building a relationship, sex, income, and desires. What do you think about that seriously


0 Comments, 40 Views, 12 Votes ,6.51 Score
rm_frant17 41 M
2  Articles
Having an Affair   9/29/2004

Is it really that bad if you cheat on someone and they never find out???


2 Comments, 29 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
rm_badprince06 30 M
17  Articles
After Sex on the 1st Date   9/28/2004

It may be tough to build a commited relationship with someone you had sex with on the first date, but I believe it's possible. If you're attracted to someone, will that connection and vibe, and you happen to take it to that level on the first date, just remember that you'll hae to make time to make up the steps you skipped. Say there are 5 steps to having a complete relationship, with sex being ...


0 Comments, 17 Views, 6 Votes ,3.65 Score
How do you stay with the same girl forever?   9/28/2004

Me and my girl have been together for about 7 years or so and recently I can't help looking more at other women. I have tried but can't. Any suggestions?


1 Comments, 64 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
How do you make friends with girls?   9/27/2004

What would I say, when I find beautiful girls? What would I say, when I call the girls?I want know that how do you make friends with your favorite girls.How do you become lover?


0 Comments, 11 Views, 35 Votes ,6.76 Score
Talking , Conversation & Stress in a Relationship   9/27/2004

I am a true believer that when it comes to building a great relationship that your partner & yourself needs to communicate to each other. There are alot of broken relationships due to noncommunication. Let's see some of the examples of when you are in a relationship you need to tell your partner about your day, about your feelings & just anything that you think needs to be brought up. Maybe ...


2 Comments, 196 Views, 34 Votes ,8.36 Score
woman are u shy?   9/26/2004

I have been now up to two month active in searching relations. and guess what i have sent dozins of emails (i know my pictures arent great) to different people and got only two aswers and even from those one is shy and doesnt know what she wants and another just too far. i wonder why the people register themselves and advertise themselves as open and willing to try new things when they ...


0 Comments, 10 Views, 25 Votes ,5.68 Score
re trust   9/25/2004

If you can not trust the person that you want. Then you have no need tobe in that relationship. That goes for both partners. It is not a oneway street, and a large part of that is commication between the two.


0 Comments, 18 Views, 23 Votes ,8.03 Score
younger women/older men.update.   9/23/2004

firstly, i would like to thank every-one who voted on my original artical.i know people do not get the chance to actually write back with their advice or views in this category(anyone know why?), but all the positive votes that i recieved made my mind up.my wife and i have now separated, amicably i must say(phew)lol.i now live with the young lady i spoke about and my life seems to have ...


0 Comments, 24 Views, 37 Votes ,7.47 Score
rm_Twonkie 74 M
5  Articles
Getting started in a new relationship   9/20/2004

It's not going to happen if only one side of the relationship is interested. I find this to be especially true here, lately. I've been told that I'm "100% compatible" with many women, and they will reply to my mail. But, when asked if they will meet, they refuse to reply. I can only feel that they are lying about what they want from SEXFinder.com -- unless what they want is attention and no ...


0 Comments, 13 Views, 29 Votes ,5.15 Score
rm_tightnkinky 41 F
3  Articles
Re:Re:To softtonge: Sleep with a guy on the first date or not?   9/20/2004

Thank you softtonge for your responses. I do have to say though that if i knew that the man in florida was true that i wouldn't even worry about anyone else at this point in time. I wrote this artical because it was wieghing on my mind from past experiances.Also just to let you know i haven't meet anyone new in quite awhile but i have made friendships from before from this site and as of ...


0 Comments, 58 Views, 24 Votes ,4.38 Score
rm_horny23m469 41 M
1  Article
getting better   9/17/2004

how can you build your relationship while swinging???


0 Comments, 12 Views, 15 Votes ,2.82 Score
rm_forty870 57 C
7  Articles
Truth.   9/16/2004

The first thing you need to build a relationship is the truth. You must be open to your mate, and tell them what you want and looking for. You will be surprise on how much your relationship will grow, and how much fun you will have.


0 Comments, 21 Views, 20 Votes ,6.44 Score
Re: Sleep with a guy on the first date   9/16/2004

My opinion: <br> If you've done enough research into his background and feel safe enough to sleep enough with him, sweetie, it's YOUR sex life, not someone else's. GO TO BED WITH HIM! If you're really concerned about how or what he feels about you, ask him. If he's a liar or a jerk, wouldn't you already have had a hint? (You just said you've done your homework & felt OK ...


0 Comments, 19 Views, 28 Votes ,7.96 Score
rm_tightnkinky 41 F
3  Articles
Sleep with a guy on the first date or not?   9/14/2004

I have been on this site for six months or so and i have meet quite a few men. I will be honest and say that i have slept with most not all on the first meeting, but i do talk to them and get to know them thur emails and phone calls first before i even meet them. My question is; Is this a turn off for men to create a realationship later on? Why is it still ok for men to sleep with women on ...


0 Comments, 156 Views, 53 Votes ,9.22 Score
Re: friends with benefits wanting to become more   9/13/2004

You’re not the only person to be friends with someone on a platonic basis, and then when intimacy becomes part of the equation, you become emotionally attached and soon after, the relationship begins to falter. When it comes to situations like FWB’s ‒ ‘If it ain't broke, don’t fix it’. Trying to add terms to the agreement after it has been signed ...


0 Comments, 44 Views, 38 Votes ,7.39 Score
i'm a bit dis-allusioned   9/10/2004

i've been a member here (both standard and silver) for about two years. not having much luck. have gotten as far as exchanging emails/pic's but then do not hear from the party again. yes, i'm articulate and include appropriate photos where required etc. i know i'm not so ugly i scare and in fact have been called handsome by many women. please, i'm not whinning. not feeling sorry for ...


0 Comments, 17 Views, 30 Votes ,6.77 Score
Eagle1060 42 C
5  Articles
Trust or money   9/9/2004

It seems that most relationships today are of one of two flavors: either money-based or trust-based. Most guys, sadly, cannot afford the former so they must seek the latter either through deceptive methods or legitimate trust-provoking initiatives. <br> Therefore it begs the questions: do you think it is possible to have a relationship based on both?


0 Comments, 10 Views, 20 Votes ,4.15 Score
opinion from a ladies point of view needed   9/8/2004

here goes , 18 months ago i was seeing a lady for four months but due to circumstances we split up , it wasnt because we were fighting or anything like that it was just that i had to much crap goig on in my life . now recently she rang and asked if i wanted to meet for coffee, which we did , and yesterday i cooked her dinner at her place and we sat and ...


0 Comments, 8 Views, 16 Votes ,5.77 Score
How can I as a woman seduce another woman?   9/7/2004

Ok I know what your all thinking, a little girl who want to experiment. Well I actually want to seduce a woman. I have had a thing for women for quite some time but I can't do anything about it. I can imagine it but when I get the oppertunity I freeze up. How can I ask another girl to have sex with me. I really need your help.


0 Comments, 15 Views, 19 Votes ,4.84 Score
Could it be to soon?   9/6/2004

I separated from my wife (her decision) in February of this year. I met a wonderful woman in June and we have been seeing each other ever since. My problem is I am not sure if this is the right time, the right person, or if she is just a rebound type relationship. I enjoy spending time with her, and miss her when I am not with her and we have started to build a great friendship, but I ...


0 Comments, 8 Views, 11 Votes ,3.35 Score
re:dcw777   9/5/2004

dcw777 I am in the same boat.if she truly has feelings for you there will not be worries no matter how many men are chasing her.have faith in each other.I love to use the phone as well to keep in touch, but that might not be an option for you.If she says there is no one else then take it at face value.You needing reassurance puts stress on the relationship.Good Luck Bearcat4332


0 Comments, 7 Views, 23 Votes ,7.10 Score
Do Men actually mean it when they want to come see you?   9/1/2004

I have chatted to many guys who love bbw woman, but when it comes to seeing them and getting some action they shy away.Like they can't add up to what I have to give.A whole lot of energy I want to burn having sex. bearcat4332.


0 Comments, 13 Views, 47 Votes ,6.54 Score
DandS43 49 C
1  Article
HELP! I know u've heard it before!   9/1/2004

My one night stand originally was just a guy to have sex with. My personality is hard to pinpoint... I am a hip-hop diva but I like Nascar and racing. So when this guy and I guy started to hit it off... I wanted to slow it down a ton. But, it wasn't goin to work that way. Over time we were there for each other and some of those times... it really felt nice. We were never ...


0 Comments, 27 Views, 23 Votes ,6.40 Score
Meeting women for discreet relationships.   8/30/2004

Hi! This question is directed at the women: "married but looking" I am a 39 Yr old man who just got started on SEXFinder.com. I am in a relationship but it's really not a happy one. I would like have to meet new women but I run a small business and don't much time to stay online chatting for any great lengths of time. When I am not working I usually spend time with my 10 Yr. old playing ...


0 Comments, 17 Views, 39 Votes ,5.52 Score
What it needs!   8/30/2004

Hello! I'm here just to say a words considering the building of a relationship. Well, the first thing that comes to my mind is that a guy and a girl don't love each other when they start dating...That's obvious! Love supposes partnership, sharing feelings of happines as well as sadness. Love is beyond passion! So what i say is that to love someone you must know that person as anyone ...


0 Comments, 6 Views, 16 Votes ,5.63 Score
Don't count out someone before your relationship blossoms!   8/29/2004

Far too many times I have seen people think they know someone because they have heard something about them from a friend. Or a so called friend as it may be. People should take the time to understand someone on a one to one basis and make up their on mind about how they fill about that person instead of just relying on what someone says about them. The so called friend probably doesn't ...


0 Comments, 5 Views, 15 Votes ,4.20 Score
Easy?   8/29/2004

Is it easier to build a relationship around sex? or build the relationship then have sex?


0 Comments, 6 Views, 11 Votes ,2.98 Score
sayaah 68 M
2  Articles
Creating the Right Chemistry?   8/26/2004

I read both on this personals site and others that women seek "the right chemistry" w/ a man, but few if any that I've met realize that it takes work, patience, and compromise to make any relationship copacetic beyond the sex and saliva exchange. The building of a relationship? It begins w/ deconstructing your past life, and tactful silence until you have found likewise in a person less the ...


0 Comments, 17 Views, 40 Votes ,4.91 Score
just sex no strings   8/25/2004

It can start out just for the sex but that can turn into a good relationship with a future.


0 Comments, 38 Views, 80 Votes ,7.98 Score
millie01 53 F
12  Articles
Don't try to run before you walk   8/24/2004

Please think about what you are doing.Some people have been burnt before you.And they can still feel the sting.So take it slow. But don't give up.


0 Comments, 22 Views, 39 Votes ,5.84 Score
TanHotThongGuy 50 M
8  Articles
The Good & The Bad On Relationships   8/24/2004

Hello A.F.F members this is Pete (aka: TanHotThongGuy) about to share my personal views on relationships. <br> Relationship could be great with that special somebody, but the hardest thing in a relationship is finding ones compatible partner. A partner who matches up with your personality, energy level, sexual appetite & sexual talents, etc. We usually tend to choose are ...


0 Comments, 20 Views, 28 Votes ,5.81 Score
rm_dws1213 54 C
1  Article
honesty is always the best policy   8/23/2004

My wife and i have been married for ten years and we have a great relationship. I told her from the beginning that if we were going to have a strong relationship that we needed to be honest with each other and to not let our honesty with each other hurt any feelings. We struggled with it at first trying to find the right way to tell each other stuff without being too harsh about it and ...


0 Comments, 14 Views, 22 Votes ,6.37 Score
bigboobs7336 52 F
1  Article
my first encounter with a stranger & having sex   8/20/2004

I had been to a film wearing a sari. I had to sit next to a guy. As I was watching the film the guy touched my boobs.but I hit him, even then he did it. I was thrilled by his touch and let him do it. He pulled my hand and made it rest on his pant with his hard cock inside and slowly made me unzip it and lo suddenly his hard cock shot up and he made me stroke it. In the interval we both saw ...


5 Comments, 183 Views, 75 Votes ,2.53 Score
Ten things !!!   8/19/2004

Ten things I have learned from my cat..!! 1. Always be ready to play. Know how to recognize the playful look in the person you love, and immediately start playing. <br> 2. When you are happy to see someone, stretch your arms up to him or her and ask to be picked up. <br> 3. If the person you love forgets to feed you dinner, don't take it personally. Instead, run to ...


0 Comments, 33 Views, 52 Votes ,8.28 Score
where are all the good guys   8/18/2004

why is it so many guys now a days are just lookin to meet and have sex anymore . what happened to realtionships , i dont know if its me or if its the guy but everyone i have talked to just wants to have sex and maybe hang out toghther , am i not realtionship materail or what , i have been singel for awhile but would like to meet a guy for a realtionship but where do u find guys who want one ...


0 Comments, 75 Views, 23 Votes ,6.98 Score
Starting a Sexual Relationship   8/18/2004

How do I start a sexual relationship? Can I just jump on in to fucking the minute we meet or do I have to take it slow and get to know the person first?


0 Comments, 10 Views, 25 Votes ,1.25 Score
the do nots when trying to build a relationship...   8/17/2004

1. cheat on her/ him! 2. lie to her/ him! 3. steal from her/ him! 4. kill her/ him! 5. call her/ his mom a witch! 6. aggree to not liking her/ his friends! 7. wreck her/ his car! 8. not call her/ him for a while! 9. show up at her/ his house in the middle of the night, drunk and mad! 10. talk openly about your sex life with old boyfriend/ girlfriend to her/ him!


0 Comments, 18 Views, 54 Votes ,6.68 Score
Bulding a relationship on sex?   8/15/2004

So the sex is good. No, its great. But we have so little in common. When I think of her, I'm thinking of what we're gonna come up with next as with regards to sex not of what we're gonna do together. The only conversations we had which I remember were sex oriented. I view our dating (dinner, movies etc) as time to endure if I want to have a good lay. A while has passed since we've been ...


0 Comments, 12 Views, 49 Votes ,6.91 Score
younger woman/older man.ladies your view please.   8/14/2004

i am a 40yr old man living on my own, as i have done for about 9yrs.i was married, but choose a career my wife did not want to be involved in.i became a public house manager and we lived and grew apart.although we still continued to play the happy couple, (we used to spend a night together every couple of months or so)we have a of 7.i have always been second best to her family, thats been ...


0 Comments, 14 Views, 26 Votes ,5.94 Score
rm_BlakHamma 50 C
1  Article
Are the Break Up Blue always BAD?   8/14/2004

As we all gain more knowledge in our years of maturity, it is not uncommon to go through the ups and downs of the good old Break-ups. To be able to survive the plethora of of emotions that occur the question that comes to mind is wether or not their are positives that we all feel at the immediate point of the a break-up?....Do people feel relief at being free, remorse at the loneliness or ...


0 Comments, 4 Views, 36 Votes ,5.83 Score
MuddyEddie1963 60 M
1  Article
Learning to get along!   8/14/2004

Most people have "missed the boat" when it comes to building a relationship. It seems that we think that a relationship should always revolve around the "good" things, and should not contain any "bad" things. <br> Welcome to the real world!!! <br> Relationships are built on both common interests and differences. What makes a relationship work out is to learn to "bridge ...


0 Comments, 10 Views, 38 Votes ,8.88 Score
rm_sfgouki 35 M
2  Articles
Oh Crap....I Cheated....Now what?   8/13/2004

Ok...so you cheated on your loved one. You have to admit, this stuff happens all around you, so don't go bawling and worrying your ass off. Shit happens, you just gotta live with it. Now if you can't do that, then you gotta ease the weight off your shoulder right, so you don't feel too guilty. I mean one way or another, s/he has to know. So just come through straight, tell them your sorry ...


0 Comments, 21 Views, 41 Votes ,4.73 Score
i just turned 35 where did my life go   8/12/2004

today i turned 35 and had been dreading it for weeks because it made me feel older some how .i had been married once for 4 years , been divorced , was in 2 long term realtionships but none of that lasted , so i keep going ahead and going through life thinking maybe one day i will meet the one .so in the mean time i though why not have some fun and go on SEXFinder.com and hook up with some guys, and ...


0 Comments, 13 Views, 46 Votes ,7.96 Score
How to enjoy life to the fullest with your spouse   8/10/2004

Me and my wife were married at the age of 20 and 18for her. We have now been married for 10 years and are still very much in love with one another and know that their cannot never be anything come between us. We have been thru alot in the 10 years, and being married a t such a young age everybody expected that it would never work, but we proved them wrong. The one thing that we contribute ...


0 Comments, 32 Views, 33 Votes ,5.44 Score
what happened to the true realtionship   8/9/2004

ok i understand this is a sex site but when you first sign up there is a box you can check for a seriouse realtionship , which now i know the chances of some guy on here lookin for that is gone because why be with one girl when you can have more than one girl , has any one ever stopped to think that this friends with benfits thing is just there way guy /or girl validating being with more ...


0 Comments, 8 Views, 28 Votes ,6.73 Score
Trust   8/9/2004

The only thing I can say is follow your heart. You may break it now and then but if you find that right person, you could live your dreams. <br> If you want a long fantastic life .....Just trust yourself and your partner and live everyday as if was your last.


0 Comments, 11 Views, 21 Votes ,6.34 Score
5 ways to Refresh your Relationship   8/6/2004

A relationship is like a delicate rose bush. If you care for it, it will bloom year after year with unsurpassed beauty. If you don't, you might end up with a dull, lifeless entity that is struggling to survive. Below are five ideas to keep your relationship in bloom for years to come. <br> If you are single, read these tips with an eye on what you will want to do in a long-term ...


0 Comments, 78 Views, 43 Votes ,8.75 Score
Good Relationship Tips   8/6/2004

Don't let your relationship become dull and boring. Here are some great tips on having the sexiest love affair ever! <br> 1. Go off on an unplanned road trip with your honey....in the middle of the week. <br> 2. Send your honey a bouquet of flowers to his/her work...sign it "from your secret admirer". <br> 3. Mail your honey a naughty letter to their ...


0 Comments, 20 Views, 45 Votes ,7.83 Score
The Tea Cup   8/5/2004

The Tea Cup <br> A couple shopping in a beautiful antique store. Spotting an exceptional cup, they asked "May we see that? We've never seen a cup quite so beautiful." <br> As the lady handed it to them, ; suddenly the tea-cup spoke, "You don't understand." It said, "I have not always been a tea-cup. <br> There was a time when I was just a lump of ...


0 Comments, 37 Views, 27 Votes ,6.82 Score
honey7228 43 F
1  Article
honesty is key. we all know that, and yet....   8/3/2004

When it comes to building a relationship(especially one where swinging is involved) honesty is key. If you don't have honesty you don't have anything. Everyone knows that. Still we all find ourselves questioning our partner as to there faithfullness. Questioning them and being questioned in return. We all start out promising honesty and truth to one another and despite our best ...


2 Comments, 40 Views, 22 Votes ,6.73 Score
rm_ILLYBBW 39 F
4  Articles
Be   7/30/2004

Honestly. this is not the place to be looking for someone to have a relationship with! Try friend finder! If your wanting to build a relationship I'd say start by looking somewhere else!


0 Comments, 7 Views, 23 Votes ,4.30 Score
rm_ILLYBBW 39 F
4  Articles
honestly, already   7/30/2004

OK so look elsewhere if you want a relationship. But for those of you who are on here and already have a relationship my advise is that you should be looking at your own relationship rather than on here for sex!


0 Comments, 16 Views, 31 Votes ,6.69 Score
kamas4u 68 F
4  Articles
getting to know each other   7/29/2004

sometimes i wonder why most men just want to meet and have sex most of the time...why not build a relationship first and then feel free to do whatever both want to do..its so much easier and a bit safer then to meet just to have sex with somebody you dont even know....i have tried many times to chat for a while first and most of the time it has worked...others just dont even want to bother ...


0 Comments, 30 Views, 58 Votes ,9.36 Score
rm_luvsbooty2 58 M
8  Articles
What is the respectable time to wait to hear from a possible match?   7/24/2004

Just finding it curious as to when and how long someone should wait to hear back from a possble match up? I myself try and answer someone's curiousity to me within a few days. Then again, I try and make sure to check my mail most everyday, if not every other day! Not that I'm on the computer for hours, but I am trying and liking the people I do meet! But it does seem that I maybe appearing ...


0 Comments, 8 Views, 51 Votes ,8.04 Score
rm_otcdrgs 57 M
4  Articles
Love or Lust: The Real Dilemma   7/19/2004

Welcome to the real question. For all of you individuals new to life, love and lust(sex) are not the same. <br> Sex is the release of energy, stress, excitement, wants, and desires the physical body needs. The touching, kissing, licking, sucking, and fucking which makes up sex. It is probably the most enjoyable excercise known to man/woman. Sex takes practice and patience to be ...


1 Comments, 44 Views, 64 Votes ,8.61 Score
RE: FMF only, why?   7/18/2004

OK, i understand a guy doesnt want to go there after another man was there... but thats why theres condoms... but if we are ok with going down on another chick after the guy was there, then why is that not ok for men? Sounds like an excuse to me.


0 Comments, 14 Views, 18 Votes ,3.94 Score
Time & Friendship & Honesty!   7/18/2004

In building a relationship, friendship should be the first and main focus. Not only it takes away the stress of dating, but it builds a stronger foundation. Honesty is also very important, for both to know where they are going in the relationship at all times. If someone’s feelings changed, it is better to be honest than to lie. The truth may sometimes hurt but lies hurt even more ...


0 Comments, 26 Views, 15 Votes ,6.04 Score
Its all fun in the end...   7/14/2004

All I am going to say is that men don't know anything about women, and women don't know anything about men. We never will and that's what makes it so much fun. I'm a guy and I'll admit I don't know 10% of what women are thinking and Women are most likely the same way. Don't take this the wrong way but the next time you say "I wish he/she would tell me what they want to do, or what they are ...


0 Comments, 13 Views, 10 Votes ,4.38 Score
LifeLuvNLust 48 F
0  Articles
Still Learning!!!   7/8/2004

The other day I had my younger sister come over for a chin wag and a cuppa and while the were all outside playing we started talking. I could she was disturbed and need advice on somthing or other and usually its about sex or boy friends or she needs to have a bitch session about her current piece of meat ( the guy she is seeing ) or one of the girls... Well was I surprised when she ...


1 Comments, 123 Views, 24 Votes ,4.95 Score
Honesty   7/8/2004

I believe the most important part of developing a new relationship is to be honest. Tell another person who you are, what your about, what your looking for out of another person, and what's really going on. That's the only way you can achieve real results. If your in SEXFinder.com for swinging, most swingers will let you know that they are happy and not looking for love. If you are extra marital, let ...


0 Comments, 5 Views, 14 Votes ,5.38 Score
rm_hitchcock410 44 M
8  Articles
Is it possible?   7/5/2004

Is it truely possible to just be a friend with benefits or do emotions eventually get in the way, because it didn't work on Seinfeld?


0 Comments, 19 Views, 34 Votes ,6.21 Score
FMF 3somes only, but nothing else... why????   7/5/2004

I was involved in a relationship that was to say the least, a long distance thing. Because me and this other person couldn't have physical contact, we agreed that it would be ok to play with other people as long as we told each other about it. Well, he was suppose to move here and before he did I asked him, 'Are things going to stay the same?' Meaning our arrangement of being able to ...


0 Comments, 40 Views, 40 Votes ,7.39 Score
Why not look on SEXFinder.com for a relationship?   7/5/2004

I'm interestsed in men and women and enjoy playing with both. Right now I'm ready to settle down with one person, specifically a man, but also want the variety of other men and women. Being that SEXFinder.com is the way it is, wouldn't this be the best place to find an open relationship like this? It's been difficult though. It seems as though you meet a guy on here and all of a sudden he wants a ...


0 Comments, 7 Views, 29 Votes ,6.05 Score
I want a discreet relationship with an older woman   7/4/2004

They seem to like me, but whenever I suggest a date, they always say hahaha... or lololololol... Why is it so hard for them to give me a chance? I am not ugly, I am 30 already, I am clean too. I am well-educated (not in sex). I can be romantic. I am single and free. If they come to SEXFinder.com for sex, they should at least be a little bit serious. Can anybody give me some advice? Many thanks.


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RE: How much sex is just right for a married couple?   7/4/2004

I have been married for 19 years and have averaged once a month if I am lucky. Spouse is not into sex and could get by without forever. She only submits to me out of guilt and is a casual participant. So if other couples are having sex once per week, I would consider them lucky dogs. I make sure that my spouse has an orgasm each time, but she is not concerned if I do. Once she has her's, ...


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RE: Can a married man be friends with a female   7/3/2004

i just have to say i strongly disagree with the writer. i have had many married men as good friends for the past 25 yrs...and that is as far as it has gone. i am good friends with their wives also.


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The green eye of envy and jealousy   6/30/2004

I've been down this road too many times to count. You get in a relationship and everything seems all normal until... some chick you know says something to you kinda flirty or maybe it's someone who knows you but you're ol lady is there and is fuming over it. I mean WTF - you get the mad, cold shoulder treatment for hours and sometimes days, and for what? Something you had absolutely no ...


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gateway2uheart 65 M
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building a realtionship   6/29/2004

ok ladies and guys..here it is.if you meet a guy or lady on here and you talk back and forth and both of you talk on the phone for a while hit it off well and decide to meet then out of the blue you dont contact that person for a couple of days (we all know now that things happen we are not stupid or blind) but at lease you could leave us a meassage telling us that somthing had happen or ...


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tequilasunrise49 48 F
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single and looking 4 u   6/28/2004

5'1 long red hair blue eyes 28 1 tat, bellyring, nosering, have other profiles under here they r tequilasunrise49 , vanpire28466 , and treandfaye (C)


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twisty1982 41 F
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re:...long distance thing.....   6/28/2004

hey girl i know how you feel im going thru the same thing and it sucks but heres what i want to say if in good and bad times hes the one u want by ur side u stick thru it till you both can be together if not then dont play aroung just let him know and end it...if you two are ment to be you will be together.......


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can you still have a good relationship when you are swingers   6/27/2004

Some pople think you can not have a good relationship when you are swingers . but i think you can as long you both are doing it together. and as long as you dont let it come between the two of you .and if it dose just remember it is just for fun and you two are forever.


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I want more than a one-shot deal REPLY   6/24/2004

You wrote: <br> > I cannot seem to make it past the first sexual episode >stage. If I like a guy, I meet him several times prior to >going the distance, and make it completely clear that I am >after more than just a one-night-stand, that what I want >is something more long lasting, if that’s possible, and >the message seems to be understood by my ...


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TastefulFun52 38 C
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Long distance thing   6/22/2004

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years, everything's great... except for the fact that we can only see each other every few months. Now that he's going off to college, we might see even less of each other. How do I deal? Should I break it off?


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can't open up   6/21/2004

i can't see to open up to my current girlfriend. I was with my ex for almost two years and after the heart break I can't seem to love again. This happen to anyone else?


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Long distance   6/20/2004

When I left Paris for Hong Kong about 10 months ago, my french gf and I decided to keep our relationship until I come back as I was only going for one year. Actually she decided and I said ok without thinking, because sometimes being honest can hurt a lot. <br> With phone calls, emails amd webcam we kept it going for 1 month. By that time I realized that calling her was just ...


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RE: SEXFinder.com is about sex, not love   6/19/2004

Very well put article, that this is a place to look for sex not love. You see people that are looking for that special someone or mister right. Yea mister right is on a different sight go find him.


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Re: Tease who needs to be tamed   6/18/2004

Buddy, I have been in your shoes... You really don't want her. You want the IDEA of you taming her. You wish you were enough of a man to be able to tame this wild woman, the tease no one can really have. Sure, maybe she'll have a boyfriend for a while, but eventually get rid of him to get back to her bad girl ways. <br> I know because I've been there. I had a friend once, a ...


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rm_darkangel66 49 M
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building a relationship   6/16/2004

I geuss Building arelationship is surposed to be hard. I find it increasinly easy to do. I have been with my fiancee for 2 years and 5 months now and i find life is easy. althoug we have childeren we seem to just coast along. I feel ppl make relationship hard as everyone has to label the relations ship they are in. MY girl friend My boy friend MY fiancee MY husband and now a days my partner ...


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littleboss1960 57 C
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Why not Plural Marriages   6/15/2004

I wonder why it seems hard to get plural marriages okayed.Do you have any coments on it at all?


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How do you know when you've reached the "next" level?   6/14/2004

We dated about four years ago and had a together. We split up for three years and had other relationships. Now we have been dating for about 8 months and are curious about others insights on relationship issues. When we started dating 8 months ago we took things very slow and became best friends first, now we're at a different place and it's really good. How do you know if it's "the one"? ...


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Re: Why is it hard to have more than one   6/13/2004

LOL, like we need more than one woman nagging us to take out the trash or tell us how to fix things, or that they want to watch something other than NASCAR... I believe that it costs quite enough to support one wife and her , let alone multiple wives and . In the Old Testament days, the number of your wives showed how much an "Alpha Male" you were. The richer you were, the more wives and ...


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armycowboyaz 42 M
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How to get out of an engagement?   6/12/2004

I met my current GF on this site and things were going great for a long time. We decided to get married after dating for only a few months, as soon as we agreed to get engaged she seemed to change into a total psycho. I want to break it off, but she has already transfered to a closer school and is getting out of her lease to move in with me. What can I do to let her know that I really ...


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thicknpeachie 45 F
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can it be   6/8/2004

i want to know can u find love on SEXFinder.com i mean if u click with someone and after a while or should i say is everybody on SEXFinder.com for sex connectionsor is anyone looking for more... i think some of us r looking for more but we should keep our eyes wide open be aware dont let ya guards down too soon


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littleboss1960 57 C
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Why Is It hard To Have More Than One   6/8/2004

Why is it hard to have more than one person for marriage.I think it is cool for a man to have more than one female as wives.Like in old testament days.What do you think.


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SimplyIslandman 71 M
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Young F Older M   6/4/2004

The question is how many younger females are out there looking for an older male for a long term relationship? What are they looking for (what's the attraction) Does the age make things hard for one or both in the relationship? <br> Your thoughts ?


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hockeydv 41 M
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Re: How far should I go   6/1/2004

I am coming from the opposite side of this scenario, however I completely understand. From a guy's point of view, it means alot when their loved one is willing to go out of their way for them. However, you have to be careful of a few things. Don't let him abuse it. He may catch on and take advantage of it by either having you do things he likes (but you don't), or by trying to go for ...


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