I enjoyed last night. I hope we can do it again.
silence
It's not me; it's him
drip
It's not me; it's him.
drip.drip
It's not me; it's him
drip.drip.drip
I wonder if it's me and not him.
drip.drip.drip.drip
How can someone not find time for sex when they have a willing partner?
drip.drip.drip.drip.drip
Good enough in a horniness emergency but not for more?
drip.drip.drip.drip. drip.drip
It must be me.
Nobody really wants a fat old woman.
Why do I bother?
Eventually, even the strongest confidence can be eroded by recurrent vanishings.
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They are jerks for treating you that way and making the you feel like its your fault. They should at least have the balls to talk to you and explain why they are breaking up.
The eroding confidence is caused by repeated (unplanned and unexpected) one night stands. Never even got off the ground to require a break-up
@superbjversion2 I think many of the men here are only looking for a one night stand, but won't be upfront about it. Believe me it is not you.
Horny dudes are like toddlers. Always wanting something new but don't want it anymore once they get it.
We both know that if I told them not to return, they'd call me names.
@superbjversion2
Yup, toddlers
I'm sorry. Some people are just jerks. That's on him.
I know you are a warm, loving woman. He does not deserve you.
Hugs!!
The key is that it isn't just one guy. Multiple times over the last year or two. Too many fuck-and-runs can shake one's confidence.
hugs my friend
I'll take those hugs!
I've been there... it sucks but I have to keep telling myself that I should talk to myself like I'd talk to a friend and I'd NEVER say "maybe it's you" to a friend. ((hugs))
While I say to myself "maybe it's me" I also add "but probably not". My confidence is eroded but not washed away!
Aging: not for the faint of heart
At least you are normal, ... well at least as normal as an intelligent person can be.
I had that description on my profile, once upon a time ... mostly normal.
I really don't think it's my age that makes the men vanish after one sexual encounter. But the recurrence erodes at my desirability confidence ... which has never been very strong.
@superbjversion2 Perhaps you can refine you selection process by developing a superhuman mind reading ability. I not aware of how one does that, but there may be some stop gap measures that can be taken in the meantime.
@SoGood2Know My temporary solution is to just stop ... no gap ... while shoring up my eroded confidence.
I'm sorry, that just sucks...and not in the good way....and it's not you, it's them....they're the idiots.
Too many 'thems' have left their mark.
I've been there, BJ, and it feels shitty! It's tough meeting good people at our age. Hugs.
They seem good until we have sex then it's POOF. Each time it happens a little more self-confidence slips away.
He's not worth your confidence to be eroded.
It takes more than one "he" to erode confidence. Every time a man does not return for more chips away at it.
Hon, may I be so bold to use that word ? If "he", any he doesn't desire your heart and capacity to give it's on them, not you. Size is like age, only a number. Just be YOU. 🤗 🤗
My heart? No. It's confidence in my sexual attraction/ability that is being eroded. By men that fuck me once and never return for more.
OUCH. Sorry babe! I certainly do understand what you're saying, though the underlying cause befuddles me as well.
I am seriously questioning my sexual desirability.